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    Ilovelamp87 is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Do I text this ex-FWB?

    Basically for like 4 monthes or so, this girl and I were "friends with benefits." Everything was going good until my inner AFC came out and I got jealous because she was hooking up with other guys because I had real feelings for her. Because of me being insecure I pushed her away. Now last Saturday I hung out with her and her friend and we all just hung out. Near the end of the night I got a bit too drunk and started to make a few moves on her, but she completely shut me and and said "friends dont do that."

    Now within that night I asked her if she wanted to hang out the next day, which she replied maybe. She did however say she definately wanted to hang out Wednesday. I texted her the next day and got no response. Im trying to show that Ive changed since we took a break from seeing eachother. So my question is, do I text her tommorrow asking if we are still meeting up, or do I wait for the text that may or may not come.

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    Default re: Do I text this ex-FWB?

    You want to restore FwB status? You have to act like you're willing to lose her. Basically you have to internalize it too

    You have 3 options - 1 don't text her until like evening when you're supposed to do something then ask her what you're doing, 2 wait for her to text you or wait for no text at all (which you have to be willing to live with and act like you forgot about it 100%).
    Or 3 - (best option). Pre-empt (sp?) any possible rejection and send her something canceling but offering to make it up to her
    Hey a few plans came up I can't hang out tonight but I def wanna chill soon

    Don't be too specific

    She's not going to expect you to cancel, do it to her and it will catch her off guard. You can set something else soon if she starts the conversation back up but stay a bit aloof
    Don't show too much interest, but when you see her ramp up the flirting

    If she throws the "friends" thing back at you, I would give her a face and say "shut it"
    If you want her you have to make her come to you. She has options, work on yours and stop putting too much effort into her

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    Ilovelamp87 is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default re: Do I text this ex-FWB?

    Thanks for the advice! I'm gunna text her on my lunch break tommorrow and use your third option, even tho I'm sure she has no intention of meeting up. When I made the plans of hanging out, it was under the guise of her teaching me to drive (pathetic I know.) I'm literally gunna just text the "h "hey plans came up, but I definately want you to teach me to drive soon" Hopefully she responds back, if not I'm gunna assume I have no chance of being "fwb" with her again. Thx again for the advice and the link for inner game!


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