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Thread: Need help building a social circle from nothing

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    Exclamation Need help building a social circle from nothing

    I'm 21 just finished uni but only managed a 3rd.

    I'm back to living with my parents again in a very small country town and there are no jobs.

    I havent had a girlfriend in years, I have no confidence to cold approach cos I don't really know what to talk to them about.

    Thats not the issue of this post though.

    My biggest problem is I have no social circle!!

    I have only 1 friend and thats it. So I am basically stuck inside all day every day with nothing to do, staring at this screen.

    So how can I build a social circle from basically scratch?

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    Default Re: Need help building a social circle from nothing

    Be more positive! No doubt you have loads going for you but you choose to tell us you got a disappointing degree result. Why would we want to know this? Being positive will draw people to you imo, being negative will drive them away.

    Perhaps you will meet some people on here locally. Its worth trying. Another thing you could do is to try and meet people with similar interests. There are often groups meeting up regularly to talk about their shared interest.

    I do sympathise as I have been in this situation myself and its not easy.

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    Default Re: Need help building a social circle from nothing

    you could go out with your friend to the clubs or bars or anywere and chat with random groups of people, you could also approach girls and Friendzone them on purpose, and later ask them to go out with you and your friend..
    that way you will have some females in the social circle, they will have other friends which will introduce you to, and they can also help you with approaching other girls
    The Worst thing I can be is the same as everybody else. I'd Hate that!

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    Default Re: Need help building a social circle from nothing

    I started rebuilding my social circle by starting online.
    Chatting with girls near me & building rapport to the point they just "HAD TO" meet me.

    Then going out with them & meeting their friends, as well as meeting other people while I was out.

    I kept doing that for a little bit & before I knew it, I had dozens of names & numbers in my phone, with people buzzing me to hang out.

    Just like RedHeat said, be positive for sure.
    And just have fun.

    A few months ago I was spending all my time at home by myself, complaining that I had nothing to do, nowhere to go, & nobody to do it with.

    But when I started talking to that first girl & we clicked... it was a spark that ignited a bomb!

    The only thing that makes it difficult is, your own way of thinking about it.
    If you're putting limitations on yourself, it's just extra, unnecessary pressure to have to work through.

    But if you flashback to when you were a kid; (when your imagination allowed you to think anything was possible) you can bring that same state of mind to your current situation.


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    Default Re: Need help building a social circle from nothing

    Quote Originally Posted by RedHeat View Post
    Be more positive! No doubt you have loads going for you but you choose to tell us you got a disappointing degree result. Why would we want to know this? Being positive will draw people to you imo, being negative will drive them away.

    Perhaps you will meet some people on here locally. Its worth trying. Another thing you could do is to try and meet people with similar interests. There are often groups meeting up regularly to talk about their shared interest.

    I do sympathise as I have been in this situation myself and its not easy.
    Couldn't have said it better myself. Plus be more of a leader. Get better at PU, and go out and meet people.
    "The world will never change much less become what you want it to be. The only thing that can change is you. Face your fears, grow stronger and become what you want to be."
    _Xavier.

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    Default Re: Need help building a social circle from nothing

    You will be fine. Ask yourself a few questions...

    Do you meet people while staying inside at home?

    What activities do you like to do while out?

    Is there people that do these similar activities?

    Go out to places and walk around with a smile on your face and say hello, start conversations.

    Meetup.com can be a good source to find people in your area.

    7 conversation topics that will help you learn about people and build a social circle are...

    1. When you were kids

    2. What are they passionate about

    3. The people surrounding you?

    4. There ambitions

    5. Her travels

    6. Your life lessons

    7. Thoughts on pop culture and current events.

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    Default Re: Need help building a social circle from nothing

    Hey eternal, this I can help you with! A few ideas are: start going to local sporting events, like local baseball games or w.e, join a beer league ( regular Ppl who play a certain sport on teams), join a club that your interested in! Maybe take a cooking class! Another good one is becoming a blood donor; most ppl donate blood by themselves and chatting it up with ppl is easy!! Trust me on the last idea, one of my best friends I've met at a blood clinic. I'm telling you, if you take any one of my ideas, u will me some friends, and maybe evena few girls!
    Best of luck, and let us know if any of this helps!

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    Default Re: Need help building a social circle from nothing

    Damn ILoveLamp, i was going to say that. Oh well. I built my social circle from swimming, visiting my brother, just helping people out at ice skating etc. And remember, when ever anyone asks you to join them in a group you don't know, that's the perfect opportunity to expand your circle.

    So recap: join a club or gathering or actually anything really. Never be negative and you'll get friends. We're all here to help you


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