Been reading the stuff on this website and putting it into practice, and I thought things were going great, building attraction, etc. until...
OK, bit of background.
Girl at work. We both sit in the staff room at lunch with some other work colleagues (past six months now). Conversation is usually random, but when I look at her during the conversation, she locks eye contact with me and then we talk as if there is no one else in the room (although some of the others are part of the conversation). Her body language is pointing/open towards mine. She regularly preens her hair during talking, and if it falls into her face she moves it to show her full face.
I DHV with stories related to the topic of conversation; things I have done, places I have been, interesting adventures with mates, stories about ex-gf's, etc. She also knows I am higher value because of my job/position/responsibility/qualifications, etc. I also disagree with her if I have a different opinion on what she is saying.
I have escalated kino from touching her arm initially to now guiding her out the door with my hand on her lower back (with no resistance). Last week I kino'd with a tattoo she had on her upper leg by pushing her skirt up to view it and then touched it several times while commenting on it. Again all the while not observing any resistance or uncomfortableness from her (she let me touch/stroke her upper leg!).
She started to instant message me at work about two months ago and regularly opens me when she sees me sign in during the morning. So I ask her (Thursday) to come with me to a thing I know she enjoys. She says she will let me know which day she is free the following day (Friday). She doesn't, so I pull her up about in on the Monday. She says that she was waiting for me to ask her (again??). I said that I was waiting for her response on which day she could go. She said sorry, I should not be so polite in the future. So I leave it a few weeks and then be more direct by telling her to meet me 'day, time, place' for a few drinks. She says she can't because she is moving into a new apartment and has no money, but that I can come over when she moves in. Also, says that she will bring me out around her new apartment, as there is some good places to drink.
So I thought things were going good until:...in our latest IM conversation she was talking about one of her male friends who pi$$es her off for being a AFC. So I ask:
me: what do you find attractive in a man/bf then?
her: hmmmmmmmm why are u asking me this?
me: why not?
her: people only ask that when they are interested in someone
her: and u are my friend
(THOSE DREDDED WORDS!!)
me: are u going to answer the question?
her: no, it's not relevant.
So what happened here? What did I do wrong? How do I get out of the 'friend zone' with this one?
Sorry if this is long. Just wanted to give you all as much info. as possible, so that you could all give me some feedback, which I value.
Thanks in advance