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    Unhappy Too Much Interest or Not Enough Interest

    Hello PUA Forum,

    Recently I've started to feel like I'm erring in the direction of not showing enough interest. I'm realizing that if I don't send out enough IOIs these gals are going to lose interest and move along. Thankfully I've gotten past #-closing, and I'm working to build more attraction and comfort during the initial approach.

    This is more about the process of setting up D2, D3 & D4. I guess it is also phone and text game. I'm working to find enough balance between "too much interest" (creepy/needy) and "not enough interest" (He's Just Not That Into You). Have other people discussed this "not enough interest" issue?

    My wing PUA Oman loves to text back and forth with the gals that he's met to continue to build attraction and comfort. I've gotten into the habit of only using the phone (text and call) to set up D2s. I'm an avid texter, so this feels very unnatural for me. Normally I text with my friends from when I wake up until whenever I fall asleep depending on what's happening with my day. Should I try to be more congruent with my natural style? I'm feeling that texting her all day comes across as DLV, beta and needy.

    Last weekend I was reading about the so-called "3-day rule." I think that my favorite entry is the one from Urban Dictionary mocking the concept. On Monday I #-closed a couple of gals and started texting with the very next day. That being said, today is three-days out, and I still haven't called or established a day 2 with any of them. I wish that I could provide some better questions, but I'm really hoping to move my game from #-closes (I don't need any more #s) to D2s, D3s and D4s.

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    Default Re: Too Much Interest or Not Enough Interest

    You seem to be improving like clockwork. Impressive.

    I don't think it's a bad idea to text like you normally do. There is a line that you reach that if you cross it and text her for too long without setting up a meet date then she may get comfortable with just texting you. On the other hand attraction is like a flame that needs to be fed. So only using text game to set a meet could kill attraction after about a week or two. Feel her out and make your best judgement on how much to text her. Some basic rules are to end the convo first, try to leave your messages shorter than hers, and respond in the time it took her to respond to you.

    If you are following Mystery Method then it should be familiar that you can actually calibrate your IOIs with IODs. For instance if you are talking to her ...."Wow I'd love for us to get together." This runs the risk of conveying too much interest if she is not attracted to you yet. But you can soften your IOI with "...but I think we would get into too much trouble so it's not worth it."

    Sometimes I will text a woman with....

    Me: "Omg I miss you!"

    Her: "Aww, I miss you to."
    Her: "Aw that's sweet."
    Her: "Lol ok"

    Me: "...or maybe it's just gas."

    Once she is open with her attraction towards you then you can relax and feel free to be open with yours as well without overdoing it. Still throw in a couple of these here and there to mix it up.

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    Default Re: Too Much Interest or Not Enough Interest

    Yup, yup, I definitely think that all of the attraction that I've been building is stalling with my lack of messaging her. I'm open to meeting someone who doesn't have the same communication style as me, but ideally I'd like to meet up with someone who enjoys texting through out the week.

    I got frustrated with texting after trying in vain to make plans with a gal who would only send me two texts per day: one in the morning and one in the evening. I probably should have cut my losses earlier with her, but she's an actress in the community theater scene and she'd just moved to the area so I thought I had the perfect opportunity to connect.

    That left a bad taste in my mouth, so I've been doing the opposite with the current gal (HB Geeky). After our first date I texted her saying that I had a good time. But then I got caught up and waited four days before calling her to make plans for another date. That went well, so I called and left a voice mail two days later. She emailed me saying that she had family visiting from out of town this past weekend. I wrote back to her email, and then I tried to just give her space. I finally texted her on Sunday. She wrote back right away, but we still haven't made plans.

    Most of the gals that I meet at the bars and clubs seem like the types to play games. That's why I found HB Geeky so refreshing. She's been completely authentic with me, but it's looking like I'm going to have to call her today to try to make this happen.

    Many of the mPUAs talk about how to get "girls to chase you." I haven't had this happen except with girls are either unattractive or crazy. If the gal is hot enough and smart enough that I want her, it seems to keep winding up that I'll be the one putting in the consistent effort to make it happen.

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    Default Re: Too Much Interest or Not Enough Interest

    I think you should get into Swinggcats Real World Seduction. He is the master at push/pull and his techniques work great on HB9s and HB10s. And yes I call party girls fireflies since they are distracted easily by the brightest light and becomes tricky to get their attention back on you.

    P.S. Stay away from women who smoke weed. They are the worst kind of fireflies lol.

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    Default Re: Too Much Interest or Not Enough Interest

    Normally Thursday night is just another sarging night. Last night I intentionally stay in to study theory. I realized that I've been doing a great job of using PUA material on D1. However, text game, phone game and D2s I was switching back into AFC mode. I have some classic CF material from David DeAngelo, but I need to find something that is congruent for me.

    I'm definitely a high energy guy, but it's exhausting to always be teasing and playing games with these party girls. Like most AFCs who find themselves in the friend zone with countless women, I really enjoy comfort building. I was reading over a PUA manual by Decibel, and he pointed out that "nice guys" don't need to work on the Comfort stage. I appreciate the advice, BatMan.

    "Don't be the moth. Be the flame."


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