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    My girl and I have been going through problems and I have definitely become needy as a result fearing I would lose her...anyhow we were supposed to go on vacation... but she cancelled and now her daughter is going with her instead ... she is going in the next few days and I am looking forward to 12 days of freedom and not seeking her approval ... I would NOT like to lose her long term but I am thinking of dumping her before she leaves ... Is this a good idea ? It would free me up to be with other women ... and maybe give her something to think about..she totally takes me for granted and that is my fault...need advice fast ...within 24 hours..

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    Default Re: Should I break up with her ...

    We have far too little background information on the history of the two of you to give you any real advice. Dumping her while you were afraid to lose her would be an improvement on your part, because it will teach you that you can let go and it won't be that bad - which will help you become less needy in future relationships.

    However, we can not make any kind of decision this size for you. You have to look within yourself to find out whether or not you'd like to stay with her or leave her. Let that be priority number one. Should you decide to leave her, being with other women will definitely take your mind off her.

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    Default Re: Should I break up with her ...

    Thanks for your response. Just a little about the back ground. We met last Sept so we have been going out nearly a year. She was very much into me at the start ... she had been separated from her ex hubby for 7 years .. and she 'wished he would move on' ... well he eventually did and this shook her. She did not see me the same afterwards and the power moved to her ... I have been playing catch up since ... btw ..she is a hot woman ...and can meet men very easily ... she is now a bully to me though ..and I hate it ... but I do have a fear of losing her I suppose I need to get over it.. There is another girl who is interested in me .... was just wondering would I potentially make her feel like she did at the start by ending it now ..giving her some time to miss me while on vacation .??

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    Default Re: Should I break up with her ...

    Virgil is right. This is a big decision we can't make for you. If it helps then I suggest you make a simple pro/cons list. It may help. And also make sure that if you do decide to break up with her that it's not to get a reaction to get her to chase you, but because you genuinely think it will not work out in the long run and think you both would be better with other people. Hope this helps and good luck.

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    Default Re: Should I break up with her ...

    Hey Thanks that is good advice. I guess I am thinking of dumping her so I won't be thinking of her while she away... an so that I can freely hook up with some other girls .. I know it sounds selfish .. but she does give me a hard time and she is going through a tough time .. not sure if she loves me although she says she does...

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    Default Re: Should I break up with her ...

    P.S. I am not asking whether I should break up although i may have said that ... I can make that decision myself ..but I do want advice ...thanks everyone ..

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    Default Re: Should I break up with her ...

    This may sound cliche, but still holds true after all these years we have known about it. Actions speak louder than words. And I can understand the frustration of her going away. You may even be thinking she might do something with someone else. Just understand we can't control people. They will do what they want in the end. Only thing you can do is control yourself so then you can influence the people around you.

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    Default Re: Should I break up with her ...

    Yes .. we are meeting tonight for drinks and I may wait and see how that goes ... I am driving her to the airport she has planned an afternoon in a hotel for us prior to her leaving ... so I am getting mixed signals all the time ... I am generally successful with women .. but tend to fall into a routine and become needy as it is nice having a regular girlfriend... I want to be free of this neediness... and meet a girl who really wants me ... like she did at the start ..

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    Default Re: Should I break up with her ...

    I'm sorry but I say dump her at the airport. Let no one take u for granted ever no matter what the reasons are. As for the neediness thing u have to work on you're inner game and be more indepandent to free urself of that.
    "The world will never change much less become what you want it to be. The only thing that can change is you. Face your fears, grow stronger and become what you want to be."
    _Xavier.

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    Default Re: Should I break up with her ...

    Thanks Man. That i what I was thinking of doing .. it sounds a bit mean though .. I may do without the sex. I can have that on Monday with another girl I have bee chatting with. I think I will end it prior to her leaving .... I just need to get it right in my head which I am doing. Any tips on getting the inner game right ? I have trying out some affirmations ... is this a good way ?

    By the way thank you all for your great comments.. this has been very helpful.. cheers.


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