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Thread: I'm a 20 year old virgin, never kissed, or even hugged a girl

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    Default I'm a 20 year old virgin, never kissed, or even hugged a girl

    I'm a 20 year old male and I am still a virgin, never had a girlfriend. I never kissed or help hands with a girl. I feel like a pathetic loser who wasted his teenage years away. I have social anxiety disorder which makes it difficult for me to make friends and virtually impossible for me to get a girlfriend. I feel like if I don't have one soon I am never going to have one. I am even considering suicide because I don't want to be alone forever.

    I tried forcing myself to be more social with people especially girls but I never know what to say, and I get so nervous, I have a hard time keeping their attention. I tell myself to be more social but I end doing the same habits. I get so depressed when i'm out in public and I see couples holding hands and kissing especially if they are younger than me. I have very good hygiene and I wear nice clothes, but no girl has ever shown interest in me.

    Its coming to the point where I am considering a prostitute, I know some people say its wrong to pay for sex but you always pay for it when you take a girl out on dates, or buy her gifts. This POF stuff seems to be a lot of random advice but really no step by step process.
    Please help me POF community!

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    Default Re: I'm a 20 year old virgin, never kissed, or even hugged a girl

    Do you have friends you can go out with? Do you really want to have sex with a nasty ass ratchet prostitute? No you dont. You will regret that.

    Girls are human just as much as you and I are and you may feel awakward around them at first but if you get more social you will become more comfortable talking with them. Go out with friends and have them bring friends of friends that are female that you can talk to. Talk to the woman at stores, gas stations etc. if you keep talking eith them you will become less awkward around them and this will make you feel a lot better. I know because i was in the same situation as you a few years ago. Go out with friends and have a good time man.

    Also being single is an amazing life. You get to do what you want when you want with no hassle. Also suicide is never the option, you will never meet women that way

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    Default Re: I'm a 20 year old virgin, never kissed, or even hugged a girl

    Hold a sign saying"FREE HUGS", mate the best way to find out about women and undersatnd them, is to freind them first, once you have been around them enough you start gaming other women, friending them will make you comfortable with communicating with the opposite sex and can really help you understand about all the melodramatic emotional insecuritys they have, you need to loose a fraction of your logical mind when dealling with women, one your comfortable communicating with the opposite sex, then you start gaming them.

    Hope i helped

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    Men, we need to value our time more then we value women. This isn't to say women are not valuable. But who are we to believe in something so illogical, as men we should realize that without our time(life), we would not even be able to pursue women, but only our mother who gave us life. Why do we think we should prioritize them over our time(life) unless she is the one who gives me/my children life. Man is Sovereignty.

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    Default Re: I'm a 20 year old virgin, never kissed, or even hugged a girl

    You should read some of the recommended material on this site thats your step one. The reason why alot of people are successful is because of the constant practice we are put through. You need to practice being around people, you dont have social anxiety disorder your just shy. Dude you need to change your perception of your self, your not "a pathetic loser" get over that mindset or your screwed. Check out the reading material thats recommened it'll help I promise, its helping me.
    Take her off that farking pedestal!

    “The truth does not change according to our ability to stomach it.”
    ― Flannery O'Connor

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    Default Re: I'm a 20 year old virgin, never kissed, or even hugged a girl

    start by online dating, start with lower quality women and move up from there. there are a lot of online dating guides, read them, build a good profile and start making friends.
    you are good, I was virgin until 22.
    If it frightens you, Do It!

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    Default Re: I'm a 20 year old virgin, never kissed, or even hugged a girl

    I have 3 friends and they don't like going to bars and clubs. I don't want my first time to be with a prostitute, but I doubt I will ever get with a normal girl any time soon.

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    Default Re: I'm a 20 year old virgin, never kissed, or even hugged a girl

    I'm not sure if your still having these problems but in case you are i wanted to help. Did you ever stop and think "hey maybe girls have the exact same problems?"

    I joined this website just so I could reply to your post but I have a feeling its not for girls...

    anyways I'm 19 same problems as you have or had, not sure. Still a virgin, never had a "real" boyfriend, never had a real kiss, never held hands seriously, etc. I don't make NEW friends easily unless they approach me first same as you I'm extremely shy around guys my age period.

    I have the same anxieties as you but in a different sense. I'm worried if I don't have a serious relationship soon I'll end up a creepy old cat lady. I mean they don't have the stereotype for nothing...

    Its not that I'm some super ugly beast and even if I was I've seen plenty of ugly people in happy relationships. It could be because I'm fat but even though I'm fat my face is still extremely attractive and plus there are tons of fat people in happy relationships too. So like you I don't get why if I wear nice clothes and have good hygiene, no one pays attention.

    Anyways the whole point of me telling you all this was not to bring you down but to tell you your not the only one that feels the way you do.

    Most days I try to push these thoughts to my sub conscience so I can make it through the day and hope that maybe this is the day ill find someone that like me for me.

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    Default Re: I'm a 20 year old virgin, never kissed, or even hugged a girl

    Kay, forums are for everyone.

    You know your main problem: your attitude.

    First thing: change your mentality.

    A suggestion: watch the film "The Secret".

    An experience: 3 years ago I had never had any physical contact with a girl and I was about to die because of a health disorder. Had the scrawniest look and I had lost all of my friends because of my health condition.

    Never have I considered suicide. I forced a change. 3 years after I'm getting wow's because of my physique, I've been dating successfully.

    Don't overlook the power of the mind. You are telling us and yourself there's no way out. I tell you there is, so long you tell yourself there is.

    Love yourself and be loved in return. Instead of focusing on your flaws, focus on your qualities.

    Feel free to inbox me and I can give you details of my past experiences if it helps you in any way.

    Be strong,

    Jok3r
    Veni, vidi, vici.


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