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    Default 3 ?'s re my 3 HBs

    Looking for feedback on these points:

    How far in advance can you start making weekend plans? It seems like people in my city don't like to plan anything definitive for Fri/Sat until at the soonest Wed/Thurs. I'm a busy guy with a full social, work and volunteer schedule, so it's frustrating to wait until Wednesday to start putting together my weekend plans. A couple of times nothing has come together because it's all too last minute to get the details in a row.

    How do you negotiate inviting multiple HBs to the same event? I don't have that much free time on the weekends. I'm working swing shift many Fridays and Saturdays. I've extend the same invitation to HB Neon and HB Target. The voice mails were intentionally vague about where to meet so that I can just make plans with whoever gets back to me first. If HB Target say let's do (Friday), I'll tell HB Neon that (Friday) doesn't work anymore "How about (Saturday)?"

    After getting HB Target's number at the Monday salsa social, I number-closed another girl. I don't think that she noticed, but it felt like it was in very bad form. Rather than following her like a puppy dog, I made sure to dance with other girls and be a social butterfly between talking with her. That felt fine and seemed to build her interest in me. #-closing another gal with her still there. That didn't feel right. Any thoughts?

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    Default Re: 3 ?'s re my 3 HBs

    it has to be a big social gathering for people to plan ahead. If its a house party, people wont plan for it and wait til the last minute to go or not. So try planning for massive party's and see if that gets people planning ahead.

    I wouldn't invite multiply HB's to the same event, unless they were friends. Seems like some drama could come out of that. You did the right thing with vague details. Go ahead and plan for different days with each HB.

    Im not sure what you mean in bad form, but I would say you did nothing wrong. She saw you dancing with other HB's, so you were DHV. She might bring it up if you go out with her, like "you're a bit of a player aren't you?" just say " is it that obvious?" and move on to another topic. I see no problem here, so you should be ok.

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    Default Re: 3 ?'s re my 3 HBs

    Regarding planning ahead or not, I guess it is my choice if I want to accept reality or keep fighting to change the world around me. I lived overseas, and I can remember some epic struggles trying to change the culture around me. I'll have to get used to keeping plans vague while keeping some back up plans in my back pocket in case other plans/people fall through. I'm not much for lone wolf sarging, so I like to arrange stuff with at least one wing or pivot.

    I've decided to friend-zone a couple of the HBs, so it's not as complicated anymore. If I'm going to get a rotation going (read MLTR), then I agree that I'll have to keep the girls apart to avoid that drama. As long as I'm honest about who I am, I don't need to get into details about what happens with whom while they aren't around.

    During my many years of AFCism, I would only have a "crush" on one girl at a time. It's a big jump to go from exclusively crushing on one girl at a time to actively pursuing and #-closing multiple girls in one night. I've def gotten the "you're a bit of a player" comment before. The first time that I went out really sarging with a group of PUAs I got that comment from a really attractive, well-traveled gal. It certainly made me chuckle.


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