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    Default Awkward social situations

    So here's the deal. Ive been casually dating this girl and she took me to this pool party at her friends house. She goes to her friend's house every year for this party. It was a good night until towards the end I found out that last year(when she was single) some guy made a fool out of her and shoved her into the pool. He also shoved a bunch of other girls in too. I was kind of disturbed to hear of this becuase I think shoving a woman into the pool is a disrespectful thing to do. So I got kinda pissed but I kept quiet. So low and behold this jackass shows up again and acts drunk and beligerent. He tried to get mouthy with me and I was tempted to put him on his ass being I am much bigger, younger and stronger. He knew to leave me alone.
    So later that night he came over to a group of us and told us he said how he wanted to shove the birthday girl in the pool. My girl heard this and didnt even tell him not to do that to her friend. She told me she didnt like having that done to her, but she certainly had no problem seeing that happen to her good friend. My question is should I have whipped the guy's ass or told him off? My second question is why do you think my girl would want to see a mean prank play on her friend?...it doesnt make sense. How does a good PUA deal with a drunk arrogant jerk, becuase I understand fighting is socially awkward. Am I wrong for even getting pissed? Thanks guys

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    Default Re: Awkward social situations

    I'd say.... Stay out of it.
    Period.

    Girls don't want to be "punked"... but they LOVE seeing other people get punked. (Even their best friends!)

    It's kinda twisted, I know.... but unless you had a specific personal reason for doing so (other than, some girl mentioning a story) I'd say it's best to totally remove yourself from that situation, & divert the attention elsewhere.


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    Default Re: Awkward social situations

    Do you think I am wrong to feel pissed over another guy who made a fool out of my girl like that? I don't even understand why I got so irritated. Have you ever been at a party and there is always that one guy, who is just an ass? How do you suggest dealing with that. Better yet, what if that guy 'punked' my girl in front of me? I just want to be prepared on how to handle situtations like this. I do like you feedback about girl mentality.

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    Default Re: Awkward social situations

    Here's how I handle those situations:

    If a girl tells me about a PAST experience involving some a$$hole, and then he shows up later.... I simply "go alpha" & make the decision that she & I are leaving and gong elsewhere; without making a big deal out of it.

    But if ANYONE gets out of line physically, or even verbally threatens the safety of my girl/friends/family..etc... Then I'm gonna throw down!

    I'm not a fight instigator by any means. BUT.. I know how to fight. AND.. even more importantly, I know WHEN / When NOT TO fight.

    It's a LOT less trouble to eject from a situation that hints at trouble before it happens; than it is to get out of it after it's already started.

    Just remember, Chicks LOVE drama. Even though they say they don't.

    It;'s the same reason they say "I just want a nice guy who will treat me like a princess, & buy me flowers & blah blah blah..." They don't always state the obvious.




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    Default Re: Awkward social situations

    I've been out of the game long enough that, in practice, I'm rusty. Nowhere near a master.

    But I know enough to call this one; YOU COME FIRST. She wants to play her games with others, let her. Don't play them yourself. You make your own rules and you put yourself first. If she's not your girl and it's just a prank between supposed friends, stay out of it. If it's a guy getting physically violent toward a girl, then it's a different matter. But this kind of harmless "disrespect" as you put it? It's nothing but drama.

    And you don't need the drama.

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    Default Re: Awkward social situations

    She wasn't yours when it happened to her, so you have no right to get involved. At that point in time, that guy was closer to her than you were. Now if it happens you your girl, you have the right to whip ass, but if it doesn't concern you or your girl, don't get involved... If you really feel strongly, talk to him about it, but don't stick your nose into other peoples' business.

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    Angry Re: Awkward social situations

    Alcohol makes people act stupid and aggressive. I agree that you shouldn't be getting mixed up in her old, dirty laundry. If her abusive ex-boyfriend showed up to the party, would you kick his ass too? Generally it works out to just ignore the jerk if you are both sober. He was drunk, so I agree with tmalonetn that the alpha response would've been to leave. Once either party starts to verbally escalate, it makes sense to leave.

    Physical violence isn't going to get you anywhere. She's probably not going to be impressed either (and her friends are likely to be pissed off at you for escalating the situation). An alpha should be able to solve these situations diplomatically using his words. A MeatHead (muscular beta) is going to resort to violence.

    It's tough to keep a level-head when drunks are trying to stir-up drama at a party, especially if you're family, friend, etc are the targets. I've known far too many people who carried weapons to want to start a fight with a stranger. You might've been able to take him in a fight, but it sounds like you were on his home turf meaning that he likely has a possy to back him up.

    Slightly more than two-cents from a guy who doesn't like stupid bar fights.


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