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    Default finally started to approach but failing :/

    hiya, so i have read the game, lots of articles and threads on these forums, but im still gonna ask this (even though its been asked already i think)

    CLUB GAME:

    few months ago i never approached a girl, but now i defeated a lot AA (not completely - still hesitant when its like hb9/10 but with 8 and less its ok),

    the first thing i do, is to increase my social proof when i enter a club, being the alpha male and having a small smile on my face and a good posture..

    its time to make my move, walk around the club, see a girl, go talk to her .. usually a simple 'hey' and sometimes a cheesy pickup line..
    the problem is, like 3/4 of them reject me immediately, (no big of a deal though), with the remaining 1/4 of the approaches, i end up ruining everything because i don't know what to talk about which will make her attracted to me and not like a boring interview "questions about where you from, how old etc etc" (AFC after the approach)

    so any help pls?
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    Default Re: finally started to approach but failing :/

    brianborg,

    Be more confident, and don't use "cheesy" pick up lines, because unless the only that exists between you and the girl is ridiculous amounts of sexual chemistry, this is NOT going to work.

    Looks to me you're not comfortable in your own shoes first, so it's going to be tough to convince others of that.

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    Default Re: finally started to approach but failing :/

    Quote Originally Posted by brianborg View Post
    hiya, so i have read the game, lots of articles and threads on these forums, but im still gonna ask this (even though its been asked already i think)

    CLUB GAME:

    few months ago i never approached a girl, but now i defeated a lot AA (not completely - still hesitant when its like hb9/10 but with 8 and less its ok),

    the first thing i do, is to increase my social proof when i enter a club, being the alpha male and having a small smile on my face and a good posture..

    its time to make my move, walk around the club, see a girl, go talk to her .. usually a simple 'hey' and sometimes a cheesy pickup line..
    the problem is, like 3/4 of them reject me immediately, (no big of a deal though), with the remaining 1/4 of the approaches, i end up ruining everything because i don't know what to talk about which will make her attracted to me and not like a boring interview "questions about where you from, how old etc etc" (AFC after the approach)

    so any help pls?
    You came to the right place, my friend.


    And we actually were just talking about some of those issues in a thread earlier today. I listed some of my own personal techniques for combating anxiety. (click here)

    But you might find some of the ideas useful.


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    Default Re: finally started to approach but failing :/

    so, as you just said, you are improving.. you went from having AA to reducing it and in a few more approaches it will vanish, so well done on that bro

    now for the club game and after approach..

    there's actually some steps you need to follow in order to get the girl..
    1) Approach (you are on this one)
    2) Build Attraction (her attracted to you and vice versa)
    3) Comfort
    4) Close

    Step 1:
    The Approach needs to be made with Confidence, Good Voice Tonality, Good Posture. Usually if your body language indicates a FALSE Time Constraint, it decreases the pressure, because she won't think you're going to stay there all night Negs also go after the opening and sometimes are even used as the Opener itself..

    Step 2:
    Building Attraction is the hardest part of all, because you need to be the AMOG, DHV by humor or Magic Tricks, be funny and use the Push-Pull Technique - so she gets attracted to you.
    Once you know she's attracted to you (with IOI'S), you can start letting her know a little that you're attracted to her aswell (not so much though)

    Step 3:
    Comfort can be made by using The Cube, The ESP Routine, The question Game and finally get a bit KINO..

    Step 4:
    Usually when KINO is done correctly, you can go for the Kiss close or get her number


    If you want more, you got to repeat Steps 2-4 in a more intimate way, to get her even more attracted to you, and she wants more, just get more physical until you get the close you want to.. OFCOURSE if she doesn't want.. dont pressure her

    Thats it bro, Enjoy nightlife!

    EDIT: @tmalonetn wow, easy link there haha.. rewrote everything me :/ (dumbass haha)
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    Default Re: finally started to approach but failing :/

    @dandylion.. actually i am confortable, and thats why my AA decreased

    @tmalonetn and bobat6 thx a lot guys really appriciate the help
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    Default Re: finally started to approach but failing :/

    You're welcome bro!
    And I also meant to say something else.

    Never think of it as "failure"...
    Just look at it as, learning another way NOT to do something.

    It definitely starts to become easier & more natural the more you stick with it.


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    Default Re: finally started to approach but failing :/

    I would suggest that you talk to everyone in the club. Just walk around talking to people, high fives and showing that you are just out to have a good time. People notice you when you do this. The more attention you get the more attractive you look. This will give your target a sense of comfort if she has seen you walking around talking to people. She will not feel like you have singled her out for an approach and it will lower her bitch defense.

    If you have a problem keeping the conversation going without making it seem like an interview. Keep the conversation short and close quickly. Get in with an opener, carry on by building some rapport, and then close with confidence, eye contact, and visual sexual interest.


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