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    Arrow How to talk to HB10 NDR with depression?

    Hey guys, i know i'm troubling you a lot with my problems.
    But these days, i seriously need experts' help.

    Because the girl i'm about is a HB10 NDR, and depressed.
    She seems like she doesn't want me to like her, get interested in her etc.

    I think i'm doing right, whatever tmalonetn, xavier and Pandora's Box say. But i can't get through her wall of defense anyways. There must be somebody with experience of talking to a depressed girl. Note : she is 16, a teen. Has a few friends and has hung out with really few boys.

    Here my conversation is:
    ..
    ... (one week's chat, friendly in the begining, but warming up)

    Notes before : i'm not talking in English, but almost could tell what i said. To dizzy someone, i'm not sure if there's something like this in English language, it means to sweep someone's feet off

    Me:So, what are you doing tomorrow?
    Her: I'm going to meet a friend of mine.
    Me: A girl or a boy?
    Her: I hate this question. If a boy, will you say "do not meet" ?!

    Me: Nope I'm gonna be in Kadıköy tomorrow, and probably you are, too. If a boy, i wouldn't like to bother you. If a girl, i think we can eat ice-cream then

    Her: But i'm not going to be in Kadıköy.
    Me: Ok, but in your leissure, you ought to make me feel happy coming with me somewhere beautiful
    Her: I don't have to
    Me:But i need you to be with me
    Her: Silly reason.
    Me:its not. we haven't met yet and even when i imagine you,
    i feel dizzy

    Her: you are overstating
    Me: no, you don't notice what you do
    Her: i don't do anything, how can i know
    Me: thank you for doing nothing than but its not enough
    Her: I think to feel dizzy about somebody you met on internet is unreasonable. So you can stop yourself, i think.

    Mekk.. you caught me you're not dizzying me, but if you don't stop being so cute, then i will feel that way
    Her: I don't want you to be interested in me or feel dizzy, so i can try any ways not to be cute. can be unlovely



    I'm stuck here. As you see, she is like a fallen helicopter and i'm trying to fly that baby again. And YOU guys, are the Instructions Book that a pilot cannot even find

    Help me please Thanks in advance..

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    Default Re: How to talk to HB10 NDR with depression?

    I’m not good at being nice about this stuff, so this is me letting you know that I mean well.

    Note : She is 16.

    How old are you. Because if you are 18 or older, stop. Seriously.

    Me: A girl or a boy?

    This was a DLV.

    Actually, I’m just going to stop right here. You’re being beta. You aren’t leading in the least. She is clearly in charge here. Girls with depression want a strong man more than ever. Be that man.

    [Edit: She’s 16. I don’t even know if what I just said is applicable.]
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    Default Re: How to talk to HB10 NDR with depression?

    I doubt it, too. But i can't say "we can solve your problems together" or " you are depressed, i know" etc.

    I'm going to be the man, ok and i'm 16, too. But not trying to sleep with her as you see i love her.

    But bigger problem, i don't know what to say next. can you help me about it?

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    Default Re: How to talk to HB10 NDR with depression?

    Most people feel more value for things they feel they have earned. She undoubtedly feels that your interest in her is not genuine because she hasn't done anything to earn your interest other than be beautiful. This is not the way to go.

    You have to make her feel that your interested in more than her looks, but only AFTER she is attracted to YOU. Which at this point may be impossible unless you distance yourself for awhile. And by awhile, I mean a few months, which does not guarantee anything.

    You are 16 so I wouldn't worry too much about this stuff right now. You have plenty of time and you are going to make mistakes regardless, so it's better to do them while you are young so when you are finally in your 20's you will already know what to do. Hope this helps and good luck.

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    Default Re: How to talk to HB10 NDR with depression?

    Hi byetovice,

    How do you know that this girl is depressed? Has she told you?

    I ask because from the answers that she is giving you, it does not appear to me that she is depressed. People who are depressed 'generally' do not socialise or want to be around people. Sometimes they don't even want to speak to people. They have no will; no motivation. Sometimes they don't want/can't even be bothered getting out of bed because of the way they feel! Yet, this girl is saying that she is going out to meet a friend and is responding to you.

    Like Cody said, you are acting beta and it just appears to me from her answers that she is not interested in you.

    You are stating things to her such as:

    'she should make you feel happy by coming with you somewhere' and
    'that you need her to be with you'.

    These statements sound very needy and that you are putting her up on a pedestal. Should it not be the other way round, i.e. you DHV by stating that you would make her feel happy?!?!

    If she dosen't know you or even met you yet, then you are more that likely going to/have scared her away already.

    I think you might have freaked her out. She sounds very defensive in her answers to you because what you are saying to her sounds unrealistic and is too full-on.
    "Named must your fear be before banish it you can."

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    Default Re: How to talk to HB10 NDR with depression?

    Ok man. I've never met her. I remember the time i heard her name first. I was 14 and her friend had told me she could make her my girlfriend She had accepted too, but after she told me that to talk to somebody on internet and then meeting him is not safe, and not good.

    She is playing the same game.Now i'm going to
    -Be not needy
    -Try to make her believe i can make her feel happy
    -Appear to be trying to be good friends or something else with her making her laugh and talking about fun things.

    -Read more topics about DHV

    But i don't think what i do will change anything unless i get through her wall of defense. I said these things but don't know exactly what to do in fact.

    Now should i answer like this? : "you seem to be sad for something. and i'm gonna help you feel happy again"

    or

    "stop this, because you can't hurt me anyway. but you're decreasing your value this way."

    or.. i don't know

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    Default Re: How to talk to HB10 NDR with depression?

    -u don't love her, u feel that u can't have her so u want her even more
    -none of the above, why don't u get it? don't be intrested don't tell her i wanna save u ........
    -wake up from this fantasie ure having of u saving her and her loving u 4ever for it
    -i think batman is right u should distance urself from her
    "The world will never change much less become what you want it to be. The only thing that can change is you. Face your fears, grow stronger and become what you want to be."
    _Xavier.

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    Default Re: How to talk to HB10 NDR with depression?

    You are right Ok, i will distance myself from her. But can you give me some idea about making attraction and DHV ?

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    Default Re: How to talk to HB10 NDR with depression?

    dude, you need to build a framework for your game. I started out when I was 15, im 22 now and im a very good pickup artist. I started with a framework, an introduction into the mindset of being successful with women. My personal recomendation to you is to search: David Deangelo his system is one of the best launching pads you can find.

    As far as your dhv and attraction building question. There are certain qualities in a MAN that are attractive to a women. Clingyness, neediness, and lovestruck are NOT. There the complete opposite, they are repelent. If a women is getting overwealmed by your premature advances she will put up a "wall"


    Heres some solid advise on what you should actually do: Lay low with her for a couple of days, read or buy some basic material from David Deangelo then try her back

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    Default Re: How to talk to HB10 NDR with depression?

    Yeah, exactly what i needed. thank you a lot man. i'm going to read them.


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