Alright I'm a beginner PUA, so I'm still learning the ropes.
Anyway there's this girl I was interested in, a HB8 South Asian I would say, but she texted me recently saying that we should be mates because she was "patching" things with her ex.
So here's the background story, I went on holiday to a different country and I met her there. I approached her, she was with a friend (we'll call her "J") as well, found out the they're from England, like me. Although the HB8 was in a different city to me while her friend "J" wasn't. Found out the HB8 and "J" was locked out one of their rooms because of something to do with room mates. Eventually J left. So HB8 and I were alone, it's around 3am now.
HB8 asked me how many girls I've dated, how did they go and what was my longest relationship I've had. I gave her those answers. From what I can remember she was also seeking approval, I beleive, she asked me if it's weird that she doesn't feel like getting laid on holiday, like one of her roommates (there were 7 of them) hence why she couldn't go in to the room.
I said to her "Not really no, it depends on who you are. If someone was looking for a long term relationship they may go after you, probably". She then asked me would I, I replied "maybe". Then I told her lets go watch the sunrise, so we did, we spoke about some things. Came back in to the room and we ended up cuddling. She said she wanted to kiss me, but I didn't allow her. I told her not to be too greedy.
This when she told me that "I don't want this to be a holiday fling, I want to see you when we get back". In truth I probably shouldn't have said "Yeah sure". Plus in the back of my head, I knew she was feeling lonely simply because her roommate was sleeping around and the HB8 must have felt left out. Plus we were both on holiday, people are more relaxed and in the mood on holiday.
Then came the next day (my last day in that country) I told her too meet me on the roof at sunset. We met, we spoke, got closer and we kissed. But then we had to go because we weren't actually allowed on the roof (technically it was a restricted area, we got caught). I got her number and then her name and that's it there I had to catch plane soon after. This is on Sunday 19th July.
Alright so back in England, I dropped her text a day after she got back on Wednesday 25th around 17:00. The disease of oneitis was popping up now, in the back of my mind.
She responded in the early morning of Thursday 26th. I didn't contact her back till the next day, the 27th, because while at work the HB 8's room mates which included "J" visited the place I work. This was not planned however, I work in a dessert place, so I was just coincidence.
So while on break I texted the HB 8 and told her, thather friends are here, this is the one time where we were rapidly texting till I had to get back to work. Later on I sent a neg hit text (early morning of 28th) which was relevant to an earlier conversation we had while abroad, and we teased each other through text messages. I told her I've got some stuff to do and see while in her city on the 21st of August, which is London, and that we should meet up. She replied "Sure ", this was part of a longer message.
I believe this is where I messed up. I sent her text, in the evening of the 28th and she didn't reply. I rang her the next day (29th) she didn't pick up, so around 3 hours after ringing I sent her text saying "Oh yeah, I forgot, I rang you because I need to talk to you about the 21st August, call me back". She sent me a text saying that she couldn't pick up because she was in the cinema with her family but we could text, unfortunately I didn't time the call right because I was at work... So I couldn't text her, but there was a perfect hook and I missed it.
Then she text me again asking why I rang her and if I really rang her just to set a date or if I wanted to hear her voice. And then I stupidly fell in to that trap I told her I wanted to hear her voice, without any emoticons. I also sent another text, a few hours later, saying that I don't know which train station I should get off at. She didn't reply back to both of them.
This is where the oneitisness and weakness was being conveyed through my text messages...
Then on the 30th at 17:00 I was impatient, instead of waiting for a text. I texted her asking her what station should I go to because I was confused, and all truth googling that would have answered my question, but I quickly wanted to book the tickets while the fares were low. She didn't reply till midnight of the 31st where she essentially said:
"Sorry for the late reply...I've been busy...Spending time with my ex boyfriend and trying to patch things...We can still be friends though..."
I was going to reply immediately, but I didn't. I was going to tell her that: " I'm sorry what? I don't want to be your friend, I never saw you like that and you know that, it was your idea for it not to be a fling. The hell is that about? You just played me didn't you? You know what Us being friends is impossible, goodbye." But I never.
I thought I would let my emotions subside. I need to be a it more calculating about this, find a proper way to advance because an issue that arises here is that, I do need to go to London and I would like to see her while I'm there. Also I don't want to lose this girl completely, for some odd reason, I would like to date her. Thus I've come across this PUA forum for the first time. So how do I proceed, since her last text at midnight of the 31st I haven't responded.
Funnily enough, during the entire length of that I've been advancing with this other girl quite smoothly, don't get why I got oneitis with this HB8.
I'm sorry about the length but I thought I would give as much necessary information as possible so that , hopefully, you guys can give me advice quite easily. I appreciate any advice.