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Thread: What Frame of Mind Should I Use?

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    Default What Frame of Mind Should I Use?

    OK, first, let me start off by saying I a nice amount about Social Interactions.

    I know I still have a lot to learn but I know a great amount of skills. The problem is, I have never really played through the whole," Attraction through Lay" process yet because I used to be anti-social.

    Now, I have the confidence to talk to MBs all day, but because I don't wanna come off as needy, I usually show a lack of interest before I even try to talk to girls, which I think is telegraphing to the girl don't talk to me.

    I guess I have this mind frame where, I need the girl to show interest first before I move in. And I think its killing me softly every time I see a guy talk to the same girl that I wanted to come to me first.

    So my first question is, how do I break that, how do I become needy enough to win her attention by making her win mine? What should I do?

    The next thing I want to ask while I'm still here is, should I go through the whole " Attraction through Lay" process with a girl I can't find attractive, because It seems off and I kinda feel unnatural about It, If you think yes please state why.

    The last question is a little more personal.

    I met this cute girl at a boxing class and she became really attracted to me and even qualified her self without me saying anything.

    Then one day, I think I skipped some Kino Escalation and touched her face to much and I also kinda failed to build Rapport. (Keep in mind, I also I may of teased her to much). After all that happen I noticed she didn't talk to me as much as she did at first the next couple of days.

    I think she lost a lot of attraction for me so I tried to look as if I didn't see her or notice her. I know I can start from the beginning to build attraction again but I think all this Ignoring has caused us to resent each other to a certain degree.( Like here not looking at me when talking). I think I lost a lot of attraction for her too but I don't Know whether to win her back or let her go.

    So my last question is what are you're thoughts on this situation and what should I do? (BTW, I think she has a boyfriend because she's always Texting on her phone)

    Thanks So much for just reading this far and I hope to hear great answer, Thank You.

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    Default Re: What Frame of Mind Should I Use?

    what u need is to push and pull don´t be to needy but at the same time dont be an icy cold gangster, if u wanna do kino scalation to fast, that is easy start with a hi 5 if she is trying to call your attention or the attention of others, a hi 5 is perfect, is inocent and nice at the begining, and practice... if you want to improve your game u need comitment, go out a lot. the number 1 step is to turn off that pc and get your butt off your chair and go out..... have an action plan and stick to it. have a scheduel go out at least 4 nights a week (if u have time). there is no trick .

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    Default Re: What Frame of Mind Should I Use?

    Ok, first guy, I don't know what you said. There's a lot of stuff there that just doesn't make sense. It's all train of thought and hard to follow. Condense your problems down to a few points and try again. As far as I can tell you bunched two or three posts into one. Organize your thoughts and get things sorted.

    Second guy...use some periods. And spell check. And I barely count a hi5 as kino cause it's so common it looses meaning. You've got to come off as super playful to make it mean anything. Honestly, I just don't like the idea of kinoing all the guy friends I hi 5 on a regular basis.
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    Default Re: What Frame of Mind Should I Use?

    thanks bandit and sorry for my poor grammar I still learning english.

    there is no frame of mind. you just need to practice hang out and have fun with it.that is why we call it game, you are going to get rejected. but that is good when you get rejected,because you learn from your mistakes.you need to keep doing what works for you and stop doing what does not work. now a hi 5 that works for me when i started talking to a girl, because is playfull and you are not trying to get any value from her. it works for me,and if it does not work for you fine. use another tactic.

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    Default Re: What Frame of Mind Should I Use?

    Quote Originally Posted by Bandit View Post
    Ok, first guy, I don't know what you said. There's a lot of stuff there that just doesn't make sense. It's all train of thought and hard to follow. Condense your problems down to a few points and try again. As far as I can tell you bunched two or three posts into one. Organize your thoughts and get things sorted.

    Second guy...use some periods. And spell check. And I barely count a hi5 as kino cause it's so common it looses meaning. You've got to come off as super playful to make it mean anything. Honestly, I just don't like the idea of kinoing all the guy friends I hi 5 on a regular basis.
    Lol. I've always wanted to say something like that, but I'm learning a lot of guys are here with English as a second language. So I'm trying to keep the frustration inside :P

    I think Hi 5's hold value. Low value, but still value. Vin includes them in the ladder. It's an intro to better kino.

    Hey Sonicino. I'm not sure, but this might help?
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    Default Re: What Frame of Mind Should I Use?

    Ty, Codi for giving me an idea on how to set my mind

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    Default Re: What Frame of Mind Should I Use?

    I was really tired when I wrote that. Hell of a long week.
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