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    Default About to breakdown. Need big help

    Hello, so let me introuduce myself! I. 17 years old from sweden tall kinda skinny guy! I have good confidence and im in my opinion not and ugly guy! I look decent and im kinda like a normal guy. I get invited to the big parties and go with the biggest friendship group in the town but this is what im so depressed about. At parties im getting kinda drunk aint getting girls u know, ive wrote here before but they say i shouldnt drink that much. Last party my friends super drunk and i was complete sober! Ive read the game seen sasha daygame and the gambler. But when im at this parties it feels like no girl wants to be seen with me outside the group no one wants to make out with me and i get no numbers etc etc. I just feel ugly and bad at these parties and i cant freaking take it anymore... I know that i need to be a relaxed funny guy and i know that if i approach a set of 2 girls im gonna freeze out the target and lager get my focus on her and i know i need to be more alpha and separate from the group to be diffrent but in a good way! But i just cant get the shit together at parties or anywhere else! Its seariously not fun anymore im tired of having this confidence when i know girls think im ugly! And when i get back from parties with friends and they say i got thar girl bla bla bla. Like tonight i checked out this girl all night i talked with her etc etc. Later my friend made out with her and bla bla... Im really deppressed of this and nothing i do helps i just lose it everytime! Why. Cant i be like the others and get the pretty ladies? Like what the fuck am i doing wrong?! Im so tired of this and i really need the biggest help i can get this is like a life emergancy and i know this is the best place to ask cause i know u will help me! I need a big lift to feel better again! I wanna get with the girls at these parties Aswell! I dont wanna be a whiny bitch but feels good to get this off my chest! Greeds erixzon!

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    Default Re: About to breakdown. Need big help

    Hey the first step is always saying it publicly

    First, keep your confidence. Never think a girl thinks you're ugly, they don't.

    If you're getting the impression someone doesn't wanna be seen with you, then you gotta build more social proof

    When you get to a party, say hi to everyone. "be mr sociable". When you enter, say hi to everyone, small talk for a moment, get their name, and move on to the next. Guys and girls. You do this with everyone briefly and girls will WANT to talk to you, they will want you to be talking to them, and your game will be solid

    It's the basics of social proof.

    If that's not your issue let me know and I'll help you clarify further
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    Default Re: About to breakdown. Need big help

    Good news for ya... You're only 17!
    There is SOOOOOO much time ahead of you to improve your game.

    But the more you stress about it & beat yourself up, the more pressure you put on yourself.

    It might help to build your confidence, if you just talking to girls, and not worry about where it goes from there. At least for now anyway.

    It sounds like you start out being confident.... but something happens when you're around girls, that makes you unsure of yourself & then it falls apart.

    The only REAL solution is repetition. Get out & mingle, meet lots of people, and get used to talking to everyone. It becomes easier the more you do it.

    But seriously, don't stress yourself out at this point. That will end up putting a choke-hold on your progress! You'll start to engrave a "fear" response into your brain / nervous system, and it'll take a looong time to undo that.


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    Default Re: About to breakdown. Need big help

    hey guys, thanks for putting ur time to this. @The Red Baron ive always thought that the first impression is the biggest deal when it comes to girls or atleast to parties and just making around with many girls at a party. so when it feels like im ugly i dont talk very much either cause im " waiting " for the girl that thinks im hot so they will start talk to me and they will get the first impression of me like damn he is hot. because to much is about the looks these days i mean i cant find myself making out or touching a ugly girl.... but again i think i have to be more alpha male and be in the middle to get noticed much more! i see my friend he has the greatest body and that makes his first impression damn thats hot! when he mingles with me towards some girls he is playing abit much aplha roll even sometimes ignore me. but i see him do it perfect, still i think its abit to douchebag to do it against his friend (?) he is really nasty with girls and many ppl seem to find him just TO MUCH and to nasty even his friends. so i dont wanna end up like him but i wanna be the guy the girls look at if u know what im talking about so a few changes i need help with
    1. become more alpha male and get noticed
    2. relax and have fun
    3. talk relaxed with girls and talk more then i think so i dont stuck on what words that will come thru my mouth
    4. dont think to much about the game cause it fucks my brains out!

    and some goals i would like to achive.

    1.check out a girl at a party and actually get to talking to her and fin intressets
    2. have fun even just with friends
    3. be the guy that guys want to be
    4. and be the guy that girls think is a real babe
    5. and kinda be a stealth mode so i dont end up like my friend to nasty and to much.
    6. wanna share stories with my friends about how awesome the party was and what girls i actually found iois from!




    i dont think it will come served on a silver plate but i would appriciate any help cause i dont know where to begin with this thanks again!

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    Default Re: About to breakdown. Need big help

    Hi Erixzon,

    I would like to make and observation and offer some solutions to one of the comments that you have just said above.

    Basically, you state that 'you feel ugly and that because of this you don't talk to girls but that you are 'waiting' for them, i.e. expecting them to come and talk to you'.

    My answer will be in two parts:

    1. Because you feel ugly you will be displaying/projecting this via your body language. People, including girls, will subconsciously pick up on this and feel uncomfortable around you.

    So, how do you correct this? Firstly, like The Red Baron correctly says, stop thinking that you are ugly. You are not!! Everyone is unique and there will be girls out there that are attracted to you.

    Secondly, improve your confidence. Think and focus on the good qualities that you have. Go and buy some new clothes/get a new hair style, etc., if this helps you to feel confident about yourself!

    Thirdly, study/read-up on body language. Observe your own and that of the people around you. What is your/their body language saying about there inner state?? Then when you get good at this, start to change your own to project the Alpha man that you are!

    2. You expect girls to approach you.

    This is generally not the way it is! And this is how it should be. You are the Alpha male and go after what you want! Girls will send out IOI's and expect a man to pick up on them and then to go and approach them; it is an invitation to approach (this is where studying body language will help!).

    Secondly, you don't have to have IOI's and you can still approach and open them. You can then create/build attraction by DHV/social proof, etc. and also using kino. Kino should be really easy to do at a party, as everyone is moving about and they are usually quite busy!


    Finally, don't try to achieve all these things like 'be the guy that guys want to be' and 'be the guy that girls think is a real babe'. BE YOURSELF and don't concern yourself with what other people think of you. Actually, you shouldn't give a sh!t what anyone else thinks of you. Learn to be and accept yourself as you are and be completly free from others opinions of you and then 'you will really begin to have fun in this life and enjoy yourself'!!!!

    Because you will do what pleases you (as long as it does not hurt someone else!) like approaching hot girls and talking to them. If there not interested, you won't care and move straight onto the next one! Because, you know, there are MILLIONS of them in this world!!!

    Hope this helps. Best wishes.
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    Default Re: About to breakdown. Need big help

    It's like a tiny bug, that if left unchecked, can spread and just ruin your confidence for the rest of the night. Letting one thing bother you enough to let something else bother you and it just stacks on itself.

    Although looks do play a part on initial attraction it's not the overall factor. Attractive guys that know they are attraction usually ruin their chances by acting overly cocky which turns the woman off. Then the less attractive guys don't even approach since they feel they aren't as good looking as the other guys.

    I've actually seen where the prettiest girl in the group was so BLAH and the less attractive one had a tough attitude, yet fun, which boosted her attractiveness. It's really simple....anyone expressing needines, low-self esteem, desperation, etc. dramatically decrease their value. There is no such thing as "hottest guy on the planet." So how do other guys handle NOT being the hottest on the planet? It's mostly how they see themselves.

    No one says you have to compare yourself to the way others look. I am an avid dancer and regularly come across dancers that are simply better than me. Such as break dancers and salsa dancers. Do I let it phase me? No, because I know that we are ALL diamonds that have many different facets to us. So there could easily be something that I am simply better than them at. Even if I never know what that thing is.

    So you will have to get out of your head about it and realize that women DON'T just look for physicality. Most of the time when they see a hot guy, they like the IDEA of banging him, but that doesn't mean they actually will. They would like to bang a bunch of other hot guys as well and because the way guys are with them, they know for a fact that they can sleep with the guy whenever they want if they really wanted to. So that bores them! What they are looking for is a CHALLENGE regardless of looks. So you have to CHALLENGE them and raise your value. Using techniques such as push/pull, kino escalation, and DHV stories.

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    Default Re: About to breakdown. Need big help

    I used to freak out over getting chicks at parties and now I don't. I figure my number one priority is to relax and have a good time with my friends and trying to get with chicks comes second to that. I also don't keep track of whether I'm getting laid more or less than my friends.

    Sounds like you've already realized you have trouble controlling yourself when you're drunk so either drink in moderation or not at all.

    If you want to make-out or get physical with some girl try getting to a private place (a spare bed room or waiting until people are going to sleep or having sex in the other room/taking her to your place) so you don't possibly embarrass her in front of her friends.

    Have fun at these parties. Talk to whom your interested in. Eventually you'll either make-out, get laid, or set-up a date sometime. Good luck.


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