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    Default Recovery needed - how to respond to this?

    Hi all,

    Met this girl over a week ago through a friend of mine at someone's birthday celebration/night out. We got on really well etc, I could tell she liked me and I quite liked her too. We were talking for large parts of the night and there was plenty of kino from me to which she was entirely comfortable with. A bit later during the night, I was quite proud of myself in that I actually went for it (something I don't usually do) and went into kiss her. I could see she was hesitant at the time so as I had my hand around her head/neck, I pulled her in to kiss her on the cheek instead of the lips, to which she then smiled. Therefore, she clearly knows what my intentions are and that I'm interested.
    Later at the end of the night, apparently she had been asking our mutual friend about me (this is referred to in our facebook messages).
    I added her on facebook the next day (as we had both been tagged in a post) and then a couple of days ago sent her a message. After a very positive couple of replies from her, I sent her this last night - I have put some explanations in brackets so the conversation makes sense.
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    I reckon Sarah (our mutual friend) told her lol and if the girls warned u about my lines I wonder what else u were asking...
    U really need to work on ur charm :P Though ur sarcasm does come naturally!
    Coq d'argent (this is a rooftop bar I went to on Friday which she was asking about) was awesome, it's becoming my local! Have u been since ur a City girl
    Weird to be back home and nice to see everyone, such a different world (I moved to London a couple of months ago for a new job)
    Not been to any Olympic events yet but yeah I probably should go as it's once in a life time. What u trying to go and see?
    By the way, fark facebook lol, what's ur number?
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    She then replied tonight with this:
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    Haha don't flatter urself! We have more pressing matters to discuss,like hair and make up!
    My charm is second to none ...I can't help it if you don't appreciate my spelling of your profession :P (I work at a bank and she was saying I'm a banker with a W)
    Me? City girl? I have a soul thank you! Lol nah I have been there to take in the view a couple of times,always a gd spot to take the tourists!
    Why such a different world?
    I'm gonna go to the men's marathon on Sunday to perve on the athletes! Trying to get tickets for anything really, volleyball,hockey,at hletics.
    I'm not allowed to give my number to strangers. Sarah says ur strange. (clearly a joke)
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    As you can see, she rejected my attempt to get her number. Seems there is still interest there but it could be better. What would you reply to her from here? Would you attempt to get her number again after a few more back and forth messages, tease her about not giving me her number, or just try and sort out a date on facebook asap?

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    Default Re: Recovery needed - how to respond to this?

    Quote Originally Posted by Jaz View Post
    Hi all,

    Met this girl over a week ago through a friend of mine at someone's birthday celebration/night out. We got on really well etc, I could tell she liked me and I quite liked her too. We were talking for large parts of the night and there was plenty of kino from me to which she was entirely comfortable with. A bit later during the night, I was quite proud of myself in that I actually went for it (something I don't usually do) and went into kiss her. I could see she was hesitant at the time so as I had my hand around her head/neck, I pulled her in to kiss her on the cheek instead of the lips, to which she then smiled. Therefore, she clearly knows what my intentions are and that I'm interested.
    Later at the end of the night, apparently she had been asking our mutual friend about me (this is referred to in our facebook messages).
    I added her on facebook the next day (as we had both been tagged in a post) and then a couple of days ago sent her a message. After a very positive couple of replies from her, I sent her this last night - I have put some explanations in brackets so the conversation makes sense.
    -----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
    I reckon Sarah (our mutual friend) told her lol and if the girls warned u about my lines I wonder what else u were asking...
    U really need to work on ur charm :P Though ur sarcasm does come naturally!
    Coq d'argent (this is a rooftop bar I went to on Friday which she was asking about) was awesome, it's becoming my local! Have u been since ur a City girl
    Weird to be back home and nice to see everyone, such a different world (I moved to London a couple of months ago for a new job)
    Not been to any Olympic events yet but yeah I probably should go as it's once in a life time. What u trying to go and see?
    By the way, fark facebook lol, what's ur number?
    -----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
    She then replied tonight with this:
    -----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
    Haha don't flatter urself! We have more pressing matters to discuss,like hair and make up!
    My charm is second to none ...I can't help it if you don't appreciate my spelling of your profession :P (I work at a bank and she was saying I'm a banker with a W)
    Me? City girl? I have a soul thank you! Lol nah I have been there to take in the view a couple of times,always a gd spot to take the tourists!
    Why such a different world?
    I'm gonna go to the men's marathon on Sunday to perve on the athletes! Trying to get tickets for anything really, volleyball,hockey,at hletics.
    I'm not allowed to give my number to strangers. Sarah says ur strange. (clearly a joke)
    -----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
    As you can see, she rejected my attempt to get her number. Seems there is still interest there but it could be better. What would you reply to her from here? Would you attempt to get her number again after a few more back and forth messages, tease her about not giving me her number, or just try and sort out a date on facebook asap?
    It sounds like she's really just being playfully feisty.
    Like, she can take it AND dish it out in equal parts! LOL!

    Just keep working the humor & the intellectual angle. I get the impression she'll respond well to that.

    BUT... there's obviously some interest on her part.
    Otherwise she wouldn't be replying back like she has been (regarding the length of the messages)



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    Default Re: Recovery needed - how to respond to this?

    Well first I think you should gauge where you are in the traditional Mystery Method path to make things a little more tangible.

    It seems as though you are still in attraction phase. Yes you did alot of talking, but you didn't k-close and if she were attracted she wouldn't be so resistant to something as simple as a phone number. So now's the time to start building attraction to see if you can recover from this.

    You must definitely tease her about her not giving out the phone number. If Facebook is your only means of communication then the game as changed since you are no longer in a social setting. Things like sending an actual message to her can convey certain traits so I think you should fall back to just commenting on a couple of her posts and make posts you are sure she will comment on.

    You can still message her, just understand how she can perceive it. She is reponding quite well to your message (actually she responded in a brick by brick fashion. Make a note of that) even with all the resistance. So she is basically telling you "I can't show you that I'm easy so you are going to have to work for this." Better than her not responding at all. At least she is somewhat interested.

    So learn about the attraction switches:

    - Protector of loved ones

    - Pre-selection

    - Leader of mean

    - Willingness to emote

    - Willingness to walk away

    You don't necessarily have to flip each one . It's only through Facebook so trying to will run the risk of looking too try hard since you will most likely be telling stories to convey these.

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    Default Re: Recovery needed - how to respond to this?

    Thanks both for the answers. I did send her a message back yesterday and got another fairly good reply so all is not lost. Will see how it goes.


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