I am new here and I read some threads and liked it.. I thought may be you guys might help me. Its a bit long. Better to give a background so that you can also point out my mistakes if any.
The story: I am 26 and recently I started seeing this girl. Its been three months. She was the one who pushed me into a romantic thing and she got annoyed when I appeared uninterested.
We started kissing and it was going fine but we haven't slept together yet. I thought she was nice and also a bit different from my previous gfs and I wasn't just looking for sex but a relationship. Things were going good. I didn't appear uninterested after that.
Suddenly one day she came and told me that her boss told her he is interested in her as more than a friend. But she told she made it clear to him that she is not interested and decided to be on good terms with him. She was upset and asked me if I would still like her and I told I like her if she is genuinely interested in me. (I should have been more strict here even though i don't know how). The boss has been very decent about it and it seems he never asked her anything about it anymore.
I was in a conference for a week and the boss got a transfer meanwhile.
When I came back she told can we be like friends and not do anything until the boss leaves for good..because that would make her uncomfortable. (LJBF d) I said ok if it is only for a while. Nothing serious happened between her and the boss in that one week. But anyway she sees him everyday and he has that advantage. It affected my work a lot..stressed etc etc. Basically I don't like hanging around her like a friend.
So we met very shortly twice with nothing happening, no holding hands. We met again for the third time yesterday and I told her I am not interested in friendship but it wasn't too clear due to the circumstances. She said "presently I won't be comfortable kissing you. May be I change my mind after 1 or 2 months I don't know". I directly asked about the boss and I said she is free to date him if that's what she wants and I could back off. She said "I like him as a person. But I don't see him that way. I like spending time with him and he is active and dynamic and he helped me a lot when i moved apartments blah blah". The boss will leave in like 3 weeks for good. Thats the situation now. I couldn't talk more since it was late and both had to leave. I don't have much problems getting girls, I just think she is nice that's all. Should I go cold turkey for a while or should I write an email stating my interest clearly and then go silent? I have to eventually write to her as I have to pick up my stuff from her place.
It would be a pity if it ended this soon, but I am kinda prepared for it.