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Thread: imagining IOI's - with oneitis.. pls help

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    Default imagining IOI's - with oneitis.. pls help

    hey all, so the 'problem' if you wanna call it that, is this..

    i like this girl (hb10) - oneitis you call in PUA?

    anyways, i talked to her once on fb, but then i deleted my fb account and didn't add her again..

    i see her at least once every 2 weeks in clubs during the weekend

    Now for some IOI's (i dont know if they are actual IOI's or she does them without being interested in me.. coincidence)

    1) i held eye contact ONCE for couple seconds with her, on our way home in a minivan..
    2) she usually stays in the front seat in the van (not always though), but my m8 was drunk and i told him "you stay in the front seat, so if you dont feel well .. etc.." she didn't say anything but went directly in other seats..
    3) last saturday, i was in a club, having lots of fun with friends, hi5 random people and also friends, getting TONS of IOI's from girls (didn't really like them though :s), then i moved where she was - (to move to other part of club, i needed to pass near her) i didn't look at her, but i still kinda noticed her looking.. (from the sides of my eyes)
    4) that same night at the same club, i was with friends in a corner, drinking something (socially) dancing, laughing, having fun :P.. then she and her friends walked right beside me, and she grabbed my forearm for a second.. but i still noticed


    now you might say they are all IOI's, but deep in me i think they are not really IOI's for the simple reason (im average looking, the only upside im a bit athletic, but im sort of shy around her and don't talk much in the minivan.. unlike in clubs when not near her) and shes like a hb 10 with TOO MANY GUYS wanting her..

    the question is.. can i sort of be imaging these stuff.. like when she grabbed my hand.. it could have been any1 elses hand because there where people near her (she on heels) and was gonna fall or anything?..

    she didn't stay in the front seat that time because she was listening to what i was saying or because she didn't feel like staying in front that night..

    eye contact.. was she staring (because of being sleepy.. maybe? or actual eye contact that shows interest?)

    when she looked at me in the club when i passed.. was it because she wanted to look at me.. or because i was passing..

    Note: i really wanna learn the pua stuff before i approach her (only learning pua to get her actually :P)..

    im no good pua yet.. and i don't wanna ruin my only chance with her.. plus it gets awkward if i get rejected and i see her once every 2 weeks..

    any thoughts/ideas? would be grateful..thx in advance

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    Default Re: imagining IOI's - with oneitis.. pls help

    Its good that you observe these things. Even better that you perceive them as IOIs rather than focus on IODs. However like you said they can be misconstrued.

    Sounds like you haven't done much conversation with her. This is a good time to practice getting out of the shy zone and just go for it. Just spark up a casual fun convo with her.

    If you have conversated before and are still not sure then maybe you should try some push/pull. Instantly start qualifying her. "You are too much fun. Too bad you're not my type."
    Just to show you are challenging. If she is at all interested you should notice immediately in her IOIs as they should be more direct.

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    Default Re: imagining IOI's - with oneitis.. pls help

    first of all, thx a lot for replying

    secondly, yeah only talked to her once on fb (and resulted in an awkward ending :s..) - never in real life i think lol :/
    "You are too much fun. Too bad you're not my type."
    wouldnt that be a bit risky.. she can make her more attracted or lose interest at once? because u are clearly saying.. "i dont like your type"

    is there a way i can go direct if some other IOI's (only obvious one's though, pls?)

    i repeat though.. still have got no solid game (made few approaches in clubs.. almost all fail haha.. )

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    Default Re: imagining IOI's - with oneitis.. pls help

    My apologies, let me clarify. This is more of a mindset you have to have. Sometimes you can get away with actually verbalizing this, but that's if you sense resistance from her if you try to escalate. Having the mindset that you like her, but aren't quite won over yet, is a good start to build attraction.

    Something a little less harsh would be "You're awesome, but you're trouble." Very basic push/pull statement. The more personal you make it about her the more powerful.

    Always assume attraction and interpret everything she does as trying to hit on you. Sometimes even interpret things as her trying to get you into bed. They find it humorous since it is a role reversal of genders, and if you stick with that frame of mind she will likely believe you.

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    Default Re: imagining IOI's - with oneitis.. pls help

    its gonna be hard as fuark to get a convo with her haha.. maybe will hope i can start one with a situational funny opener if i see her buying drinks or something (only time in a club i think shes quiet :P).. with her friends, shes the party girl..

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    Default Re: imagining IOI's - with oneitis.. pls help

    I think that you're a little close to this one. I know that it is harder to do in real life than it is to write on a forum, but you can't be afraid of the results of push-pull. You have to have the mindset that you can be with any girl you want, and has to know that. That means treating her the same way you treat any other girl. Don't be afraid to Neg her. By putting her on a pedestal you're ensuring that she will look down on you. Keep the mindset that she should be chasing you- You're not buying anything, you're selling!

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    Default Re: imagining IOI's - with oneitis.. pls help

    Quote Originally Posted by manunited000 View Post
    I think that you're a little close to this one. I know that it is harder to do in real life than it is to write on a forum, but you can't be afraid of the results of push-pull. You have to have the mindset that you can be with any girl you want, and has to know that. That means treating her the same way you treat any other girl. Don't be afraid to Neg her. By putting her on a pedestal you're ensuring that she will look down on you. Keep the mindset that she should be chasing you- You're not buying anything, you're selling!
    the difference between her and other girls.. i really like her and dont wanna ruin my chances and risk losing her..

    my mindset to other girls - i do my game.. if i get rejected.. dw about it, tons of other cute girls out there

    i will try to tease and neg her if i get the opportunity to open with a situational funny opener..


    f**k its gonna be hard as hell to talk to her :s

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    Default Re: imagining IOI's - with oneitis.. pls help

    Don't overthink it my friend. Maybe you should distract yourself with another woman so you can take her off the pedestal a bit. She's human and wants to he treated as such.

    Don't worry about screwing up. You'll increase your chances of it happening. In fact you should accept that you may screw up and you are human so no apologies. She has flaws so maybe focus on them so that can help. Also imagine having sex with her, but it was mediocre. Anything to take any idealistic thinking out of it.

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    Default Re: imagining IOI's - with oneitis.. pls help

    Don't overthink it my friend. Maybe you should distract yourself with another woman
    ehh i tried that dw , i see other HB10s but if they are a 10, then she's like 12/10 :/ im actually searching for some flaws, so as to bring down a bit her rating but cant lol :s

    Don't worry about screwing up.
    why not? i usually dont give a sh!t about unsuccesful approach, rejection or anything.. but i really want this one so if i screw up its gonna s*ck

    Also imagine having sex with her, but it was mediocre.
    haha i dont know how you can think of that, since we are men, the most important thing about rating a girl is physique and face :P, so automatically in your brain, you think about how awesome she would be and not vice versa :P..

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    is it good if i tease her about something she said (even if shes not talking to me?) then kinda ignore.. and tease her again some other day?

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    Default Re: imagining IOI's - with oneitis.. pls help

    Lol I know it's difficult to think of mediocre sex with her. Its an exercise I tried a couple of times. Seems to help a bit.

    I'm a firm believer in thinking about what you want and not what you don't want. If I told you to DON'T think about ELEPHANTS! ........very likely that you just did. If you worry so much about screwing up, then you aren't thinking about being the amazing guy you know she will find attractive. Also it helps to not beat yourself up too much in case you feel like you did screw up. But it doesn't matter if you screw up. What matters is how you handle it. If you worry about losing her if you screw up, then when you do you will likely do AFC behavior to try and "get back on track." So ultimately I'm saying.......relax.


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