Hey, so I'm new to the game and forgive me this is a little long.
Met a girl online, wasn't long before she gave me her number to text her. After a total of 2 weeks she says she's going to be out my way and asks if I want to meet up. I kept it a mystery if I was going to make it until 2 days before. The plans were for me to come over after work and I would go out with her and her girlfriend. All that's fine and dandy.
I meet up with the pm, girl and her friend (a hot mess on the regular...almost all day regular). Immediately introduce myself and give e "can't take her anywhere line".
Bla bla bla they change and then another friend shows up, a guy. Not threatend.n he tried amogging but shortly after working him he thought we were best buds. I had my girl open and close all night. Her friends loved me, especially the hot mess. Ended up just being my girl and I at the bar where we talked for a while before heading back to the house.
She was the girl who like being in charge, liked leading. But when we get home we sit down and talk. She's next to me. Has a blanket over her. I make my way under the blanket. She talks about how hairless she is, not the first time, and has me feel her legs. I put her legs on my lap to "keep me warm" and leave my hands on them, and do a light massage while we talk. I sent her to bed because that's where I was stuck at. From her bed she was still trying to talk to me. I was getting some good strong IOIs at the end of the night.
Here's where it fell through.
In the morning I said lets go to breakfast, I know a Great place around the corner. They shot that down for something else...after walking to 3 places we finally find one open. My girl seems shut off uninterested, quiet, like back to square 1..."hi, I'm JD...let me get a females opinion" not what I did but what I felt like I should do. I negged her to get her interested. She ended up leaving the mess and I at the diner so she could put change in her meter (which was legit, I checked it before we left because the parking tickets are plenty out there). Talking to her friend I learn some things.
1) her alcoholic x bf (their words) wasn't a relationship that ended 6mo ago like she said, a few weeks go
2) they lived together, yes, but not for a few years, they weren't together for a year.
I feel those might both be IOIs (thoughts?)
But then we talk, and the friend doesn't know why she is acting the way she is. I brush it off as shy and now I'm no longer just virtual words, I'm a person in her life.
We went our ways and I get a message not too much longer after with an apology which I ignored, then a while later she strikes up a conversation again. And we're back to the playful banter on text.
How do I move on with her?
I was going to suggest a surfing lesson. I surf and she said she wanted to learn. But I'm stuck moving on in comfort. Suggestions? Please...
Thanks from the newbie