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    Default SHould I BE MORE AGGRESSIVE!!!

    Hey GUys,

    QUick question. I'll make it a short post. Ive known this girl from my class for 4 months. We've casually hung out. Usually in a group after our class at a bar. We Kino and are attracted to each other. she's an hb 9 has lots of guy attention, and I always pass her shit tests by encouraging her to flirt and asking guys to "get this girl off me please!!" kind of stuff. Anyways, we've built attraction and comfort over the past month.(we only see each other once a week in class. 3 weeks ago went to a friends party and got drunk. She came back to my place and I fingerslammed her and she was wet in seconds! I didn't fuck her cause my friend was sleeping 5 ft away from us(I live in studio apt, a nice one!!.). I kinda messed up by n not walking her to her car in the morning, and she never initiated txts, but responded to all of mine. I only send one txt a week basically and its only to tell her were hanging out. SHe missed two classes in a row and flaked on a hangout b4 class. so basically two weeks went by before I saw her after I fingered her that one night .. Anyways I saw her in class yesterday and we instantly KINO, and go to a bar and talk with our group of classmates.. I keep my alpha frame and talk to her even when guys are all over her asking her to go out and play strip poker, all in front of my face. I laugh it off and encourage her to do it!!! ... anyways as she leaves we have our little hug/hand holding/me pushing her away and make plans to grab a drink b4 class next week.

    SOOOOOO, now to my question: Should I be txting this girl or showing more interest? I know the "GAME" and I hold my ALPHA frame well. And I still go after girls, but I think she can be good LTR. Even though she can be, I still am going to act like I don't give a fuck! and do what I do. I just want some advice. ----- Is it good that I don't txt her everyday? When we do txt its cocky/funny, i make fun of her, and keep it short. 80% of the time she sends last txt and I don't respond. So,my deal is that we said yesterday that we were going to get together before class and get a little tipsy. Should I txt her b4 our class on Tuesday? or should I just txt her the The day of?? If I txt her the day of, what should I say to not sound like I've been waiting all week for this? .... I think she likes me, but now that I like her too I need to constantly remind myself to take my emotions away from my actions......

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    Default Re: SHould I BE MORE AGGRESSIVE!!!

    I don't think it is an issue if you text everyday as long as it is reciprocated.

    If you plan on making her an LTR then it's time to show a real side to yourself. That means getting vulnerable. This will gain rapport with her and allow you to reach a deeper level of attraction with each other.

    So yes I think you should show a more genuine interest in her as long as she reciprocates. If you sense any resistance then take a few steps back and try again later.

    If you are uncomfortable with any of this and feel this is AFC.....good. Then it means you haven't really been truly intimate with a woman before and it's about time to try something new. It's really exciting, trust me.

    If you have done this before and are questioning whether you should go back to it at the cost of your "I don't give a fuck" attitude then don't worry. That's usually for building the initial attraction. In order to move forward you are going to have to reach a deeper level with her, which means getting vulnerable. Hope this helps and good luck.

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    Default Re: SHould I BE MORE AGGRESSIVE!!!

    Damn!! Solid advice Batman!

    Doing the pickup stuff is fun, and I know how to attract, its just the after part that confuses/scares me.

    Im pretty scared to be vulnerable and talk nice to her, or tell her she's beautiful because Im afraid I'll sound Beta or like an AFC. The last girl I loved I became WAY vulnerable, and as soon as I started being Mr. Caring, nice bf type, reliable/loyal man SHE SPLIT. It was like as soon as I opened up and told her how I felt she bounced!! haha.... I don't want that to happen again!

    Batman, can you please give me a couple of examples(what I can do) of how to be vulnerable and show "Genuine" interest to her without seeming like Im "NEEDY" or having her think "I have this guy by the BALLs"..... Thank you so much brutha!!!


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    Default Re: SHould I BE MORE AGGRESSIVE!!!

    Well I know that when you DO say she is beautiful or anything mushy gushy, say it when YOU want to. Not because she asks or because she is upset with you and you're trying to get on her good side. Also spread it out and don't overdo it, but I'm sure you guessed that part already.

    Just pick something from your past you feel uncomfortable about and tell her. Then afterwards MAKE SURE you tell her "Wow I've never told anyone that. Blah blah How did you do that lol."

    Use this to qualify her. "There's something about you that when I am around you I feel like I want to be a better man." Or someting along those lines. Just make sure you let her know (after qualifying) that she has an affect on you that you aren't sure what it is and that you don't have any control over it.

    This will take you to a deeper level which is called rapport. Rapport is the good stuff. This is what causes people to keep going back to someone they know is bad for them. They push their pride and ego aside just to get that person back. So you want lots of rapport. In case you didn't know, it quite literally means, "a sympathetic relationship."

    Of course if she doesn't want anything serious then you need to watch for signs of resistance. If you sense any, just take a couple steps back and make a joke and continue like you didn't say anything. Who knows maybe later on she will reciprocate, but couldn't do it at the time.


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