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    bobbyflayed is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default help re engaging crazyhot girl

    Started off about a month ago, crazyhot girl got my phone number from another coworker and started texting me non stop. Hung out a few times she was pretty flaky and she flaked out on plans she made herself. It was made clear that neither of us really wanted anything serious. Spent the last month hooking up all during work and I even closed. She would call or text me almost every night. Thought my game was good.

    A few days ago we went out to lunch and everything was normal. We hooked up and then I went home. Later that night she calls me to cut it off because she didn't want to get into another relationship even though I thought we were keeping it casual. I locked her out for a few days and she started texting me again. Kept my cool and took hours to respond. Then yesterday she starts texting me and after two texts she leaves me hanging for a day. What's my next move? I want to keep this one around, you don't find many ex vegas stripper med students very often.

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    Default Re: help re engaging crazyhot girl

    look man just wait for a couple of days if she's realy interested she'll text you, just wait her out its probably a test to see how needy you are.

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    Default Re: help re engaging crazyhot girl

    First off nice find

    Wait a couple days but also you don't want to be texting her all the time even If she IS texting you first it shows your always available which is never good. But a great rein gagement text I always use is this: "hey just saw something that reminds me of you." plain and simple gets responses every time.
    I say never be complete, I say stop being perfect, I say let... lets evolve, let the chips fall where they may.

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    Default Re: help re engaging crazyhot girl

    I agree with Meteora. It probably is a test. Remember that she is chasing you right now. You just need to relax. Wait it out and she'll probably reengage soon.

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    Default Re: help re engaging crazyhot girl

    Its not so much the immediate text I'm worried about, I'm trying to strategize long term. She had recently gotten out of a 5 year chain of long relationships and her most recent ex keeps sending her stuff. Her official line when she broke it off was that she wanted to "have time to figure out who she is" because she had been in so many relationships.

    I'm trying to figure out the best way to tackle this problem, I know she's interested but I feel like I'm losing grip. Should I freeze her out? What is the best long term way to tackle this?

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    Default Re: help re engaging crazyhot girl

    Hey bud, hope things are going well.

    It seems to me that ur in a very high potential/risk vs reward 'booty call' deal here, after all.
    You as a PUA can identify when this situation arises, and are not shy to call it out shamelessly, with an aura of confidence for the girl here.

    I mean, with all respect, if she's been in a lot of LTRs lately, then a friend with benefits is all it is, for now. Tell it like it is, and its not a big deal.
    Tell her u are having fun hanging out, and your not tryin to get attached rite now either. She can have her space, and you get yours, and time will tell the rest.

    hope that figures in, cheers

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    Default Re: help re engaging crazyhot girl

    We both called out the space thing early on and have been trying to keep it pretty casual. The friends with benefits title was in place from the beginning but she pulled away from that recently and I'm not sure how to handle things to get the ball back in my court. I would pull another girl but she's not the jealous type.

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    Default Re: help re engaging crazyhot girl

    I guess a better question is to ask how I can convert this obvious rebound into an ltr.

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    Default Re: help re engaging crazyhot girl

    Oh.. I didn't realized u had established the hookup only/nothin serious thing before.
    Well it sounds like she's not ripe at the time being, and wants to 'find' herself. Let her I say. You can tell her u want an LTR, but it seems she's not on the same page. Don't give her an ultimatum either, just lay off. Be cool and don't be needy.
    It coulda just been a phase for u two, and u can let it pass. U can even give her the 'LJBF' for now, and keep ur pride high.. which she might find attractive
    Keep hangin out with ur work crowd, if u guys work together, and it won't seem like a big deal.
    Don't let yourself get one-it is, u have to meet others I think, and she might come around, but if not you'll have other fields to hunt from

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    Default Re: help re engaging crazyhot girl

    cant lbjf when I've already been lbjf'd. the weird thing is she lbjfd me and two days later asked if our bet (in which my reward is raunchy sex) was still on. I dont mind hunting in either fields, I've done my fair share of hunting but it seems to me that I've found a unicorn.

    I won't ask her to be in an LTR, this is a pretty sensitive situation and I might have to play longterm game. I feel like I still have an in but if I push too hard she'll withdraw out of pride to what she said before. I have to wriggle my way in slowly and without notice.


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