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Thread: I suck at building comfort

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    Default I suck at building comfort

    I feel like a lot of the time I just end up endlessly flirting with attractive girls and all of the attraction that I can/did build goes down the drain as it stays at that shallow stage. I really don't know how to build comfort.

    I really just don't know what to stay or how to transition in to that next stage.

    I need help building a deep connection.

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    Default Re: I suck at building comfort

    if youve approach and you attracted her to you.. you have 75% of the work pretty much done haha

    to build comfort? its the easier than attraction phase, but anyways heres how to do it..
    you can use 'the cube', or something easier like 'esp routine', 'question game'.. and dont forget kino.. not too much though.. (its more like a KINO test), too see if shes comfortable with you touching her .. use the 'Sauve Kino' theory of 1 step forward 2 steps back
    The Worst thing I can be is the same as everybody else. I'd Hate that!

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    Default Re: I suck at building comfort

    Question Game works a treat. Tried it last night for the fist time. Magic!
    Here it is, right now, think about it and you miss it.

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    Default Re: I suck at building comfort

    whats a questions game can someone link pls

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    Default Re: I suck at building comfort

    Cant find the link to it but its pretty straight forward...

    1) You ask a question
    2) She asnwers honestly
    3) She asks a question
    (She is NOT allowed to ask the same question)
    ...and so on...


    Escalate from innocent questions...whats your favorite meal...to later on in the game...whats your favorite position, sex toy...blah blah blah...

    Thats it!
    Here it is, right now, think about it and you miss it.

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    Default Re: I suck at building comfort

    Thanks a ton guys. I will definitely incorporate the cube and the question game.

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    Default Re: I suck at building comfort

    How do you achieve comfort if you do not want to use games like the cube or playing 20 questions?

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    Default Re: I suck at building comfort

    Quote Originally Posted by acepace View Post
    How do you achieve comfort if you do not want to use games like the cube or playing 20 questions?
    Then you'll have to rely on DHV stories calibrated to trigger her to trust you. Stories involving you standing up for a woman or a weaker party often will build such trust and through that comfort.

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    Default Re: I suck at building comfort

    Quote Originally Posted by acepace View Post
    How do you achieve comfort if you do not want to use games like the cube or playing 20 questions?
    You're going to have to ask questions anyway with most girls, just integrate the escalation process into your normal conversation...ie lead from 'where did you grow up?' to 'when was your first kiss?'.

    Often just listening to one of their stories is enough to build comfort. Early on its mostly about 'potential'. You don't have to reveal everything perfectly to a girl - just your potential. So if you can listen to her yap on about work or her friends for a few minutes and be a good listener you're most of the way there. If she is comfortable opening up about her life, she feels comfortable around you. It's as simple as that.


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