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    hikefitch is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Removing My Serious Negative Beliefs

    My negative beliefs and my inner game issues stems from my body image. I am unlike any other guy over here. I stand 5'3, I do have a slightly mature look, being 21 years old, and a nice smile, no scars on my face, no acne, but I don't have a body like man (masculine, tall and handsome), which most woman craves for. My inner game/beliefs are bringing me down. I am listing below the ways they came up to me over a period of time.

    1. I am not physically attractive (this is true!).
    2. They probably will not like me because I am not as tall as other men.
    3. They will not find me attractive since I do not fit in a typical male standard body type, and hence they will think I am not manly enough.
    4. I find it hard to believe for a woman to be attracted to me, and having me as her boyfriend.
    5. They usually perceive me as weak or less manly, compared to other men.
    6. I am not as nearly as good looking as the woman I want to date.
    7. There are other men who are way good looking & taller than me, why would she choose me?
    8. I personally donít feel good because of my shape.
    9. I don't think I will ever get married, and considering marriage, I just see why a woman will marry me, when she has other choices, like better looking men.

    I will admit that I am insecure about my height, and I would like to get rid of this insecurity, and all of my negative beliefs.

    But, when I will have a girlfriend/wife, I want to be a really good boyfriend/husband, and I want to give my girlfriend the type of fun & excitement she never had in her lifetime. I want to understand my girlfriend, and want to take care of my wife (in the future). My negative beliefs are killing me. Can someone give me some insights, on how to remove these beliefs? I want a girl to like me for my personality, not the fact that I can provide for her, so that she can use my money and have sex with other dudes. I am willing to do anything to become a fun and an interesting guy.

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    Default Re: Removing My Serious Negative Beliefs

    Personally mate I'd say a good way to gain some confidence which is what to me it seems like you need to do, is focus on things that u do like about yourself rather than what you don't. For example your probably an intelligent guy and women do find that attractive, work on conversational skills etc, just because your not a big guy it doesn't mean your not attractive, make sure u dress well, are well groomed and always smell good. It isn't about the size of your body.....it's the size of your personality

    Linking x

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    Default Re: Removing My Serious Negative Beliefs

    Hmmm.... thats not a bad idea. I can work on my social intelligence, humor, and other qualities. How do I still remove the belief that no good looking girl will ever like me?

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    Default Re: Removing My Serious Negative Beliefs

    Do you have any female friends? Because if you haven't got the confidence to approach hot girls whether it be day or night game, then get your friends to introduce you.........work with what you have got and talk to them, be fun and interesting and hot girls will like you.......have you read the game by style? It's full of success stories about guys who are not generically attractive....by that I mean, they aren't tall handsome jocks.........and they all succeed due to having solid game. So that's what you have to work on.

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    Default Re: Removing My Serious Negative Beliefs

    Hey Bud,

    Your mind is telling you lies...!! I think some therapy might get to the deep issues of why you don't feel good enough. We all have those feelings TRUST ME bro!!! SOme people just SIT with them more than others... Also, some of the most attractive people in the world are the most insecurist. Also, a man doesn't have to be a model to get a girl. Don't worry about the things you can't control. It's pointless. Worry about the things you can control and use them to your advantage:

    -eat right, exercise, stay lean, and put on a little muscle. Dress nice, be well groomed, and always be FRESH as they call it. There is always someone to lend a hand with Style or just browse the internet to see what type/style clothes fits your body type and personality. I know its stressful at first, but you will eventually enjoy getting out of your comfort zone with Style.... also, if your height bothers you, add a little muscle. It makes you look bigger. There are also these things called LIftkits. There Insoles for your shoes that give you up to 2 inches in height. Or you can try those Shoes with high soles that give you 2-4 inches in height. Just surf the net for their websites. Mu buddy is '5"1 and he wears both at the same time and stands '5"5 or '5"6 after. He has a GF now and thought it was stupid to wear them now, but when he had low confidence in his game they helped a little. BUt its all a matter of time bro. You have to change your mindset and a little therapy will do wonders. '5"3 isn't even that short..

    Most importantly figure out what you want in life and follow it with a PASSION!!! that is the epitome of what a woman finds SEXY in a man!!! ,,,, You'll be fine brutha!!

    Cheers!!

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    Default Re: Removing My Serious Negative Beliefs

    I went to clinical therapy for Anxiety Disorder, and uncovered quite a few limiting beliefs. One great tool to use against limiting beliefs is to come up with a true, liberating belief that contradicts the old, limiting one.

    Example: "I am not physically attractive." ==> "I have a nice smile, great skin, and my personality will overpower my shortcomings. Besides, it is attitude that attracts women, and I have it."

    Whenever you catch yourself thinking a limiting belief, subvocalize its liberating opposite. Youre 5'3"? So what? The Neanderthal they found incased in Alpine ice was 5'2", and the scar tissue they discovered which surrounded his penis suggests that he banged something like 1500 women. Napoleon was a beast seducer, too. You'll do fine if you keep that chin up, bro.


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