Help needed with girl in "Shakey relationship"
Hey guys, was gaming a girl I met at a shop near mine (HB7 with redhair, got a soft spot for them), displayed all my alpha male traits and always looked happy. I initiated conversation when I noticed she was reading 50 shades of grey and talked about how its interesting in the way it gives an in depth view into the way women view relationships and sex. I left the conversation there and went off as there was a queue.
The next day was a similar routine, she looked down so I asked her “Long day huh?”. She smiled and said “Yeah, it has been a long day but I get off at 3.” I took this as a hint that she wants to go out by the tone she said it in but unfortunately for me I had studying to do for an exam I had the next day. We small talked for a bit and I left.
The next day after my exam I came back to the shop in a good mood, even though I was tired (no sleep on the night, I have a problem with insomnia before exams). The shop was empty and she was the only one working. The stage was set and I knew I was going to pull this off perfectly. She initiated conversation by asking “Hey, how are you?” I replied with “Yeah, I’m awesome, how about you?” We small talked for a bit and then I went in to ask her out.
The conversation was a mellow mood and I went in with “Listen, there’s something about you that just seems interesting but I can’t put my finger on it. What’s your schedule like for next week?” She said she was working all next week. I said “Yeah, I’m pretty busy too but I’ll tell you what, when we both have time off how about we meet up for a drink at the pub?”. She giggled and said “Yeah, that sounds good”. I said “Great, how about you give me your number and I will give you a call when I’m free and we can just sit down for a bit, but don’t take it the wrong way *with a smirk on my face*” She gave me her number, I asked her what her name was, I said I will give her a text later on and I left feeling amazing.
Later on I was with a couple of friends at Subway when I decided to send this text. It was about 4 hours since I had seen her. I wrote “Hey Hariot, I didn’t get to introduce myself and I felt a bit rude, my name is Sohan :P, as much as I would love to stay in contact with you over the weekend I’m going to Holland this weekend to see family but I look forward to seeing you next week, have a great weekend!”
This where things went sour and she sent this: Sorry, I was being polite when I gave my number out of temptation as my current relationship is a bit shakey, I’m sorry if this upset you however I would to be friends have a nice time in Holland!
I left it an hour and replied with: Awww, you have a boyfriend, that’s cute :P but I think you got the wrong end of the stick! When I said to sit down for a drink I meant as mates, we should still go for one though, I will call you when I get back to England.
She replied almost immediately with: Okay that’s cool, mind if I bring a mate, you can bring one too .
Me about 10 minutes later: We shall see, I like meeting new people anyway, that’s why I wanted to get to know you , I think there is more to you than what meets the eye .
Okay that’s where I am up until this point, she hasn’t replied yet but that’s understandable because I’m leaving the country. I’m just unsure what to do from this point, I like her, she has that hipster look to her with the glasses and intelligence is a turn on for me. She has agreed to go out with me provided she can bring a mate (I know, cockblocker), I was thinking of using the boyfriend destroyer on her while building rapport and using mild kino (maybe not a kiss close but I will give it a shot) but what’s the best way that you guys would suggest to approach this situation? I could bring a friend with me but I only have 2 male friends on campus with me at the moment as we work here over summer, ones in a LTR and one is a complete AFC. I don’t get one-itis as I know there’s a lot of options for me but if I could get with this girl I would be very happy.
If I could get some answers as I am out of the country until sunday afternoon than I would be very pleased
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