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    liquid_fun21 is offline PUA in Training
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    Default Still not getting the girl

    I'm in University right now. I've never had a gf and have a very limited social circle. Like 40 friends on Facebook, most of them are misfits. I am trying to correct my non-verbal communication.

    And I try to initiate chats in class. But it always feels like i'm doing all the work. People just smile and give short answers. The effort seems hopeless. And if I just relax and act confident and comfortable in myself people still don't care. I still don't get anywhere. The thing is, I'm a stranger. That's how most people would see me. Also I don't have a clear identity, i'm not a jock, punk, nerd, geek or any other stereotype. I'm just a very plain guy. So even if there was the remotest attraction why would they ever consider sex with a stranger? I'm no where near sex bringing a girl home.

    My most major sticking point is getting people even remotely interested. And beyond that the hook point as well.

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    Default Re: Still not getting the girl

    you said the problem yourself .. you are just a plain guy. Make yourself more interesting, more mysterious.

    You may be fluff talking to much, try telling interesting stories.

    If nothing is working try working in "patterns" into your stories.

    You do not have to be super good looking, BUT look like you give a shit. Clean up a bit. You don't want girls to think you are a weird homeless guy in the first 5 seconds looking at you.

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    Default Re: Still not getting the girl

    Always smile and walk with confidence, people will pick up on that and they will be much more receptive when you want to talk to them. If you're at University start by talking to people on the course you're doing, this is a good place to start.

    I'm at a university too and I used to get people looking at me weird but I always smile and never let anything or anyone get me down. Just have fun, and if you're looking to get good at University or college read CONQUER YOUR CAMPUS. It is a brilliant book that describes the difference between the real world game and the campus game because the social dynamics are different in many ways.
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    Default Re: Still not getting the girl

    Quote Originally Posted by TheManSohan View Post
    Always smile and walk with confidence, people will pick up on that and they will be much more receptive when you want to talk to them. If you're at University start by talking to people on the course you're doing, this is a good place to start.

    I'm at a university too and I used to get people looking at me weird but I always smile and never let anything or anyone get me down. Just have fun, and if you're looking to get good at University or college read CONQUER YOUR CAMPUS. It is a brilliant book that describes the difference between the real world game and the campus game because the social dynamics are different in many ways.
    I smile, walk upright and with confidence. I don't act needy either. I've already read conquer your campus and written notes from it. The problem is, I live with my parents far from campus. Also, nobody (or at least nobody of high value) starts conversations with strangers here. How can I start a convo without looking needy (I've been here 3 years, walking with confidence and never been approached once). I even make sure to not appear defensive. I dress well too. I'm not fat or ugly either. What else do you know?

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    Default Re: Still not getting the girl

    Quote Originally Posted by Achilies View Post
    you said the problem yourself .. you are just a plain guy. Make yourself more interesting, more mysterious.
    There is no one more interesting than me. I've lived in 8 countries, been through war zones. Won gold medals and failed university several times. There is no end to the madness. Yet how do you portray that with just your looks?

    Quote Originally Posted by Achilies View Post
    You may be fluff talking to much, try telling interesting stories.
    Again, how do you talk with strangers? It's a very low value thing in this university.

    Quote Originally Posted by Achilies View Post
    If nothing is working try working in "patterns" into your stories.
    what do you mean by patterns?

    Quote Originally Posted by Achilies View Post
    You do not have to be super good looking, BUT look like you give a sh1t. Clean up a bit. You don't want girls to think you are a weird homeless guy in the first 5 seconds looking at you.
    It's so stupid. Lot's of people in school told me i'm good looking, I derss very well, skinny jeans, normal hair, tennis shoes. Doesn't change anything though, atleast not in my experience.

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    Default Re: Still not getting the girl

    Sound like you want girls to approach you..I use to be like you..

    Change your way of thinking. If you don't make things happen then no one will.

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    Default Re: Still not getting the girl

    Hey Bud,

    Its you r mindset man. My advice to you would be to make friends with as many guys as possible . Then you will meet the girls in their group and it will get bigger and bigger.

    If you don't know how to, just find anything in common that you guys have; Music, movies, sports, a tough professor @ uni etc.... also, go out to bars, clubs, anywhere there are people. Start up random conversations at the library or the mall. You have to get used to doing these things and a whole world will open up!! good luck!!!

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    Default Re: Still not getting the girl

    Quote Originally Posted by pwonager View Post
    Sound like you want girls to approach you..I use to be like you..

    Change your way of thinking. If you don't make things happen then no one will.
    I have approached at least a dozen girls. I was blown off every time.

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    liquid_fun21 is offline PUA in Training
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    Default Re: Still not getting the girl

    Quote Originally Posted by inter1010 View Post
    Hey Bud,

    Its you r mindset man. My advice to you would be to make friends with as many guys as possible . Then you will meet the girls in their group and it will get bigger and bigger.

    If you don't know how to, just find anything in common that you guys have; Music, movies, sports, a tough professor @ uni etc.... also, go out to bars, clubs, anywhere there are people. Start up random conversations at the library or the mall. You have to get used to doing these things and a whole world will open up!! good luck!!!
    So far I have like 35 friends on Facebook, that's after I put a lot of effort approaching strangers, which by the way, most people with 500+ friends don't do anyway.

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    Default Re: Still not getting the girl

    Join a ton of clubs and get involved in like habitat for humanity and various campus activities. College is more like a social game. If you're not apart of anything then you're not really anyone worth talking to.


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