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    Default what did i do wrong with this girl? text convo included

    met this girl at a park new our houses (we live very near to each other). both have dogs and we started talking last thursday. conversation lasted 10-15 minutes, pretty flirty, she asked me the time and i made her bet a drink on whoever was closer (i was, are you kidding me? i'm a genius at guessing the time). sent her a text a couple of hours later then texted a bunch friday, never meeting up. we texted a bit sat and then she invited me out to meet her and her friends. here's where it gets confusing for me. hug when i first met, very focused on me. flirty vibe. do a little dancing and then i cash in the free drink. exchange IDs (birth dates, last names, etc) and then she says something that i can't here (cuz i never lean in, like a boss). she grabs my face and speaks directly into my ear. then i take her face and kiss her. really good kiss from her, nibble on the lip, she seemed to be totally into it, no resistance. i say eww, you got lip gloss on me and i'm gonna have to give it back to you. kiss her again. then she proceeds to get awkward a little later, then more and more awkward. four of us part ways, have trouble finding a cab, eventually find one and i get dropped off first (i called the shots with the cabbie to let me out). here is the entire text conversation. why is she acting weird?

    me 8/23/12 9:38 PM Hey [her dog name] fun shootin the sh1t w u earlier (tell ur owner she wasnt 2 bad herself)
    her 8/23/12 9:45 PM Haha Oh hey [my dog name]. Good meeting you. Your owner was pretty cool but don't tell him. I think he already knows.
    me 8/23/12 11:14 PM Oh i c uve been texting my dog...there r stiff penalties 4 such unscrupulous behavior which ill mete out when we grab a drink...lets plan 4 this wknd
    her 8/23/12 11:26 PM I refuse to acquiesce to said penalties wihout being allowed to state my case. Perhaps tomorrow. I tech have plans all weekend but I can make i can squeeze in drinks somewhere.
    me 8/24/12 8:22 PM Ill let u st8 ur case but u better wow me! what r u up 2 2nite
    her 8/24/12 8:40 PM At a friends. And you?
    me 8/24/12 10:03 PM in [part of city X] 4 a bit sounds like ure able 2 squeeze in that drink u owe me
    her 8/24/12 10:04 PM Haha I'm in [nearby but different part of city Y] on a roof deck.
    her 8/24/12 10:40 PM Where are you?
    me 8/24/12 10:41 PM [avenue name] ave
    her 8/24/12 10:43 PM That's a long ass street. What bar?
    me 8/24/12 10:56 PM Actually in [part of city X] now
    her 8/24/12 11:01 PM Bar?
    me 8/24/12 11:10 PM Im actually walking 2ward [bar 1] & what do i c? the chocol8 martini capital of the world
    her 8/24/12 11:11 PM Haha [bar 2] of course
    me 8/24/12 11:18 PM Im grabbing a drink at_sign [bar 3] meet me there
    her 8/24/12 11:23 PM Haha so farrrr
    me 8/24/12 11:25 PM U come here & maybe theres a trip 2 [bar 2] in ur future
    her 8/24/12 11:27 PM Oh really? I'm further down haha
    her 8/24/12 11:28 PM Closer to the end of [notable street in city]
    her 8/25/12 12:03 AM I'm gonna go home
    me 8/25/12 12:04 AM no choc martinis 4 u then
    her 8/25/12 12:05 AM Haha no. I gotta be up at 8
    her 8/25/12 12:06 AM And we drank 3 bottles of wine
    her 8/25/12 12:15 AM I lied staying here. Have fun!
    me 8/25/12 12:18 AM Where is here? u clearly wanna meet up so lets do!
    her 8/25/12 12:18 AM Haha still friends house
    her 8/25/12 12:30 AM Gonna head back to [part of town we live in] soon
    me 8/25/12 1:29 AM [part of town we live in] or [bar with similar name to our neighborhood]
    her 8/25/12 1:34 AM Just got home. Night.
    me 8/25/12 7:08 PM tough time connecting last night huh r u always this tough 2 pin down?
    her 8/25/12 7:10 PM Lol not at all. I'm just not normally inclined to ditch friends haha
    her 8/25/12 7:13 PM I told you I had a lot of plans this weekend!
    her 8/25/12 10:27 PM I'm gonna be in the downtown area tonight. Text if you're around
    me 8/25/12 10:53 PM I think i will b in that area where u goin exactly
    her 8/25/12 10:54 PM [bar 4]
    her 8/25/12 11:59 PM You coming out?
    me 8/26/12 12:01 AM lookin 4ward 2 cing me 2 eh? b there in a few
    her 8/26/12 12:03 AM Haha just checking up on you old man
    her 8/26/12 2:38 AM Sorry the night took a downward turn. The cab debacle sucked. Honestly I wasn't ready to kiss you. I wasn't expecting it so I didn't know how to react.
    me 8/26/12 2:43 AM Dunno what ure talking about 2nite was fun
    her 8/26/12 2:45 AM Haha glad you had fun!
    me 8/26/12 2:48 AM Yeah les do it again soon. have a good nite
    me 8/26/12 10:10 AM Dog date 2day u me & the dogs what time u free b4 2?
    her 8/26/12 12:21 PM Idk out at the moment

    she told me a story about chocolate martinis at bar 2 when we first met and i kept the theme up.

    what did i do wrong to make her go cold and what is my damage control?

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    Default Re: what did i do wrong with this girl? text convo included

    My friend....she just told you the reason why she got cold. You went for the kiss too soon. I know she didn't show any resistance, but its like getting a phone number after talking for just a couple of min. It doesn't mean anything if the interaction beforehand wasn't solid. She may have done it out of social obligation. Sounds strange, but some women do it because they are caught off guard and don't know what to do other than follow along. Then afterwards all your cocky/funny behavior comes across as needy. Such as trying to make plans almost a week in advance, then try to meet up immediately after she didn't show much interest in making plans initially. She showed alot of resistance when you pushed for an immediate meet up. Also planning a week in advance shows that you are putting your time with her on a pedestal.

    Remember there is such a thing as overgaming. The point of cocky/funny is to set the stage where you can reach a real level with her. A real connection. Which will convey to her that she has EARNED to see that side of you since you don't show that to anyone. THIS is a good time to think about the kiss. When you show her that she means more to you than a set of breasts.

    If you think this sounds corny.....good. Then that means you should definitely start experimenting with becoming vulnerable with a woman to create a connection with her. Cocky/funny only gets you so far with most women and others it'll be enough because they are looking for booty calls.
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    Default Re: what did i do wrong with this girl? text convo included

    Damn bro,

    That was a lot of txting. Also if your ever trying to meet up just call her. I got tired of reading those things. Imagine txting them??

    I really dontlike txt game. Just 1-4 txts per conversation should be enough, your not winning her over by txting her everyday. Your losing!.... Get to know her in person so she can emotionally connect with you. Use txts to set up meetings. Period.

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    Default Re: what did i do wrong with this girl? text convo included

    inter, i don't like texting either. but girls do and i've found that by being too pushy with a meetup, they withdraw.

    batman, not sure where you're getting making plans a week out from. but your assessment seems on point. what is my damage control now? how do i salvage this interaction (which felt like it was going pretty well)?


    as an aside, we all know girls like assertive men and hate guys who drag their feet. why am i being penalized for being assertive?

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    Default Re: what did i do wrong with this girl? text convo included

    Quote Originally Posted by wendelson View Post
    inter, i don't like texting either. but girls do and i've found that by being too pushy with a meetup, they withdraw.

    batman, not sure where you're getting making plans a week out from. but your assessment seems on point. what is my damage control now? how do i salvage this interaction (which felt like it was going pretty well)?


    as an aside, we all know girls like assertive men and hate guys who drag their feet. why am i being penalized for being assertive?
    You spent too long in "general chit chat" about I'm at xx bar" & "Now I'm at XX" bar... etc...

    You started off great... but then hung in that stall-out stage for too long.

    You need to take more time with the fun/flirty stuff for a bit, so that she can't wait to meet up. Some girls take more prep-time than others too.... so you have to be able to gauge where she is, in order to know if she'll be receptive to moving ahead.

    Also- don't stay on any topic for too long (Even the chocolate martinis) you can run something fun into the ground by constantly hitting that same thing too much.
    (So you want to make sure you're aware of that kinda thing too.)



    I'd give it a couple days, & re-initiate with something completely fresh & new. Just remember to keep it fun & flirty for a while & branch off into other topics when she gives you little clues/leads in her replies.


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    Default Re: what did i do wrong with this girl? text convo included

    I also think you should give it a few days. Be fun a flirty like tmalonetn said and careful with the cocky/funny. If she isn't laughing then its just cocky.

    Right now you have to get her chasing you. In my opinion, I think you chased her away after the kiss. No way of really knowing that because some women would be into it. But as PUAs we like to play a solid game, alot of the time, to increase our chances to the max.

    Time is also part of your game. Leaving in the middle of a text convo or waiting a few days or a week to text and even waiting to respond back all count. I mean it when I say you don't always have to have to most clever line. This will make you fall into the idea you have to entertain her to get her attention. I've gotten great responses because at the right time I would say "Oh", "Ok" ,"Lol" Just the create that empty space that can create tension.

    Its like, even though you can say really funny or clever things, too much will STILL come across as needy. So use it sparingly. Simple can be more.

    I believe that push/pull is a more advanced form of building attraction compared to cocky/funny. I highly recommend it.
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