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Thread: how do i keep her interested

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    i've been talking to this girl like every day this past week,i think she got a little upset over the weekend and she now thinks i'm just some kind of player who wants nothing more than a good night, she has been kinda cold lately, but her twin sister secretly told me that the girl really likes me and thinks i'm realy hot! but when i talk to her she's cold about it. she wants an ltr and i wouldn't mind it,but how do i convince her that i'm not just there for sex. any help is greatly appreciated

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    Default Re: how do i keep her interested

    Quote Originally Posted by meteora View Post
    i've been talking to this girl like every day this past week,i think she got a little upset over the weekend and she now thinks i'm just some kind of player who wants nothing more than a good night, she has been kinda cold lately, but her twin sister secretly told me that the girl really likes me and thinks i'm realy hot! but when i talk to her she's cold about it. she wants an ltr and i wouldn't mind it,but how do i convince her that i'm not just there for sex. any help is greatly appreciated
    Hey man,

    I have more or less the same problem with a chick that i have been dating for the past week. She is terribly worried that i am bullshitting her when i make her understand that i would gladly have a LTR with her. I can tell she wants to believe it but past experiences are holding her back.
    What i did and am currently doing to deal with this is reversing the script. What i mean is i would say things like "sometimes i feel like a piece of meat when you do/say thing s like this"..."what is happening to me"..."stop taking advantage of me"...which always makes her smile and end up kissing me. I also show genuine interest in what she is doing. She is a GRS dancer (Gymnastique Rythmée Sportive(French) --> Dunno what it's called in English sry. But anyway i have been bugging her by telling her i would be there to see her...which she absolutely refused. Now one week later she tells me i can come but that i will have to deal with her jealous cousin and father. "Let em come, i aint worried, they will love me XD" Once again showing that i have no intention of taking advantage of her be-a-u-tifful body...


    So yeah there u go, i hope this can somewhat help you...

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    Default Re: how do i keep her interested

    Sounds like you need to build comfort.

    I saw a diagram once where attraction (sexual) is opposite comfort. If you get to the extreme of attraction, the girl will think of you as a jerk/player and will hesitate to open up because she fears being hurt emotionally. At the extreme of comfort lies friendship where no sexual chemistry takes place.

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    Default Re: how do i keep her interested

    Quote Originally Posted by 1000steps View Post
    Sounds like you need to build comfort.

    I saw a diagram once where attraction (sexual) is opposite comfort. If you get to the extreme of attraction, the girl will think of you as a jerk/player and will hesitate to open up because she fears being hurt emotionally. At the extreme of comfort lies friendship where no sexual chemistry takes place.
    so what exactly are you suggesting? how do i build comfort and attraction at the same time without loosing this girl? she seems realy attracted but is kinda uncomfortable

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    Default Re: how do i keep her interested

    If she's already attracted to you, you can be her 'friend' for a bit. Don't take this the wrong way, don't become a wussy. I'm sure you can find a lot on the subject of building comfort around here.

    It might take some time. Not everyone trusts a new person immediately. I remember a gf that was crazy about me but it still took a couple of dates spread over several weeks before we became close enough.

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    Default Re: how do i keep her interested

    you have to DHV dude, use some push pull techniques, you said that you were talking like everyday? that's wrong, give her the gift of missing you.

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    Default Re: how do i keep her interested

    Quote Originally Posted by IShadow View Post
    you have to DHV dude, use some push pull techniques, you said that you were talking like everyday? that's wrong, give her the gift of missing you.
    shoot thats what i've been doing wrong i need to stop seeing her every day, sometimes its hard to see our own mistakes xD


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