I'd like to ask for a piece of advice.
I kissed a friend of a lady I've been dating, she's now mad at me. Should I go to her place (she gave me her address), be bold, say I want her and ask her out; or should I do what I plan to: don't talk to her and move on, if she wants to see me she'll do the effort (i'll most likely see her in a week). I don't see apologizing as an option, I've shown I like her.
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I dated a lady (I call girls ladies, just a warning, I'm the real deal in gentleman-like behaviour) in June or so. We met by early June, had sex on the first time we saw and then after a couple of weeks of her chasing me we went on a date. It went great, we kissed in the end nothing else happened cause I had a business trip the next day.
So we kept in touch and we were hitting it on. We pretty much clicked and we stayed in touch for a month.
I got back home we tried to see each other but it never happened. I had another lady-friend (she has been a friend so I'll call her like this) that had signs of liking me quite a lot. They both know each other and are pretty close to one another. While I couldn't see the lady I was dating I saw her friend, with nothing intended other than just catch-up and get some extra points with the one I was dating. No kiss in the end, just a fun "date".
A few hours after I went to a friend's place and my "lady-friend" was there (lets call her 'Josephine' cause it's a short name and it makes this funnier). She was far too flirty and for some reason I let myself go. We made out and we were about to have sex if it wasn't for my mate being there in the living room with us.
I knew this would be trouble eventually. Played it cool and last tuesday I noticed "my lady" (lets call this one 'Albertine') was acting a bit weird (less kisses after texts and shorter sentences). After one of this texts I just stopped replying.
One day after a friend of mine told me she was upset with me and she told him I was picking between her and Josephine.
To be honest I've done enough to prove her I am interested (believe me) in her, not in Josephine. So this behaviour annoys me quite a bit, even though I'm aware that kissing her friend was wrong and I regret that. I'm far too impulsive some times but we weren't in a relationship at all.
So my question is simple: I haven't spoken with Albertine since last Tuesday (over a week now) and still have her text "on hold". I think apologizing is out of question because it just shows weakness and tbf I did nothing that I can apologize for. I'm a big fan of "actions speak for themselves". Sending her flowers would be a sign of weakness from my view.
It leads to two options:
- Go to her place (she gave me her address once) and be bold, say I'm interested and ask her out ("force her out" haha) - I ask your opinion on how long should I wait to do this (if I should do it) as I'm most likely going to see her in a week or so; ALPHA behaviour
- do what I'm thinking of doing: don't say anything, move on and whatever happens happens.
I do like her, we have close personalities and she is beautiful. I would love to date her and who knows what else.
But I've learnt that there are far greater problems in life so I can give up on her like that. I just like to be sure that I do everything I can to get what I want.