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Thread: Met her at mall (friend of a friend), now what?

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    Default Re: Where to go from here

    Quote Originally Posted by whitedragon View Post
    Some examples could be some mild negging/teasing. 'I hope you're not always at the mall eating Mac and Cheese?'. Or 'so I shared my dream, what do you dream about? Tell me about some of your recent dreams'.

    Really though, one of the easiest ways is to get her to do most of the talking and you can trigger this by asking good questions. Not questions like 'what's your favourite color?' but questions like 'What is the happiest thing that happened to you in the last week? How did it make you feel?'. That question also potentially puts you into the picture. She may reveal meeting you was the happiest thing that happened to her. In fact if you want to be bold get her to admit to things first 'did you miss me?'. 'So why did you come out on a date with me?'. You are empowering yourself as the catch and honestly its a fairly straight forward confident thing to say. Most girls will go queasy and say it 'Yeah I missed you' or 'Well you seem like an interesting guy'. Or slowly you can get her to reveal a few of her insecurities, they almost always eventually do if you get them yapping on about their life: 'Oh I look terrible in high heels, I trip over everywhere'. You don't need to be mean but engineer it so she blabs on and on. She will think you both had a great conversation even though it was her that was doing all the talking. Because you patiently listened to it all (well maybe you got up and left she ends up being so boring) she will be attracted to you.

    This girl has actually already revealed her attraction to you and is chasing you by feeding you food, showing physical interest (beaming radiant smile). If you really want the ego of getting her number (its a minor detail and I don't know why everyone is obsessed with numbers and text games - it is pussy we want) then ask her out and start organising the date without asking. Somewhere along the line she will probably ask for it because you have 'forgotten'. But honestly it's irrelevent who asks who. She likes you, you will get her if you remain cool. You don't neccessarily have to be Richard Gere, just don't be clumsy. Most of the time when girls start to blabber on they end up saying the clumsy things and you are elevated by default. Also group situations can be worked to your advantage. The other week when I first met a girl we were around her friends. They had never met me but a few of them could see our mutual attraction and they teased her a bit in front of me. It was perfect. She got negged by her friends and it elevated me even more. I didn't have to do a thing...but she had to try just a little bit harder to win my attention. Good luck
    Here's what I've got so far:

    Fed me? Girl I'm a grown a** man haha. That's ok though because I let you hug me, free of charge. Clearly this means that you want me to have your number, but I'm not worried about that. The food was the good part. Only this time I'm thinking French, it's been a while since I've been to Paris... in Pittsburgh . Who knows, maybe I'll let you feed me Creme Brulee, if your good

    Thoughts!?

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    Default Re: Where to go from here

    This would work if she is already very attracted to you. Otherwise it risks coming across as arrogant.

    A good way to measure woman's attraction if the IOIs aren't so obvious is to use a compliance test. Get her to do something for you. The smaller the task the easier it is for her, but may not reveal how much attraction. A larger test would tell you she is really attracted if she does it, but is risky if she isn't and she will resist. Use your best judgment. If she resists then just take a few steps back and build some more attraction.

    Also watch your investment level. This is a very long message and risks her answering in one word or just one sentence which would show that you have invested more than her in the interaction so far.
    "All things are subject to interpretation. Whichever interpretation prevails at a given time is a function of power and not truth."

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    Default Re: Where to go from here

    I need to learn patients haha. You suggest a test, but I'm not sure how that shows attraction. Examples?

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    Default Re: Where to go from here

    Quote Originally Posted by Bimmer View Post
    I need to learn patients haha. You suggest a test, but I'm not sure how that shows attraction. Examples?
    Ask her out. She'll say yes. Try not to be too cocky. Observe what effort she has gone to for the date. If she has tried hard to make herself look good you are home free. Dont dwell on it all too much, be yourself, have fun and kino escalate.

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    Default Re: Where to go from here

    Now I'm second guessing what I wrote. Does it come off too arrogant? Ehh, I'll just add another smilely face . I'm fine on the feild, like I said, it's IMing & texting that I struggle with. I really appriciate the feedback fellas.


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