Re: 1 year and no progress... help.
allow myself to chime in for myself.....
your situation sounds lot similar to mine in a way.
I'm in the military. I been in for a while and unfortunately due to my rank I can't hang out with many people. The dudes/chics of lower rank can get me in trouble if I hang out with them. The dudes/chics of my rank are all married with kids. The dudes that are not married are freaking CHODES and don't know how to act. The lower my value when I'm out with them because of how they act. You know the type....
Anyway. The question is how does this help you?
Since my only boy who was down for whatever and knew how to carry himself left to Cali which makes me fucking hate him because Cali is awesome! I am now forced to roll by myself. Like you stated it is nerve wrecking but whatever after the first time where I flopped badly it was so pathetic.... I said fuck it I challenged myself so I still viewed the whole thing as an achievement.
Anyway, I been out since then and suddenly it hits me. On the first joint I go into I know I'm gonna flop. It just a warm up. I leave to another place and do cold approaches in this one also, now I'm getting there. I hit a third joint and BOOM! I'm yapping away with people. Other people talk to me. I do magic tricks and gets them going. I show it to guys and they wanna learn them. Dudes/chics comment on my fedoras and shake my hand, put on my hat, give me kisses and so on. The guys, I use them for value so I don't look like a weirdo or a loser. The ladies well you know what I use them for and that is to find that one pretty little creature that's gonna have fun with me. At the end of the night I have new friends, the bartenders now recognize me and give me props and the list goes on.
What am I getting at? dude just roll with the blows, every night you go out you are a better man then you were before. In one way or another you are going to learn something new about yourself. If you flop yeah it may hurt a tad bit but brush it off and move on. When a chic blows me off I just keep moving. Why stay there and entertain her ass? trust me!
Also, I tell you this much. Sometimes you will see a dude approach a chic that's in a set of 2 or 3 or whatever. He might be rolling solo so last night I tried something new and just moved in on a set that a dude was running game on and was hurting. So basically I winged his ass and I didn't know him. Now I have 3 new drinking buddies and all because I stop giving a shit and just roll with the blows.
Don't beat yourself down just learn! every night go home and write down as much as you can of what you did and could have done better. Then go out again and do it again only better.
My sticking point is 3 second rule and little by little I'm getting better but the only way to do it is not giving up bro. Just suit up like batman and roll!
Hope that helps!
To my bros who served with me.
"When it comes your time to die, be not like those whose hearts are filled with the fear of death, so that when their time comes they weep and pray for a little more time to live their lives over again in a different way. Sing your death song and die like a hero going home.”