Re: I'm new here, I need some advice.
Thanks for visiting. Your situation is very interesting. I have some insights, but feel free to be skeptical.
She definitely is looking for comfort or validation. I've recently had the same situation where a woman Im seeing (and is very special to me) gave me the whole "it feels like a one way street. You dont tell me how you really feel blah blah blah." I almosted blurted out "Are you on your period or something?" lol. Only because I KNOW I've said/shown alot of things that strongly imply how I feel and even some things that are just outright how I feel. From a logical standpoint it didn't make sense. But from an emotional standpoint it made perfect sense. When dealing with emotional issues its best to focus on changing her MOOD, not her MIND. Plus I have an issue with reinforcing the behavior that if she whines about it, then I'll give her that validation. I rather give her validation when she does something that I like and not because she nagged me about it.
However she still needs SOME validation. One of my favorite things is roleplaying. Its fun and you can get heavy without getting serious. For example: I love playing the husband wife role. I'll tell her that I'll be the housewife and she goes to work. And if she doesn't take me out and tell me how pretty I am she won't get sex for a month.
Its fun and lets them know you're thinking about the future, even if it is a goofy way.
The simplest answer to building a connection with a woman, however, is to show her that you understand her world, and get her to understand yours. Talk about cheating or the divorce rate. Maybe world hunger or fostercare. Make a moral standpoint on something thats relevant to her.
These two ingredients should help skyrocket the relationship between you two and help build intimacy and comfort.
"All things are subject to interpretation. Whichever interpretation prevails at a given time is a function of power and not truth."