Re: calling a girl out on flaky behavior... ever ok?
This is exactly what I've been noticing. Its different if this is a brand new woman who really has no investment or stake with you. She doesn't care and that's why you pretend its all cool.
You have to be a man with standards. Eventually she will care and that's when you start to show her that things she does upset you. If you built enough attraction that she takes you walking away as a loss in her life then definitely call her on it.
Being "cool" about everything only teaches her ......guess what......that you're COOL with everything. She will definitely take advantage and flake. She will go on a date with a guy she KNOWS will walk away if she messes up than with you because she knows "you'll be cool" about it.
You've already slept with her so you have all the rights to do this. Tell her simply "I don't associate myself with people that behave that way." This totally cuts her off of your fun reality and her heart will drop since she is no longer welcome into your clubhouse. (Best clubhouse in the city mind you)
I had a woman who I was dating regularly (slept with) go through a phase for about a month of constant flaking and me being cool with it. Eventually I got fed up and when I bumped into her at the club I waved her off and went and danced with other girls for the rest of the night. She was pissed for the rest of the night and even text me "Have a goodnight asshole" to which I responded "Thanks you to." Long story short she began to put more effort. Its been a few months since and she actually makes plans to see me and follows through. It blew my mind. So i think everyone needs to STOP being COOL about everything and show that she upsets you. Just don't turn into a spazoid.
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