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    Default Re: calling a girl out on flaky behavior... ever ok?

    If she is self-centered tell her she is a flake and deep freeze her. Self-centered chicks if you ignore her will not care about what you think or care if you not part of her life anymore. So I agree with the others including lockdown and batman which is to throw a huge NEG out there and let it go.

    If she cares about you as in you and her built chemistry and her friends like you and u k-close plus f-close her and then she suddenly becomes miss flakey. You let her know that she is flaking, you make sure its a cliff hanger NEG. One of those NEGs you know she is going to ask her friends about and they will spend days trying to figure you out.
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    Default Re: calling a girl out on flaky behavior... ever ok?

    Please remind me TopGun about cliffhanger texts? I dont think I bookmarked that yet )if a thread exsists of course.

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    Default Re: calling a girl out on flaky behavior... ever ok?

    I recently went through the same thing you did - Met a girl at a bar, made out, got her number, and she's initiate contact with me once or twice a week. She'd ask me to meet up, then cancel the last minute, or if I asked her out she'd put up her bitch shield and turn into an ice queen on me.

    I tried turning down offers to hang out at first, but she still kept being flaky. After about a month of silence from her, she texted me last week about something funny that happened to her. I decided to play a game - I sent her a "Hah hah!" Followed by "Who is this, by the way?" If she texted me back I'd tell her I decided to delete her number to free up some space in my phone, implying that she's been wasting my time. She never responded, so I think I got rid of her.

    Girls who play games or flake aren't worth your time. First of all it shows disrespect to you, and it shows neediness/loser mentality if you allow her to string you along. Girls like this are narcissistic - They're only thinking about themselves, and in the event you do get involved with them they'll make shitty partners. Talk to any girl you know who's a flake, chances are she's all about ME ME ME!!!

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    Default Re: calling a girl out on flaky behavior... ever ok?

    @LexS

    Standards . I love it. Lots of truth in that.
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    Default Re: calling a girl out on flaky behavior... ever ok?

    Here is an update on my girl that "flaked". She asked to talk with me privately, sent me a bunch of text messages. And then when we finally met she says that she wants to date.

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    Default Re: calling a girl out on flaky behavior... ever ok?

    @Anuks... she did this after u did what u were doing or after u re-initiated?
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    Default Re: calling a girl out on flaky behavior... ever ok?

    Lockdown, she re initiated contact with me, by texting me. Then when she sees me again, she asks to speak to me privately.

    Now she is wanting to date me. Personally now I think it's better NOT to call out a woman on flakey behavior. However in this particular case I felt it was appropriate. Take it by a case by case basis.

    Also..One reason for flakiness, is not building a strong emotional connection. Focus on that. Don't focus on the flakiness.

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    Default Re: calling a girl out on flaky behavior... ever ok?

    The last thing u said is very true ... also, u can cut off the flakiness sometimes by negging them ahead of time.

    "Well, i'll give u my number ... but are u flakey? Cuz u look flakey and that annoys me like hell."

    But its not a typical thing to do often because they could care infer that girls flake on u often.
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    Default Re: calling a girl out on flaky behavior... ever ok?

    Quote Originally Posted by LockDown View Post
    I appreciate your viewpoint ecudes. But the point in calling out a flake is this: Deepending on the situation, a girl may never find out where u were without her. I mean, some women i deal with live a little way off so its not like they check up or talk to my close friends.

    If you tell her what u did without her, then u are basically bringing it up anyway. The having a good time without her thing is a given. It is required. No question.

    But when you call out her flake, if u do it from a relaxed, indifferent mindset it shows confidence. U can describe all the fun u had all u want, but when someone tries to convince u they had a great time... isnt that showing approval seeking?

    All other guys tell her its ok that she couldnt come... other guys never speak to her again... some never bring it up.... calling her out is something most guys would never do. It marks u as different (again, as long as u arent saying it from an emotional, needy place)

    I never said you should TELL a women about the "fun" you had without her. Thats stupid. Dont put words in my mouth.


    And yes, Your absolutely right, if someone tries to convince you they had a great time, thats the epitomy of approval seeking.

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    Default Re: calling a girl out on flaky behavior... ever ok?

    I always call people out for flaking. My time is important and I'm not very patient. Not being affected, as well as not putting up with BS behavior seems to me to be a core tenet of being alpha


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