Top 10 Stats
Latest Posts Loading... Loading...
Loading...
Loading...
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
Loading...
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

Results 1 to 7 of 7
  1. #1
    Padda is offline Aspiring PUA
    Points: 79, Level: 1
    Level completed: 58%, Points required for next Level: 21
    Overall activity: 0%
    Join Date
    Sep 2012
    Posts
    17
    Points
    79
    Level
    1
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts
    Rep Power
    9

    Default Just need some help figuring out what is happening here.

    Hi

    Before this girls left for summer we were getting along great and i kissed her on the 3rd time i meet within a week just so i wouldn't be put in the friend zone. we were constantly talking almost everyday and almost over at her place 3 times a week. When she was away we spoke as much as we could.

    When she came back i picked her up from the airport and she had got me a bottle a vodka as a present. That day we spent around 4 hours together I didn't kiss her but all the IOI's were there. We spoked a few times that week but it didn't feel the same as before and i starting to over think things but on the sunday i ask her out for dinner and she said yes.

    while out at dinner all the IOI's were still there. she was telling we should watch a film this week aswell just like we did before she while almost lying on top of me . I stupidly agrees to take her and her friends to IKEA through the week. ( i know i should have declined and said I'd take just you) so the night week on. When i kissed at the end of the night her she went a bit awkward and didnt say anything. ( i asked one of my friend and she said the she was shy something tells me otherwise) but after we left the place we got around the corner and she grab my hand and held it ( in my head im thinking "yes") walk her near her house and kissed goodnight and we parted ways.

    When i took her and her friends to IKEA we were left alone and she hunging me and asking my opinion on things. we didn't kiss or anything that night. But her friend did invite me to his party tomorrow.anyway that was two days ago we haven't spoke and the party is tomorrow. Should i text her and ask what the plans are? i was only thinking of going for an hour and not drinking and making some excuse and leaving early.

    So thats the background. The problem is im over thinking and wondering why she isnt talking to me. Do i have to build the attraction again? But also she has been moving house aswell hence why she wanted to go to ikea and she is sorting all of her stuff out for uni.

  2. #2
    haterplayer is offline Aspiring PUA
    Points: 111, Level: 2
    Level completed: 22%, Points required for next Level: 39
    Overall activity: 0%
    Achievements:
    100 Experience Points
    Join Date
    Sep 2012
    Posts
    5
    Points
    111
    Level
    2
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts
    Rep Power
    0

    Default Re: Just need some help figuring out what is happening here.

    IT sounds like maybe there's another guy in the mix possibly. Not for sure - just a possibility. My experience is when hot turns cold and weird there's another guy (or girl) involved somehow.. I say be direct and confront but not in a needy way - if she admits there's another guy and acts like she wants to sit on the fence - then just make like you have no need for her. Don't compete - act like you could care less - and you will win by default.

  3. #3
    Padda is offline Aspiring PUA
    Points: 79, Level: 1
    Level completed: 58%, Points required for next Level: 21
    Overall activity: 0%
    Join Date
    Sep 2012
    Posts
    17
    Points
    79
    Level
    1
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts
    Rep Power
    9

    Default Re: Just need some help figuring out what is happening here.

    She's from Finland and spent June to the end of August there and she studys here in Glasgow for like 7 months of the year. Are you sure of this possibility? Because why would she still show IOI's to me. When I first kissed back in April she backed away said 'did you try to kiss' there was an awkwardness for like two minutes and then she jumped me.

    I'll ask her tomorrow then. If she says yeah there another guy what should I say? My mind usually freezes when I hear something like that.

  4. #4
    Padda is offline Aspiring PUA
    Points: 79, Level: 1
    Level completed: 58%, Points required for next Level: 21
    Overall activity: 0%
    Join Date
    Sep 2012
    Posts
    17
    Points
    79
    Level
    1
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts
    Rep Power
    9

    Default Re: Just need some help figuring out what is happening here.

    If you could give a run down of each scenario like what to say for either answer that would be great. It's just to get an idea of tone and what to say to her just so I don't blow it.

  5. #5
    haterplayer is offline Aspiring PUA
    Points: 111, Level: 2
    Level completed: 22%, Points required for next Level: 39
    Overall activity: 0%
    Achievements:
    100 Experience Points
    Join Date
    Sep 2012
    Posts
    5
    Points
    111
    Level
    2
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts
    Rep Power
    0

    Default Re: Just need some help figuring out what is happening here.

    Well a girl can still give you an IOI while having other guy on the line.. I'd just say straight out to her like this:

    You: It seemed like we had something good going but now I get the feeling you're changing your mind. Thinking - maybe you're talking with someone else - that's cool - but I'm not waiting in the backseat so good luck with you and your new boy (be sure to say BOY.)

    At this point if she's not seeing anyone she will say so and you've indicated very clear interest, confidence, and alphatude. She will know that it's now up to her to respond to your advances in a more direct way. Either way you win - because she thinks that playing it too cold she's doing something wrong so she's likely to play it hot (which is the point.)

    IF she responds that she has been seeing someone.. Say simply.

    You: I figured that was the case. You're fine and all - but I don't have time to play little boy-girl games. Good luck with your new BOY - but if you get an itch for something more you've got my number.

    And that's that.. if she says something and tries to have her cake and eat it too simply deny her and move on. Don't dally too long after that - make like you're walking away.. any conversation past that point should be with your back turned to her. Being dominant in that situation is all about the willingness to walk away on your part.. if you look unwilling to walk away then she will walk all over you.

    Any more questions? Otherwise happy hunting.

  6. #6
    Padda is offline Aspiring PUA
    Points: 79, Level: 1
    Level completed: 58%, Points required for next Level: 21
    Overall activity: 0%
    Join Date
    Sep 2012
    Posts
    17
    Points
    79
    Level
    1
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts
    Rep Power
    9

    Default Re: Just need some help figuring out what is happening here.

    Thanks for the input

    Basically she flaked on me for two meeting. The first flake was to watch a film at her house but on the day I got a text saying "I'm sick in bed. Up to you if you still want to come over tonight". She made it out as if she ill so I responded with "thats cool. Some other time" later on i found she is stressed and home sick.

    The second one was when I was in the shopping centre (mall) with my friends and she was going with her friend. she could have made the effort and came and seen me but she didnt and text saying sorry i missed you.

    So last night I got fed up and text her

    "hey, It seemed like we had something good going but now I get the feeling you're changing your mind. That's cool. I feel as if we should leave this. I'm glad I met you"

    and in response to that message i got

    " Hiya, I totally understand what you're saying and i agree with you. I've had a great time with you. I'm sorry it didn't work out. take care."

    So i got my answer and i should move on. But would there any chance of pulling it back? I know i should just go out and let her see that I'm enjoying myself.

  7. #7
    Padda is offline Aspiring PUA
    Points: 79, Level: 1
    Level completed: 58%, Points required for next Level: 21
    Overall activity: 0%
    Join Date
    Sep 2012
    Posts
    17
    Points
    79
    Level
    1
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts
    Rep Power
    9

    Default Re: Just need some help figuring out what is happening here.

    I was drunk when i sent that text last night.


Similar Threads

  1. I don't know what's happening
    By Bimmer in forum General Questions
    Replies: 6
    Last Thread: 09-08-2012, 01:11 AM
  2. Need help figuring something out gents
    By ridemyr1 in forum General Questions
    Replies: 5
    Last Thread: 06-16-2012, 10:54 AM
  3. A relationship happening without asking?
    By DarrenA in forum Online And Text Game
    Replies: 4
    Last Thread: 06-03-2012, 12:04 PM
  4. What is happening!!!
    By 20Nation in forum General Questions
    Replies: 2
    Last Thread: 07-20-2011, 01:29 PM
  5. WHY IS THIS HAPPENING!!
    By PT-Swagger in forum Approaching, Running Sets & Building Attraction
    Replies: 10
    Last Thread: 02-20-2010, 01:44 PM

Bookmarks

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
  •  
DMCA.com