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Thread: Epic fail! Her HUSBAND called me!!!

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    Default Epic fail! Her HUSBAND called me!!!

    Wow... i'm kinda shaken up by this but its exactly the kind of thing i guess i need help on. This came out of nowhere so its seems very surreal to me.

    Met a customer at work. We hit it off. She had kids so i didnt take her seriously (this was back in AFC days). Plus being an afc i was like 'she only likes me cuz she can get stuff from me.' But she wasnt a flirter in the true sense. She seemed very genuine but with low self esteem. Soild HB8. So within a year i start seeing she is serious. She tells me she loves me.

    We hang but me being an AFC, i really dont see long term potential so i let her down easy. She says she wants to be friends so we hang like one time after and text every so often. Flirting was very minimal. I had changed jobs so that avenue of seeing her was closed. Last time i saw her as of today was 14 months. Last text was July (she claimed she had a new phone and didnt recognize my number). She seemed normal and after i said 'oh so u forgot me? Maybe its better this way' she as all 'nonono. I want u in my life.' I still had some feelings for her and thought she would be good for a fun date.

    Ok so her bday was coming up. I leave a message with no name saying simply its me congrats blah blah. Send a txt few days later saying same because no response.

    Guy calls me claiming to be her husband asking if im cheating with his wife. I panic and say i have no idea what he means. I say i was looking for a friend to say happy bday and must have been wrong number. He didnt mention my name and thankfully i didn't mention hers on my message. I assured him that he needs to calm down its a mistake and that i had no intentions to go after that person.

    Really bad response I know. I'm thinking now i should have been completely honest because I didn't do anything with her. But really, i dont even know if he was her husband. People use the phrase pretty loosely around here. I didn't give any of my info at all so i guess im safe but. Shook me up cuz She never mentioned she was even seeing someone. She never even told me that info when she was a customer and i had to know it. Im sooo confused right now guys!
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    Default Re: Epic fail! Her HUSBAND called me!!!

    lol well at least its a funny story.
    im on a different level

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    Default Re: Epic fail! Her HUSBAND called me!!!

    Dang dude.. i would move towns lol, but seriously dont stress over ut.

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    Default Re: Epic fail! Her HUSBAND called me!!!

    -u should have asked her if she's seeing anyone else or at least ask about the father in a subtle way
    -yes u're answer was sketchy he surely knows she is seeing someone else
    -don't worry about it, but if he somehow (slim to none chance) comes to confront u come clean
    "The world will never change much less become what you want it to be. The only thing that can change is you. Face your fears, grow stronger and become what you want to be."
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    Default Re: Epic fail! Her HUSBAND called me!!!

    Thanks guys for the support and advice. I dont know what i was looking for as far as advice though. I guess i just wanted to know how to handle it in the future. Actually, i feel kind of fortunate becuase this is all a misunderstanding. There is nothing that actually happened between me and the HB. And even if there was, it's HER fault she didnt tell me. If we DID have a sexual relationship and she didnt tell me, thats on her. I would feel bad for the other guy but his issue is with her not me.

    And XAVIER: All she ever said about other guys was that her baby daddy came around trying to kick it to her once in awhile. She never made any mention that she liked him. She even would tell me that she couldnt meet guys like me at the clubs she would frequent once in a while. Being as I was an AFC, i really couldnt read her like i can now. Looking back, its interesting that she skipped out on a few friendly dates i made with her in the recent past. Back when i met her, she was there a half hour early all the time. Its like something did change and she wasnt honest about it. Plus, the guy could be her boyfriend and just called her his wife to. Scare me. I am sure he is WAAAY more paranoid about his relationship with her now than iam about the whole situation lol


    Again, i am glad it happened in a way. Its an interesting case file for my archive (and yes i journal about my field reports and stuff). I think that i went through this experience while i transitioned from afc to Rafc is very educational.

    And BTW i had a great weekend and didnt even think about this whole thing until today!!!
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    Default Re: Epic fail! Her HUSBAND called me!!!

    I think you handled it well. Uts not your problem and you don't owe him anything.....she does. If things do escalate (really doubt that) then like Xavier said....just let him know what's going on. Sympathize and then move on.
    "All things are subject to interpretation. Whichever interpretation prevails at a given time is a function of power and not truth."

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    Default Re: Epic fail! Her HUSBAND called me!!!

    I agree with previous writers. I can't see that you´ve done anything wrong. She apperantly just happen to have a jelous husband, not your fault and a pity for her...

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    Default Re: Epic fail! Her HUSBAND called me!!!

    One last thing i forgot to ask...

    What if she calls me? I dont want a relationship with her. And she may want to know why our friendship dried up (assuming hubby didnt tell her what he did or he is really just a stalker lol). Right now i am blocking her number. This is best right? Because while it may be interesting to just find out what the hell is goin on, i really have nothing to gain. Its not like she and i were close friends.

    EDIT: i just realized my original post may have been confusing. I just want to clarify that when he called me, i pretended i didnt know her and even gave a fake name for the girl i was pretending to contact. I.e. why did u call kim? She's my wife! And i say i thought this was Jessicas number. Lol total AFC haha
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    Default Re: Epic fail! Her HUSBAND called me!!!

    I wouldn't worry about looking AFC. You hear stories all the time about what love triangles do to people. If that costs me a few cool points then so be it lol.

    Honestly if she really is married and that really was her husband I wouldn't even pursue it. The effort it takes to maintain that romance is going to get you invested so much that guys fall in love because she is unobtainable. They neglect the fact that it's just that forbidden fruit tastes so good and is not real love. And I myself wouldn't think I was above such a strong emotion that forbidden fruit brings so I wouldn't even entertain the situation for fear of falsely loving her lol.
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    Default Re: Epic fail! Her HUSBAND called me!!!

    It seems like you dealt with it safely, i choose to have a back up plan though just incase since ive hooked up and done alot of stuff with married, engaged and relationship women in the last 2 months, i think my count is around 9 or 10 women. I have martial arts but i have a large metal pole under my bed just incase
    Men, we need to value our time more then we value women. This isn't to say women are not valuable. But who are we to believe in something so illogical, as men we should realize that without our time(life), we would not even be able to pursue women, but only our mother who gave us life. Why do we think we should prioritize them over our time(life) unless she is the one who gives me/my children life. Man is Sovereignty.


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