Wow... i'm kinda shaken up by this but its exactly the kind of thing i guess i need help on. This came out of nowhere so its seems very surreal to me.
Met a customer at work. We hit it off. She had kids so i didnt take her seriously (this was back in AFC days). Plus being an afc i was like 'she only likes me cuz she can get stuff from me.' But she wasnt a flirter in the true sense. She seemed very genuine but with low self esteem. Soild HB8. So within a year i start seeing she is serious. She tells me she loves me.
We hang but me being an AFC, i really dont see long term potential so i let her down easy. She says she wants to be friends so we hang like one time after and text every so often. Flirting was very minimal. I had changed jobs so that avenue of seeing her was closed. Last time i saw her as of today was 14 months. Last text was July (she claimed she had a new phone and didnt recognize my number). She seemed normal and after i said 'oh so u forgot me? Maybe its better this way' she as all 'nonono. I want u in my life.' I still had some feelings for her and thought she would be good for a fun date.
Ok so her bday was coming up. I leave a message with no name saying simply its me congrats blah blah. Send a txt few days later saying same because no response.
Guy calls me claiming to be her husband asking if im cheating with his wife. I panic and say i have no idea what he means. I say i was looking for a friend to say happy bday and must have been wrong number. He didnt mention my name and thankfully i didn't mention hers on my message. I assured him that he needs to calm down its a mistake and that i had no intentions to go after that person.
Really bad response I know. I'm thinking now i should have been completely honest because I didn't do anything with her. But really, i dont even know if he was her husband. People use the phrase pretty loosely around here. I didn't give any of my info at all so i guess im safe but. Shook me up cuz She never mentioned she was even seeing someone. She never even told me that info when she was a customer and i had to know it. Im sooo confused right now guys!