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    Default Asked her to have a Drink... She repsonds Maybe

    So, I have been getting my hair cut by the same stylist for about the past 3-4 months. I feel there are IOIs beyond the normal banter during a haircut. I finally work up to asking to her to have a drink with me, and her response is a little giggle then "Maybe". Here is where I got confused, as we walk to the front of the salon so I can settle up, is as if I didnt ask.. and she says "Thanks, I'll see you next time"..

    I followed up with giving her my Business Card and Cell number, and said "If you would like to get together for a drink, just drop me a text or message".

    Is this the best way I could have handled the situation? My thought is she will not call, as I get the impression she is a little shy. I get my hair cut every 3 weeks or so, and am planning to let it ride till then and test the waters when I see her next.

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    Default Re: Asked her to have a Drink... She repsonds Maybe

    There could be many reasons for why she responded that way. So your assessment of her not contacting you is very likely, but there's always a slim chance. Maybe she was caught off guard and didn't know how to respond other than her business persona. Maybe she has a boyfriend that she's been on the fence with and not sure if she should call you or not. Many things. After a few days she would've absorbed the situation and would have made a decision.
    "All things are subject to interpretation. Whichever interpretation prevails at a given time is a function of power and not truth."

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    Default Re: Asked her to have a Drink... She repsonds Maybe

    Great points... And it seems likely that your first thought is very possible. I don't get the impression that she has a BF as she is going through a divorce, and we have spoke the last few times about what she has been doing socially. She says she has meet a lot of new people this summer... but She never mentions a BF, even when I asked if she has been to any good restaurants recently..

    In any case, I appreciate the feedback!

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    Default Re: Asked her to have a Drink... She repsonds Maybe

    I finally work up to asking to her to have a drink with me, and her response is a little giggle then "Maybe".

    Which means yes. A girls maybe almost always means yes.

    I followed up with giving her my Business Card and Cell number, and said "If you would like to get together for a drink, just drop me a text or message".

    Is this the best way I could have handled the situation?

    My thought is she will not call.

    Your thought is probably right. This is where you tripped up. Men are the leaders and initiators. You should have gotten her number.

    Next time get her number or set up the date right then and there.
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    Default Re: Asked her to have a Drink... She repsonds Maybe

    Thanks Cody. That is what I was thinking as well.. I was ready for either Yes or No... Maybe caught me off guard.

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    Default Re: Asked her to have a Drink... She repsonds Maybe

    Is it better to ask for the number first, or to ask her to go out for a drink directly?

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    Default Re: Asked her to have a Drink... She repsonds Maybe

    It's better to start flirting before asking for a number or going for a meet-up.
    Women want to know it's going to be fun, before they commit to something.

    Also- next time:
    Instead of saying "If you would like to get together for a drink, just drop me a text or message".
    Be more confident & put it in a way that expresses that you already assume she's gonna want to.

    "Ya know, the guy at XXXX bar makes the best margaritas you'll ever taste in your life! You totally need to roll with me this Friday & we'll grab one... or two.... or... hahaha! Let me get your number so I can give you more specific details about the time & all that fun stuff."


    You're not "asking"... you're telling. You're showing confidence & decisiveness. You're demonstrating you have a plan AND presenting in a way that's going to make her curious & look forward to going.


    But definitely be flirtier before you offer to take her out, or go for a number. You'll have a higher success rate that way.


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