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    Default How to handle my GF who is not that into me.

    My gf lives an hour away for school and I just get the feeling that shes not as into as I am. She hasnt invited me out to visit her yet and its been about 3 weeks. I figured she would want me to come out welcome week or a tailgate but guess not.

    When I do ask her to hang out she checks w/her sister first. For example she came back to town one week and we hung out, she txts me hey were coming back early! So we go out. While out w/her and her sister, her sister starts getting a bunch of txts from people back at school wondering where she is. My gf said yea we came back cause nothing was going on but now that were here everyone wants to hang out. Feels like she just came back because nothing was going on at school. How should I react to something like that?

    My roommate says the next time she wants to hangout just simply tell her you cant because there are more fun things to do. I need some advice onhow to handle this. I want to tell her she sucks at being a gf but I dont know how to do that without coming across as AFC. I think I should start being more alpha again, because I did become a bit afc at the beginning when we became official.

    Edit: for the record I havent hung out with her everytime she wanted. the first 2 weekends I did, the next one I told I cant because of forces outside my control and the 2nd I told her Im simply too busy.

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    Default Re: How to handle my GF

    Have you considered breaking up with her for a different girl who would better appreciate your time? Reconditioning women is a very difficult process and one often not worth it when you have other easier, just as enjoyable options. We are creatures of habit; she has gotten used to your AFC tendencies and will not like the alpha transition. Of course, you can do it if you really want it, but do you?
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    Default Re: How to handle my GF who is not that into me.

    Haha thats not my original title but it sure hits home

    But thats the thing Im not sure if I want to but at the same time I think I could pull it off. I just have no idea how? We've been seeing eachother for 6months or so and for the first few months I was your normal Alpha male and she texted me all the time than I became a bit AFC because thats what she said she wanted, should've stuck to my guns on that. Now how do I go back to that while still keeping the relationship alive? Do I verbally address it or just do me and let her come to me?

    A couple weeks back I wasnt interested in hanging out with her and she kept asking me what was wrong, but I just said Im fine. To me that says there is a chance it could work.

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    Default Re: How to handle my GF who is not that into me.

    Break up with her man. I don't get the vibe that you really like this girl. You only wanna make it work cus you're afraid you won't have other options. Most alpha thing you can do is break it off. TBH I wouldn't be surprised if she's cheating on you. If she hasn't yet she probably will. You're her back-home bitch, you give her AFC attention meanwhile she parties it up at college. Call it off now before you get hurt. Find a girl who actually likes you. You deserve it.

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    Default Re: How to handle my GF who is not that into me.

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    Default Re: How to handle my GF who is not that into me.

    I do get the feeling that Im the back home bitch but to be fair she just moved to college a few weeks ago and we started being official a week before she moved. Before that we hung out every weekend. She doesnt party like normal people. Sure she goes out to the club but she's never been drunk before.

    Im not really considering other options because I do like her but if she keeps acting this way I dont see it lasting much longer

    Her last few boyfriends broke up with her once school started. although she stayed behind and they moved away, and she said I better not do the same thing to her this time when she moves.You really think I should call it off?

    She is a HB9 if that makes any difference, I think it kinda explains some of her behavior. That and she doesnt want to get too attached right away because of what happened with her past relationships.

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    Default Re: How to handle my GF who is not that into me.

    It's a long distance relationship. They don't work. Coupled with young age and college, just disastrous. She has baggage, which will complicate things tenfold. Now you're in a hole 20 layers deep. You are holding yourself back, becoming incredibly AFC and Beta. She is stepping all over you already. Just forget it. Move on.

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    Default Re: How to handle my GF who is not that into me.

    I would def leave her be. 6 months with a gf usually will show her true tendencies. For example, if she never flaked before she might start. I usually call the first 6 months in a relationship bullshit months, stick around that long and you will see why.
    I would not put the effort in to try and handle her personality, or to put her in her place. It would be too much work when you can just work on you and start over.
    Btw you never want to slip up and become a AFC at anytime because all it takes it one time for all that work to go down the drain.

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    Default Re: How to handle my GF who is not that into me.

    despite the harshness here it's fair, even though Cody isn't with us anymore he's still right, as is everyone else here, you'll most likely want to realise that she's trying to guilt trip you into staying with her, so when she moves she still has you, i mean if she appreciated you to begin with you wouldn't be having this issue and coming to us, just friend zone her Lel

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    Default Re: How to handle my GF who is not that into me.

    Agree with the other lads cut her off your much better off with some one who actually wants to be with you.

    Freeze her out and see what happens. the only person you can change is YOU, you can't change anyone else.

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