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    Default How to GET RID of a girl

    Here's some backstory: A little over a year ago I met this girl at a friend's party. She was kind of cute, but the thing everyone liked about her was she was insanely busty. About a month later I saw her again at another party, and we made out. Later on that month we went on 2 dates. The only problem was on the second date she got WAY too drunk, and I ended it early and I sent her home. She was acting like a lunatic, and since she made a bad impression I called it off with her. But she kept popping up in the picture since we have a ton of mutual friends.

    A few months after that we got drunk and ending up hooking up again, and we decided to do a FWB situation. It's been fine for the most part, but lately she's been wanting to go out and get dinner, or change our relationship statuses on Facebook, and recently she said she wanted to meet my parents. I keep telling her no fucking way, I don't want a relationship (In general, it depends on if a better girl comes along). We had a talk about this, and she suggested calling it off if we couldn't agree. I told her that was for the best, but as soon as I said that she changed her mind and wanted me back.

    It's almost a year now since we first hooked up, and she's been talking about an "anniversary". I absolutely don't want to celebrate anything with her. She's a cool chick to party with, but that's it. I can't see myself having anything serious with her. In fact, I've been hooking up with other girls the entire time but haven't told her. I just don't see her as being anything other than a chick I get drunk with and then fuck.

    But no matter how many times I try and get rid of her, she refuses. I don't want to do anything brash like tell her I've been with other girls, but I feel like that would be the only way to get rid of her. She has many of the same mutual friends as I do, so a lot of the times if I don't plan on seeing her she's there anyway with some of my other friends.

    And I feel like zero hour is approaching. One positive about her is that her dad is really rich, and she buys me drinks and food when we go out. My birthday was this summer, and she bought me really expensive tickets to see one of my favorite bands. I was all for it when she got them for me, but now I'm afraid that she's going to try and push things further after the concert.

    So, any advice on what I should do?

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    Default Re: How to GET RID of a girl

    Ummmm.... yeah.
    You got yourself in a bit of a pickle there!
    (It's like giving a "stray cat" tuna... Do it one time & they keep coming back... & coming back...)

    You need to just tell her what's up & stand firm with your decision. That's pretty much it.
    There's definitely NO "smooth & easy way" at this point.

    Your only other option would be, to find a new job in another country.


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    Default Re: How to GET RID of a girl

    you realy only have two options,you can continue your cat theory and she will keep chasing you, or you can go afc and make it look like your chasing her (this will destroy the attraction you have created by "playing hard to get")if you go with the second route you have to do the opposite of pua, you have to do things to make her not want to be around you, instead of avoiding her, smother her worse than she is smothering you, be extremely nice to her,send her a ton of realy boring texts,and disobey your manners when your around her along with other unattractive behaviors. all this stuff sounds really afc, because it is, if you act afc around her she will hopefully find a more attractive "natural" to flock to.

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    Default Re: How to GET RID of a girl

    I think cody has a thread called let her down easy which talks about how to do both... get rid of her harshly or nicely.

    And i'm confused... why still fark her??? If your absolutely not willing to date her, then stop the sex. Sexing her will only make her think you guys are close. When u screw her but later tell her you dont like her you are sending mixed signals which will only INCREASE attraction.
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    Default Re: How to GET RID of a girl

    Quote Originally Posted by meteora View Post
    you realy only have two options,you can continue your cat theory and she will keep chasing you, or you can go afc and make it look like your chasing her (this will destroy the attraction you have created by "playing hard to get")if you go with the second route you have to do the opposite of pua, you have to do things to make her not want to be around you, instead of avoiding her, smother her worse than she is smothering you, be extremely nice to her,send her a ton of realy boring texts,and disobey your manners when your around her along with other unattractive behaviors. all this stuff sounds really afc, because it is, if you act afc around her she will hopefully find a more attractive "natural" to flock to.
    This is what I was thinking of doing. The only problem is when you don't want to talk to someone, the last thing you want to do is talk to them.

    It's funny, if I want a guy to screw off I'll say horrible things and they'll take the hint. But being rude or non-responsive to a female will keep them coming out for more. This girl has been MAJORLY clingy, and I'm afraid that reaching out to her will make her cling on more.

    And LockDown, I had no problems with the situation until recently. She's been trying to get together more and more, and she's also been inserting herself into social events I attend - Case in point, a mutual friend invited me to a party at his place, and she basically begged him to go. She's a cool chick and a decent lay, but I can't see myself having anything deeper than her for various reasons (She's a loopy trust fund kid, has had problems with drugs in the past, and lately she's been gaining some weight).

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    Default Re: How to GET RID of a girl

    i hope you've learned from this, if you had taken things slower with her, you could have detected this problem before it got so bad, you need to fight clingy with clingy, even the clingyest girls don't like clingy guys you will graduallyt "unatract" her till she doesn't want to be with you

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    Default Re: How to GET RID of a girl

    I gotcha Lex... and Meteora is right ... take things slower next time. Sometimes, when we want sex badly enough (or it comes easily), we miss certain things about the girl that should turn us off.

    But I think you should be firm with her... I NEVER advise anyone to go AFC just to prove a point... its like taking a step back. Check out that Cody thread I mentioned. It may help you out.
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    Default Re: How to GET RID of a girl

    why am i the only person who ever gives the links to the articles i reference? heres the link to that article lockdown mentioned
    http://www.puaforums.com/dating-advi...down-easy.html
    hope this helps

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    Default Re: How to GET RID of a girl

    She sounds possibly co dependent with addiction issues from your description
    of her relentlessly chasing you, weight gain, and past drug abuse.

    By continuing to hook up and trying to get rid of her at the same time you are definitely sending a mixed message to someone who appears to be a little
    emotionally unstable.

    Unfortunately though on some level you like that attention
    and feel you can have your cake and eat it too. Make a decision and
    go with it or continue on the same merry-go-round.

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    Default Re: How to GET RID of a girl

    because you're a bloody nice guy meteora, no question about it, deadset champion
    Men, we need to value our time more then we value women. This isn't to say women are not valuable. But who are we to believe in something so illogical, as men we should realize that without our time(life), we would not even be able to pursue women, but only our mother who gave us life. Why do we think we should prioritize them over our time(life) unless she is the one who gives me/my children life. Man is Sovereignty.


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