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    Default Need help with HB8.5 who I met on a night out.

    New to the forum, new to the game so go easy on me

    Met a girl out three nights ago. She was overly keen when we met but was hot so I went with it. She came up to me in the smoking section of a club and goes to the same university as me (we hadn't met eachother before this). She told me that she really liked my sweater and that I dressed much better than most guys. I was pretty drunk at the time and not in the best state to use the game properly but seemed like I didn't really need to.. I kept the conversation casual and after about 10 minutes said I needed to get back to my friends so told her to take my number and give me a call sometime. Also told her to give me a call then so I had her number which she wanted to save as her full name so I could add her on facebook. She texted me about half hour after I left the club asking what I was doing so I gave her a call (little bit keen I know...). I said I was having some friends back to my flat if she wanted to join us but she had already gone back to her flat so couldn't. I said ok and ended the convo with something along the lines of, well maybe you'll see me again if your lucky..

    I spoke to her on the phone briefly last night to see whether she was going out that night and she said she was staying in and seemed much less keen on the phone. Told her that staying in isn't exciting and ended the conversation saying I'll add you on facebook if I remember.

    Added her on facebook now and not sure how to take it to the next level. Want to see this girl this girl again and take it back to how keen she was when we first met. Thanks in advance for the advice guys.

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    Default Re: Need help with HB8.5 who I met on a night out.

    I am going to be a bit critical right now so stay with me.

    I do feel that your obvious high-value statements were try-hard. When you told her that you would add her if you remember to, that is an obvious ploy to seem cool. If you wanted to be genuine about it then you would say "Oh awesome!! I will totally add you on FB. I'll do it in a little bit, matter of fact. And you better accept it!!" Then just disappear for about 2-3 days. She will wonder why you seemed so enthusiastic and then not add her. This is TRUE mixed signals because your words and actions don't match. However, this is my own personal style so use what works for you.

    After a 10 min casual conversation you gave her your number and ejected. This is very risky. She did text you afterwords, but now there's been some time and she seems cold. My guess......she wanted a one night stand and you didn't deliver. But I could be wrong. Still though, a woman's emotional state drastically changes from a night club of fun dancing and sexual tension, to a sober woman who has daily duties. She lost the emotional high she was on.

    Lastly...I NEVER trust a woman who shows THAT much interest so soon when I didn't do anything to earn it. Sometimes it is genuine interest. Maybe she has seen me with other women, or dancing, or maybe I fit her "perfect man" look. Whether it's genuine or manufactured, you still have to QUALIFY her. She has to show you why YOU should be interested in her besides looking cute. This helps to solidify any attraction she has for you and also makes you seem challenging, which will make sure that you see her again if you didn't get a chance to take it far the first night. You don't want to seem like she can have you whenever she wants. Become truly challenging by staying JUST out of her reach.

    Now for what I think you should do now...

    For now I just think you should only comment on her statuses. Gauge whether she is still interested or not. If not then you just need to go back to building attraction until it's a good time to PM her through FB. Continue with FB convo as long as she is still cold on the phone. Then build up from there. When you PM her, make sure there's a good reason other than to check on how she is or trying to get to know her. Maybe she said something funny on her wall and your response could NOT be seen by the public. Hope this helps and good luck.
    "All things are subject to interpretation. Whichever interpretation prevails at a given time is a function of power and not truth."

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    Default Re: Need help with HB8.5 who I met on a night out.

    You may have come off smug and conceited rather than
    playful. Consider that she made the first step to come up
    and meet you, and then you appear to get all cocky about it.

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    Default Re: Need help with HB8.5 who I met on a night out.

    Thanks for the comments guys - and don't worry at all about being critical, it's obviously constructive.

    Anyway, bad thing is I was out with my mates last night and drunkenly thought it would be an amazing idea to call her... So I did. We had quite a good conversation but I can't really remember what it was about. Woke up in the morning obviously really feeling stupid for calling her and assumed that was probably it as far it is goes with her, as a drunk call is never gonna put you in the best light, especially as she wasn't out that night so may have woken her up lol...

    Either way, she texted me again today and seemed really cool. Had a bit of banter and she basically invited me out on Thursday, I haven't yet accepted - crazy that she's still keen after I probably embarrassed myself quite badly and even more surprising is that she's a second year so 1-2 years older than me.

    Any advice would be much appreciated


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