Re: Need help with HB8.5 who I met on a night out.
I am going to be a bit critical right now so stay with me.
I do feel that your obvious high-value statements were try-hard. When you told her that you would add her if you remember to, that is an obvious ploy to seem cool. If you wanted to be genuine about it then you would say "Oh awesome!! I will totally add you on FB. I'll do it in a little bit, matter of fact. And you better accept it!!" Then just disappear for about 2-3 days. She will wonder why you seemed so enthusiastic and then not add her. This is TRUE mixed signals because your words and actions don't match. However, this is my own personal style so use what works for you.
After a 10 min casual conversation you gave her your number and ejected. This is very risky. She did text you afterwords, but now there's been some time and she seems cold. My guess......she wanted a one night stand and you didn't deliver. But I could be wrong. Still though, a woman's emotional state drastically changes from a night club of fun dancing and sexual tension, to a sober woman who has daily duties. She lost the emotional high she was on.
Lastly...I NEVER trust a woman who shows THAT much interest so soon when I didn't do anything to earn it. Sometimes it is genuine interest. Maybe she has seen me with other women, or dancing, or maybe I fit her "perfect man" look. Whether it's genuine or manufactured, you still have to QUALIFY her. She has to show you why YOU should be interested in her besides looking cute. This helps to solidify any attraction she has for you and also makes you seem challenging, which will make sure that you see her again if you didn't get a chance to take it far the first night. You don't want to seem like she can have you whenever she wants. Become truly challenging by staying JUST out of her reach.
Now for what I think you should do now...
For now I just think you should only comment on her statuses. Gauge whether she is still interested or not. If not then you just need to go back to building attraction until it's a good time to PM her through FB. Continue with FB convo as long as she is still cold on the phone. Then build up from there. When you PM her, make sure there's a good reason other than to check on how she is or trying to get to know her. Maybe she said something funny on her wall and your response could NOT be seen by the public. Hope this helps and good luck.
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