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    Default Fun playful girl says I'm not getting anything more than friendship

    So I have been talking to this cute bubbly girl, who lives in my hometown which I am moving back to in a week, and I have been trying to get things going between us.

    She is really enthusiastic girl and is a lot of fun, we have spoke on the phone a few times and she insisted on sending me a photo of herself done up the other night to look at "how curly her hair was".

    I was texting her tonight when she asked me if I knew she had a boyfriend, i said i had no idea and made a joke about how it should be on facebook or something. She then said she was just making sure I am only after friendship with her because (i quote) "that's all i would be getting!!".

    Now is this a shit test to make sure I am not simply some other guy trying to get in her pants or is she simply not interested?

    I mean, she hardly knows me well enough to know that she isn't interested, we have only spoke a couple of times over the phone and on facebook/texting, and I can confidently say that she is in my league.

    If anyone has been in a similar situation I would love some advice on what she may be thinking and what the best approach would be.

    I always get the ones who play head games haha.

    Anyway thanks in advance for any advice.

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    Default Re: Fun playful girl says I'm not getting anything more than friendship

    In my experience girls generally do have a boyfriend, but you got to play with it

    I would have responded something like "wow Presumptuous aren't we?". Depending on the context you could tease - "who said you had a chance" or opportunity or whatever
    Or "wow you girls only think about one thing"

    These things are great ways to turn it around and give you back the high ground immediately
    In general you want to be unaffected

    For example last night I was gaming this girl who was a huge challenge every step of the way, but I was enjoying it

    We discussed a comedy date and she was going to give me her number, she was like oh yes I have a boyfriend
    First thing that came to mind "fine so we'll hang out and I WON'T try to get in your pants" lol it was a joke.
    Then a word or two I forget what, she's like ok now I dont feel bad
    Pua - "appropriate disclaimer noted, now give me your number already"

    She already text opened me this morning with light banter

    Who knows what will happen in the field, you figure out if the bf is real then, but when it comes up, dismiss it
    Never need praise, sympathy, or approval



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    Default Re: Fun playful girl says I'm not getting anything more than friendship

    It seems real goofy and a waste of time to me when they start saying stuff like that.

    I dont know if its the approach or they start feeling "slutty" and throw that line out there. Its a must to diffuse the situation and not make it a big deal.

    Like red baron said, flip it around back on her or comment like its not a big deal. Sounds like a test or a wall shes putting up to see how you deal with it.However it could be 100% true and she does have a BF and shes just using you as a boost or as "side filler" just to pass time and to receive that attention shes not getting from her BF. Ive seen it before wheres theres a number exchange and there is an actual BF and shes just making up for lost attention shes not getting from her BF......it does happen.

    I would call her out on it cause you could be actually just wasting your time and effort for nothing.

    Ive had something similar placed upon me, the whole "nature" of the talk was like a your not getting that far with me. And I threw her some offers she couldnt refuse and all that BS dropped...it was a test and was more so a "Can you handle me" attitude. Like a put up or shut up, perform or back off...so I had to perform . She never said anything about a BF but then was trying to put up a wall of defense that I had to blow through to get to some fun times.

    Alot of girls are attention whores and no matter the risk theyll follow thru to get that attention and its a hard judgement call to tell sometimes where shes really at.

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    Default Re: Fun playful girl says I'm not getting anything more than friendship

    I think she doesn't have a boyfriend, I was mostly unaffected with my response (I just said "haha okay sarah"), and moved on to something else, however i got no reply from her.

    I think she just likes the attention when it suits her, i might just take this one as a social calibrating experience and not waste my time.

    Looking back now i wish i had used a disqualifier, i reckon that would have worked excellent. Next time hey.

    Anyway thanks heaps for the advice guys.


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