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Thread: How to proceed now? Pretty complex sarge

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    Default How to proceed now? Pretty complex sarge

    This is a rather complex story, so I'll try to make it as short as possible without oversimplifying.

    I went on this 5-day work trip with another 10 people from my job. The first stage was a 6-hour road trip. I somehow ended up driving alone with a girl, and we got lost. I suppose I did the ultimate isolation routine without even trying! Throughout the day we developed a pretty close relationship, and she grew on me.

    After that, we started flirting with each other. Pretty hard. At some point, everyone thought we were already dating. Things escalated. We met alone at a cafe during a break. I was able to get closer and closer, but never managed to kiss her. Perhaps because my kino game is not that good, because she got a bit nervous when I got too close, or because time was a bit scarce.

    I got a bit confused & frustrated, and showed lack of interest. On our way back by plane, she resumed flirting with me like mad---but it was impossible to kiss close as we were in front of many people. There was a lot of sexual tension, though.

    While at the local airport, she was carrying some of my luggage but suddenly disappeared. I was told that a friend had come to pick her up.

    Next day she resumed flirting a bit at work. I was planning to talk to her afterwards, but she left. I decided to text her explaining my feelings. Pretty bad move. AFC-like strategy.

    She answered that she felt really close to me, but is on a relationship at the moment and is satisfied.

    A girl that knows her pretty well insists that I should keep on moving forward. She says her relationship is not going anywhere, and insinuated she was probably trying to replace her boyfriend with me, but that I acted too fast.

    How should I proceed now so that she doesn't loose interest? I haven't had the opportunity to talk to her since the messages we exchanged. Shall I try neg hard? Is all hope lost?

    I think there's a high risk of being friend-zoned or that she losses interest (she knows she already got me). I've never dealt with such a particular situation before, so I'm completely lost.

    Thanks,

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    Default Re: How to proceed now? Pretty complex sarge

    One thing to do when a sarge gets messy: drop a bomb! Read this

    From what I see here, this is what I think: you're confusdes? Time to level the playing field and throw some confusion her way. Mostly you've been in isolation with her and been flirty right? So she can assume you're interested. But from now on, let her see you being playful and flirty with kino with EVERYONE (women and men) you're just a high energy and outgoing guy - this will confuse her as to whether you're attracted to her or not.

    Within the bombshell model you're through Opening and Transitioning, so while you're being a fun and flirty guy with everyone build more attraction until it's sky-high - then when her compliance is definitely high turn it hugely sexual the way kino describes.


    Another idea would be to work a jealousy plotline. Read this and raise attraction / stay out of the friendzone.
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    Default Re: How to proceed now? Pretty complex sarge

    I think you gave yourself the advice.

    I personally don't like to deal with a woman who wants to get a replacement boyfriend. At least on a serious note. She will have too much baggage and theres a risk she will just go right back to him.

    If you want to keep pushing then go for it. Continue with flirting and don't reveal your feelings....ever.... .again. Not until you sleep with her. Not kiss, not feel on her *whistle*. I mean full blown doing what they do on the Discovery Channel. That's the only time you ever reveal. Before that is just messing around. Tell her you love her and want to get married, then say you hate her and want the divorce, but you get to keep the house. This is roleplaying and I personally love it.

    Read up on qualification. This will really make you seem like a challenge and her eyes will be stuck on you rather than her bf. Also read up on bf destroyers.

    Again this situation isn't my particular taste, but everyone has to go through it at least once. Hope this helps and good luck.
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    Default Re: How to proceed now? Pretty complex sarge

    Thanks for the helpful replies.

    One more thing:

    I'm pretty sure she'll come to talk to me tomorrow about the messages we exchanged last week. Remember I said I liked her, and she said she felt close to me but had a boyfriend.

    I need a good strategy. I'm a bit afraid of having destroyed the whole sarge by revealing my feelings too soon. So I need to get on top of the situation again. What would you do?

    If she doesn't come to talk to me, I'll eventually bump into her at work. Shall I bring up the messages? I feel a bit awkward if I don't do so, since we always talk face to face, so ignoring the messages would be weird. My plan was to play some negs, but I'm unsure how.

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    Default Re: How to proceed now? Pretty complex sarge

    Use her bf as a "deal breaker" disqualifier - meaning make it clear that you are no longer interested in her. That will solve that problem, then do like BatMan said : no IOIs + build attraction + qualify + BF destroyer = close.
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