Last night a buddy and I went out to this dance party at a bar where we usually meet a lot of girls. The past 2 weeks were pretty damn good for us, but a lot of times it's a bust. This time it seemed like all the girls were either with guys, or they were with other girls and kept shooing all the guys away.
There was this one group of girls who it felt like were shadowing a friend and I. Any time we'd try to dance with them they would just ignore us, and usually spin around the other direction and keep dancing. But they always seemed to be around. One of them kept bumping into me, so I jokingly said "Hey, you're dangerous, I'd better watch out for you!" She play bumped into me, so I play bumped into her, and then she play bumped me harder - And I grabbed my arm and pretended to be in pain. It got a laugh out of her, but she went off again.
I've heard that it's a sign that a chick likes you if she seems to be following you and dancing close but sort of ignores you or turns around. It's like their testing you by seeing if you're man enough to go after them. But I can't but feel that it's a sign that they're not interested, since it's a very indirect approach and is sort of counter-intuitive.
There were also tons of girls sitting in booths along the sides of the dance area. There usually are a ton of girls sitting, and I feel like these are the hardest ones to approach since they're probably sitting to avoid people or to just relax - It's a lot easier to approach a girl if you're both dancing. These girls are SUPER stand offish, and so I never bother. One girl was sitting down and a song came on we both knew the words to, and we were shouting the lyrics at one another. So she asks if I have a smoke, and I said "For you?.....Nope!" Wrong thing, and she got really offended. She turns to this girl next to her and they start going all OMGZ DRAMA. I was standing near them for about 30 seconds, and I could keep seeing they were pointing at me with scowls on their faces. I've heard it's good to bring out emotions like that in chicks, since it's better than indifference, but I think I took that neg a little too far, because it seemed like I really struck a nerve with her.
So anyway, any advice on what to do in these situations? A lot of places I go to are like this, so any help is appreciated.