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    Default Should I still continue making a move with this situation?

    I've been messaging this girl on facebook. We know each other before but I just started messaging her when we saw each other around school but we both didn't say hi. We both said we didn't said hi to each other because we both had the excuse that we weren't sure if that was me or that was her(I hope you guys get that).
    Anyway, everything has been going well. She's been laughing a lot at my jokes. She laugh's a lot even though im not trying that hard to make a joke. I was trying to "push" her by saying she was weird. This girl is a little bit famous around our school and everyone was like telling her she's beautiful and all that. So I didnt want to "pull" her that much.
    But the mistake that I thought was, we messaged each other like once a day. We never catch ourselves both online we both leave messages. She messaged me, then I try to message her for a few hours later. But i think I was still too eager messaging her. And now, she didn't reply on my last message but I know she was online. Everything backfired towards me.
    Could I still do something to turn this thing around? Or should I just move on? But I really like this girl so i hope you guys could give me a solution. Im ready to accept if there is nothing I could do anymore. :|

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    Default Re: Should I still continue making a move with this situation?

    It's easy to be over-eager in the beginning! (Believe me, I know from personal trial & error when I was learning early on.. LOL!)

    Your approach to messaging really hot girls should be this:
    Express some interest; but only enough to make her wonder to herself if you really are interested, of if she might be reading into it wrong. (Create a little mystery & curiosity.)

    It's totally OK to compliment a girl on her personality & things like fashion sense & special abilities; (especially if she's artistic) But, don't compliment her on her physical looks until after you already have a lot of attraction & rapport built.

    You definitely want to appear as having lots of options, so don't text bomb her, or flood her with messages.

    If she doesn't respond right away, then wait a couple days & message again, but make it light & playful, with no real substance. There's no need to get too deep in the beginning.

    It's not about what you say that matters at first. (Meaning: don't bother with "meaningful" interaction/conversation yet).

    What DOES matter is, how she interprets your personality. She's gonna have the following questions in her mind: "Is he needy? Is he NON-needy? Is he confident? Is he fun? Is he different than the rest of the guys?" etc...

    If you focus on the outcome instead of the interaction, that's when you'll be most likely to blow it, by being too eager & needy.

    Just relax & have fun! Then the rest will fall into place much easier.


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    Default Re: Should I still continue making a move with this situation?

    Quote Originally Posted by tmalonetn View Post
    It's easy to be over-eager in the beginning! (Believe me, I know from personal trial & error when I was learning early on.. LOL!)

    Your approach to messaging really hot girls should be this:
    Express some interest; but only enough to make her wonder to herself if you really are interested, of if she might be reading into it wrong. (Create a little mystery & curiosity.)

    It's totally OK to compliment a girl on her personality & things like fashion sense & special abilities; (especially if she's artistic) But, don't compliment her on her physical looks until after you already have a lot of attraction & rapport built.

    You definitely want to appear as having lots of options, so don't text bomb her, or flood her with messages.

    If she doesn't respond right away, then wait a couple days & message again, but make it light & playful, with no real substance. There's no need to get too deep in the beginning.

    It's not about what you say that matters at first. (Meaning: don't bother with "meaningful" interaction/conversation yet).

    What DOES matter is, how she interprets your personality. She's gonna have the following questions in her mind: "Is he needy? Is he NON-needy? Is he confident? Is he fun? Is he different than the rest of the guys?" etc...

    If you focus on the outcome instead of the interaction, that's when you'll be most likely to blow it, by being too eager & needy.

    Just relax & have fun! Then the rest will fall into place much easier.
    What's a good example to say to her after a few days if she still doesnt reply? And another question, when we meet again outside, how should I approach her? What should I say or do that doesnt look like i really want her? BTW, i was the same guy you answered on the other topic. Girl on facebook thing. This was kinda like part two of it. =)))

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    Default Re: Should I still continue making a move with this situation?

    Quote Originally Posted by DwightKim View Post
    What's a good example to say to her after a few days if she still doesnt reply? And another question, when we meet again outside, how should I approach her? What should I say or do that doesnt look like i really want her? BTW, i was the same guy you answered on the other topic. Girl on facebook thing. This was kinda like part two of it. =)))
    When you see her in person & want to talk to her, make sure you're flirty & fun. That's the main thing.

    You could start right out with a playful tease like, "What's happenin' nerd-ball?" (Smile when you say it & give her a little elbow nudge.) Then take just another 20-30 seconds to make a few more playful comments & tell her you have to get going to your next class or whatever.

    OR... you could make a comment/compliment on her shoes/boots/top/dress/earrings/necklace...etc.)
    "Wow! Your xxxx is badass! Very cool!!". Then smile & say "I gotta run. Have a bangin' day!" & walk off. That's it. Don't stick around to chit-chat.

    She'll be thinking about that all day long, or at least until she sees you again. And when she does, she'll most likely come over to you & initiate a conversation.

    Girls aren't used to guys doing that. Most guys will try to monopolize her time & get all clingy & needy. (Which is a major turn-off).
    But complimenting her outfit & moving on will spark curiosity... which essentially is what attraction is.

    Also- when you see her again after that; keep up the fun, friendly, flirty vibe & just make her smile, giggle, laugh & have fun. That's all. Don't engage her in a major conversation & build a lot of rapport just yet. (Do that AFTER you get the attraction going.)

    And look for body language cues from her that indicate interest. (Looking down, acting a little nervous, blushing, hair twirling/ moving her hair away from her face, adjusting her clothes to make sure they're straightened out, subtle swaying back & forth/side to side, touching you while she talks... etc)

    When you see those things happening & she really begins to show interest, THEN start working on rapport. (But keep that geared towards light/fun topics at first.)

    Anyway, just remember: be Non-needy & be fun!


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    Default Re: Should I still continue making a move with this situation?

    Doing nothing is still doing something. Just relax and give her a chance to reply. I've had this happen before where they logged in and even made posts. Then after a few days they finally responded. So it does occurr occasionally. I honestly think you should focus on making interesting facebook updates that you KNOW she will want to comment on. If after a few days that doesn't work then message her about something that happened in your day that reminded you of her.
    "All things are subject to interpretation. Whichever interpretation prevails at a given time is a function of power and not truth."


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