Hi, I'm new to these forums and am, like most people, looking for some advice.
1) Is there anything I could have added/edited/removed to make it better?
2) Should my next reply be more blah blah blah, her number or a 'date' request?
- If the latter would taking her dogs for a walk with her down a park/beach be a good first date or not?
Things I'm worried about are:
- I've never been on an official date or really spent much time alone with a girl. I've slept with double digit amount of girls but they have all been one night stands.
- I'm not scared of the 'going up to women part'. My problem is I have pretty poor social skills in general, even when I'm with my best mates. When I'm with just one other person (male or female) whether its someone from work, relative, friend..or anyone, I get very nervous and conscious about conversation. If there is three people I'm completely fine as I can bounce of the others and theres no pressure.
Usually my convos are the interview type. Its annoying because I have a fairly good vocab and can show it when I'm texting or messaging as I have time to think, but in the real world I can never seem to 'access' all the words I know and I come out with plain and boring sentences.
I've often taken a small dose of MDMA before I head out which gets me really chatty, but obviously that isnt a long term solution. Does anyone have some ideas/help?
Anyway, saw this girl who lives in the next town on facebook who is stunning, so added her and below is the convo that follows.
ME: Nice tattoos xx
HER: Thnx xx
ME: No worries. So you are from Latvia but live in England? That is a beautiful part of the world.
Do you work or study? xx
HER: Use to study now I'm working...how u know Latvia.. Usually ppl don't know about Latvia? Xx
ME: We had a pilot at work who was from Latvia, although I'm not sure where exactly. But she once said to me it was a really scenic and beautiful country and I believe her. Riga has always been a place I'd like to visit one day in the future. I've been to Estonia before and absolutely loved it. I find the history and culture really interesting.
Do you go back and visit much?
What have you studied and what is your job? xx
HER: U should go one day then no not going there often didn't been there for two years .. .n I did first year of business then travel n tourism ...n now I work in <local town> at some American company...what u do for a living? Xx
ME: Yeah I'll have to travel there one day, I love going on holiday don't you?
Well I studied aeronautical engineering at <name of college> and I now work on private aeroplanes and helicopters in <city>, but I live in <local town>.
So..... tell me 3 interesting things about you? xx
HER: I love holidays .....
U doing exciting stuff
Oh I don't really know what to tell about me....u ask n I gonna tell everything xx
ME: haha thanks, it is pretty exciting. I went flying last week which was great fun.
Aww you gotta tell me something. You seem like a lovely girl, but I bet your trouble really! xx
HER: Why u think I'm trouble? xx
ME: lol look at you doing the "stick your tongue out " sign!
I bet you're a good girl gone bad xx
HER: I cant help myself....naa im a gd one xx
ME: Hmm.. good girl gone bad?? I know what to do with them.. i'm going to get my fuzzy black handcuffs out from my car. What do you say about that? hah =] xx
HER: Ha ha u crazy guy lol xx
ME: haha crazy can be fun sometimes don't ya think?
What sort of things are you interested in? I saw you have a pet dog in one of your photos, is that yours? xx
HER: Yeah I think crazy usually is fun
Yeah my dogs I have two of them.....I'm interested about lots of stuff but can't really do much of them ....what about u? Xx
ME: Aww 2 dogs, you must be a really caring person? What are their names?
A friend of mine also has a dog and one thing I really like doing is going up somewhere nice like <local town> and taking it for a walk. With the fresh clean air and calm surroundings its just nice and peaceful. Its a great way to get rid of a hangover after a night out clubbing lol
You get up to much on the weekends usually? xx
HER: I am ...I'm nicest girl ever lol
I love doing stuff like that too
Weekend day time shopping then sometimes going out then Sunday I have lazy day....what about u? Xx
ME: Nicest girl ever lol... I bet you have a naughty side aswell tho?
Passionate about shopping, typical girl haha! I think those earrings you're wearing in your profile pic look really lovely on you. I can tell you take care of your appearance and have an interest in fashion?
I enjoy going out for nice meals and drinks. Sunday is always a lazy day lol, especially when the weather is cold and wet like it has been recently. Theres nothing better than relaxing and snuggling up to watch a dvd on a sunday afternoon, don't you think? xx
HER: Everyone sometimes have naughty side
Yeah I love shopping just like typical girl lol n thnx yeah I love fashion n again every girl does
Yeah I love it too...Its always better if u can watch movies with some1 ? U have plans for this weekend? Xx
ME: Hehe yeah you're right we can all be naughty sometimes
Well I have this Friday off but I haven't got anything planned to do, I will probably chill out at home during the day. On Saturday its my best friends birthday and we're going over to <local town> for some drinks as a celebration. What are your weekend plans?
I agree with you, its much more enjoyable when you're watching with someone you can bond with and care about.
Are you seeing anyone at the moment? xx
HER: Mmm not much really...don't wanna go out this weeken...probably gonna be relaxing one....
N no Im not seeing anyone at the moment ...what about u? Xx