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Thread: Help me cure Oneitis

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    Default Help me cure Oneitis

    Hey guys, I'm sort of "new" to the forums here, let me explain.
    3 years ago I was dumped from a 4 yr relationship. It was horrible, broke my heart etc. Anyway, after that I read The Game, a lot of tips on these forums and tried to improve myself in various way. I did very well with women soon after, at least in my book.
    However, BOOM, 5 months later I entered ANOTHER LTR. This one lasted 2.5 years and I just broke up with her earlier this week. It was the first time I broke up with a girl in an LTR. I realized that really since early high school I have been in a string of LTRs. I no longer want this life of giving everything to one girl. I feel whole and happy as a person and I love women, but I don't desire to have to answer to anyone.
    Can you guys please give me any tips for curing my oneitis? I feel like I have been searching for a GF to make me "whole" when I know now that has to come from inside and from being myself.
    Thanks for any feedback.

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    Default Re: Help me cure Oneitis

    Well you have the right mindset so thats already helping!

    I would recommend keep meeting women and instead of LTRs you should look into FWB have atleast two to start afterwards move to three or whatever you can handle. Make sure to let it be known to your FWB where you stand on what type nof relationship you want! If they start getting too attached break it off and find a new one to replace the current one! Remember to keep interchanging them so that you dont get attached. Of course if you like one keep her around for fun!

    I hope this helps, good luck
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    Default Re: Help me cure Oneitis

    Serial monogomy is not healthy, it's a sign on dependency and insecurity

    Definitely good job recognizing where you are and where you'd like to go

    MLTRs are easy to do, had a lot of questions on this recently I'm gonna forward you to another post my friend put on how to run them
    http://www.puaforums.com/dating-advi...exclusive.html

    For now, keep gaming for games sake. Don't stop when you get a number, don't stop when you got 5.

    I've been pretty consistently getting about 4 # a weekend out, follow up with them all. When you have other options, it doesn't matter when one girl flakes

    As long as you know how to approach the situation, you will fall in to MLTR If you keep gaming consistently

    Just, be cautioned - it can be addicting itself, you see things you love about every girl, but none of them seem perfect, changing your mind to settle down after dating 3-4 at a time for many many months gets kinda hard
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    Default Re: Help me cure Oneitis

    Thanks for the great links! MLTR is definitely what my future holds. I will use your tips about being honest before it makes it to the bed. This is part of what has landed me in monogomy I think, finding an HB8 or HB9, building up our relationship and thinking I HAD to accept monogomy in order to have sex. It's like my eyes have been opened to a whole new world of just being me and getting what I want, while still treating women with respect. I need to work on not being afraid of a HB not agreeing to "just-dating" and leaving. I understand now that it is more respectful to let them leave if they are not comfortable with me dating other people, instead of acting the part of a monogomous BF when I can't be that person.

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    Default Re: Help me cure Oneitis

    Sounds like your on your way.

    But I think Red Baron has some good advice. The more options you have, the less likely you will be able to settle down with any one girl. Your standards will become VERY high lol.

    Not necassarily a bad thing. Just something you wil have to get used to should you ever want to pursue an LTR. Because once you tell her your going to be exclusive... even if for a little while... you can't just bail out to be with another girl. YOu gave your LTR your word and backing out would be disrespectful.

    THANKS TO RB for that nice link! Been looking for a way to handle that. Getting to a point where a few girls are giving me the LTR signals but I'm not ready. Your technique sounds great!
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