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    Long story short... Was seeing a girl for 2 months every weekend at her place... No talk o commitment from either of us. She did always invite me over and we smashed etc...

    2 weeks ago she went quite so I sent her a text yesterday:

    Me: Hey spaz. How's your ribs? Anyways I thought you are interesting and fun to be around. We should hang out again. If not then lets just be friends.

    Her :We are friends, ribs are good, i hope ur well, im sure we will bump into each other again. Take it easy.

    I didn't reply then when I woke up there was this -

    Her: Also i just wanna apologize for bein so quiet i had a lot goin on and im just messed up. Nothing to do with u its all me. Hope this msg doesn't wake u Ciao ciao

    I did like her but do have other options. How would you go about this? Thank in advance an a quick response would be appreciated.

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    Default Re: Urgent Help

    I personally wouldn't have given her the option to "just be friends." You want to always assume attraction so TELL her "Hey we're meeting this weekend. I'll grab the movie and you cook. Yea that's right....a real f#%*kn date. Go figure!! Not sure if I should bring flowers or bug spray?"

    She is probably being truthful about stuff going on with her, but you still want to be confident and do alot of the leading.
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    Default Re: Urgent Help

    Thanks batman. Yeah you are right about the friends option. She did always have guys calling her when we were together and she made me pick up the phone so they stop calling. She texted everyday then suddenly stopped so i thought I'd be different and slip her into friends category first to see how she reacts as she didn't reply to a previous text a week earlier... Just fluff text.

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    I think if you are pursuing a serious relationship with her then you should take it to the next level. You may just be hitting a peak so nows the time to show you are interested in something more than just sex. (Assuming she wants to get serious as well) I honestly think at some point you should actually ask her "What's wrong." And have her confide in you. It helps to build rapport and the cool thing is that you most likely don't even have to talk or give her advice. Just let her know you are listening and tell her "It'll be ok" (Being confident and leading).

    Showing a woman that you will be there for her and take care of her is an attraction switch (protector of loved ones) which is a very powerful thing.
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    Default Re: Urgent Help

    I texted her back with:

    Apology accepted. U know communication is a good thing. What's wrong? Hey we're meeting this weekend. I'll grab the movie and wine and you cook. Yea that's right.... Go figure!! Not sure if I should bring flowers or bug spray?

    Thanks for your help!

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    .... Share an update. If it helps other guys then I'm all for it.

    Her: Unfortunately i cant meet up atm iv got alot of stuff to sort out plus im flat out with work which makes it harder. Enjoy ur weekend dont worry about me. Il keep u posted.

    Me: Cool spaz take care speak soon

    I got a feeling her ex is bak in the picture... Maybe reading too much into it. Anyways I'm backing off until she reinitiates contact.

    Thanks again batman!

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    Yea it could be an ex. I never believe the "too much work" excuse. But hey if she reinitiates within a week trying to make plans then maybe it really was a busy time for her.

    Or she dumped her ex bf again lol. Good luck.
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