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Thread: What are key steps to ask her to a date?

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    Exclamation What are key steps to ask her to a date?

    As many of you know I have been wheeling this Hb8, some of you may have seen the texts I posted so far. My goal is to ask her on Sunday to a date, so I work Fri,sat and sun. So I have enough time to build more comfort and flirt some more. I have never admitted to anyone this here but this will be my first time asking a girl out.. I have had girls like me but I have never been interested in em back, should I lower my standards? I get the feeling that less attractive are more likely to tell you but Hub won't. (I am 20, I know pretty sad never had a gf) anyways hopefully I don't wuss out.

    Even though I really like this chick, and their is a chance she might say no. But what can you do u live and you learn. If she says no yeah I will be heart broken and act like a beeyatch for a while but tough shit. (Sorry this got kinda deep but some times you need to tell someone how you feel)

    Back to the post I just want to know what are key steps or any tips u guys can give to someone who has never asked a girl out. I don't know if I should ask her in person or over text message, what do you guys recommend? I would appreciate any insight.

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    Default Re: What are key steps to ask her to a date?

    first of all, ask her in person, i know its scary and everything, but more risk, more reward right? also dude, dont worry about it, a lot of guys have a hard time with this, but whatever you do, dont be a high schooler, the "will you go out with me" only works in middle school when a date consist of a kiss on the cheek behind the bleachers. "do you wanna grab dinner sometime" is a bit cliche but its a classic. try to be more decisive than that by giving a place and time when you first ask, my last ditch resort when i cant think of how to ask her out is "id like to get to know you better, maybe take you out sometime" and if she pauses, i say "hows friday?" just be relaxed about it, act like you dont care wether or not she agrees to go, but if she says she cant, act like you do, keep trying but dont pry for too long. if you dont try to get her to agree more than once she can string you along, you wanna make her feel like this is her only shot. i could go all day, but i think thats enough. let me know how it goes
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    Default Re: What are key steps to ask her to a date?

    Thanks man appreciate the feedback. Oh and I will definitely make a thread how it goes, the way I was wondering was kinda like this "hey my sisters birthday coming up and I need a present idea so come out with me" more of a statement rather question. If I choke I am only letting down myself lol the first one is the hardest. So tomorrow I am gunna flirt, build comfort and rapport. And hopefully by Sunday I will have a happy ending lol.

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    Default Re: What are key steps to ask her to a date?

    yeah man that sounds good, but i would change that last part, "hey my sisters birthday is coming out and i havent a clue what to get her, im going to *** sunday to find something, any chance i could sway you into borrowing me your expertise for the afternoon?" just whatever you do, dont practice this in the mirror, or rehearse your lines or anything, if you do you will only freak out more when you mess up or something goes wrong, just relax and get it out
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    Default Re: What are key steps to ask her to a date?

    the statement works pretty well for getting a number close, and depending on how well you know her, it could work pretty good for you too. when asking a girl out though ive found that you dont want to pressure them. i like to make girls feel like they are doing it because they want to, not because they didnt have much of a choice
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    Default Re: What are key steps to ask her to a date?

    Liking the advise given by dalton. My opinion on this is that you never, ever make asking a girl out a big deal whether you're new or a veteran. One reason for this is because women are very intuitive when it comes to nerves and when you portray that asking a girl out is a big deal it will lead to you showing nerves and in her eyes WEAKNESS. Just make it casual like your asking one of your buddies out for a game of pool or watch some sports, get yourself in that mindset.

    It is your reality and no one should be bigger than your own centre of gravity, that is how you lose your power. Just remember there are plenty more women out there and you are playing a mere game, the trick to remember is that everytime you get rejected you can just respawn and try again. I have been here for 4 months and I'm 19, only a year younger than you but before I started reading and practising the artistry of pick up I was so nervous when it came to asking for a number or a date but now it's almost bread and butter to me.

    Best thing to do when you do ask her out is to have a light conversation about just stuff, don't dwell, keep things flowing and just mention it in a sentence like "Listen, we have been talking for a bit but there's something about you that I just can't put my finger on. I think we should go for a drink/coffee/(anything cool that's casual) on (day you are not busy)" She should comply unless she's busy on that day then say calmly (in a Christian Grey way) "Ok, then what day is good for you". It should work.

    Alternatively what you could do is to find a really nice place around town like a slightly eccentric cafe and drop it in the conversation with "Have you ever been to place X?" she will most likely say no, you tease with "Oh my god, where is your life?! it is incredible, they have these really awesome cakes and the best tea ever! Tell you what, I will take you there if you promise not to embarrass me, deal?" Now what I have just done there is teased her twice just for a date, all must be said with enthusiasm and with a smile.

    I have used both of these things (with tweaks and naturalisations to them) and they have both got me dates multiple times within the last 4 months. These are just things I would do if I where in your shoes. Good luck and happy gaming pal!
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    Default Re: What are key steps to ask her to a date?

    Thanks for the input fellas I am on my way to work right now and she'll be there, I am gunna flirt a bit more today give her attention and then totally switch and flirt with other girls, I have seen the best results from her when I am in company of other attractive females. I think she kinda gets the feeling I am into her ( I would have posted the link to the text combo I had with her but I don't know how but its in under ask a expert just look for mind tricks) even though as I said before that she is much more easier to talk when I text her.

    But be sure to look forward to Sunday for the conclusion.


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