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Thread: Okay I have her.. But I'm not sure If I want her.

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    Default Okay I have her.. But I'm not sure If I want her.

    Well me and this girl have been just friends for about 3 weeks now we hang out like every day. She does have a boyfriend lol. He is like 3 states away though and will be for a long time. We go to the mall we watch movies together cuddling and stuff. I haven't made the move for a kiss or anything else yet because I'm not sure. She is very touchy when I am laying on the bed watching a move she puts her boobs on top of my arm and holds onto my shoulder with her head on mine. She is always teasing me and we are always laughing together. But back to the boyfriend thing. If she broke up with him I don't know If I would go out with her because I feel she would do the same thing with me she is doing to him. I am trying to respect the "bro code" and not do anything until they are over but I am not sure if I can much longer hahaha. My dad was hanging out with my mom all the time when she had a boyfriend but now they are happily married for 25+ years. I'm not sure what to do any opinions?

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    Default Re: Okay I have her.. But I'm not sure If I want her.

    All is fair in love and war. Do what you think is right for you. Is she worth it? Will she do the same thing to you later on? I've been on both sides of this situation and I can tell you first hand that it sucks ass when your on the recieving end and some guy is nailing your girl. It farkin hurts like hell. I wouldn't consider a girl like that relationship material but that's just me. I once put it in a girl and took it out when she said "Oh my God, I'm cheating on my boyfriend". Did it earn me any karma points? I farkin hope so because I'm still kicking myself over that one!
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    Default Re: Okay I have her.. But I'm not sure If I want her.

    Way to go both of you. BF destroying has been gotten pretty common around here, and I'm not really sure if it should. I mean, we are PUA's and we do have an advantage, but I don't see the point of running a BF Destroyer if you just want a lay. I'm going to have to write a post on this...

    Any way, as for your issue, you've just got to figure out if she's gf material. Don't take the fact that she's acting this way with you as a sign that she won't be faithful when you're together. Long distance relationships have that effect. At this point it's a safe bet that her and her BF are dating in title only. Long Distance just can't maintain that emotional and physical relationship. But ultimately you have to make that decision yourself.
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    Default Re: Okay I have her.. But I'm not sure If I want her.

    there's a "guy code"??... you want the girl go for her cause obviously she likes you, dont worry about the girlfriend material thing because as bandit said long term relationships does not have that physical attraction that the both of you share. look at it this way he is bf in title but your the bf person

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    Default Re: Okay I have her.. But I'm not sure If I want her.

    This is a matter of ethics and thus your decision and yours only. Just know that, as the weeks are passing by, the friendzone closes in on you.

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    Default Re: Okay I have her.. But I'm not sure If I want her.

    Quote Originally Posted by railchaser View Post
    there's a "guy code"??... you want the girl go for her cause obviously she likes you, dont worry about the girlfriend material thing because as bandit said long term relationships does not have that physical attraction that the both of you share. look at it this way he is bf in title but your the bf person
    Long Distance, not long term.

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    Default Re: Okay I have her.. But I'm not sure If I want her.

    Wow guys thanks for the quick response. I'm going for the lay but at the same time I would like a nice relationship at this point in time. I guess I could go for it and test it out but I will have a close eye on her if things work out. I've never really thought about a relationship with her until now. Also She said she would like to "warm my lips up" over text message since it so cold outside. If we did go out I feel like I would have to lay some ground rules out and say that I really like you but whats stopping you from doing the same thing to me? What do you suggest to say? Also I have a friend who dated her a while back he said that he was texting her while she was in a relationship before they went out. That is what bothers me because it isn't the first time she has done this.

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    Default Re: Okay I have her.. But I'm not sure If I want her.

    Sounds like you're in a good position and remember...YOU decide the outcome. Personally, I don't think you need to "lay out ground rules" because that has the potential of showing her you're needy...you're a PUA and you can get any woman...start conveying that message to her through your words and more importantly your actions...if she is someone you could get in a serious relationship with then do it and keep her attracted to you!

    After all, if she is attracted to you, she WON'T be texting other guys...she'll be texting you

    Good luck bro!!
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    Default Re: Okay I have her.. But I'm not sure If I want her.

    Ahh very good points thanks, I have also made sure she knows I can get other girls and I on occasion say "your lucky you get to come with me" or things like that joking around but at the same time there is a little truth in there lol.


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