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Thread: Mixed signals, texting vs 1on1 game, what am i doing wrong?

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    Exclamation Mixed signals, texting vs 1on1 game, what am i doing wrong?

    Man I have been mind fucked, been gaming this girl for a while and I am coming to a conclusion that I have absolutely no game when I am face2face. A little background on this Hb8, before started having feelings for her she was a attractive girl at work who most of the guys liked but I wasn't interested until I started talking to her and realized she is funny, smart and has a nice personality. I became interested and actually really like her now.

    The thing is most girls at work think I am a dick/badass.

    The thing is that when I text her she seems into me and flirts but recently has been acting like a different person, doesn't say hello before there was tons of ioi and kino and its gone. I am guessing since she is a attractive girl she can read me and lost interest, or I know I haven't been the bad boy/asshole around her since I started growing feeling for her. Or is it my text game that's better then my 1on1 game, cuz around her I turn into a someone else I get butterflies.. and she definitely knows I am interested and have become a cocky bitch.

    How I can change this I am guessing that I'll just ignore her for tomorrow (use jealousy plots to make her jealous) around wed or Thursday ask her to a date.

    Also around her I completely forget how to flirt and just freeze, if u guys can give me tips on how to improve that and some ideas how u flirt I'll appreciate it.


    Also I am gunna post a text convo I had with her and u guys decide if I am in the friend zone or she is interested.

    Please leave your opinion and ways on how I can improve.

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    Default Re: Mixed signals, texting vs 1on1 game, what am i doing wrong?

    Here is the last convo we had.


    Me: Having fake tea with my niece, Help!! :-(

    Her: Aww that's so cute lol! Are u having fake cookies too?

    Me: Oh definitely, I am guessing your day might not be as exiting as mine :-P

    Her: I wish I was having a tea party!! I'm stuck at university from 2-10

    Me: Ohh.. fun, how's ur sars treating you btw ;-)

    Her: I'm recovering lol! It's a cold geez lol

    Me: Lol people think I am such an asshole..

    Her: No they know u joke around

    Her:

    Me: Hey now don't get so confident I am the type of guy that ur mother warned you about ;-)

    Her: Yea right! That's not true at all

    Me: Ha! I am not that easy to figure out missy, but I know ur :-D

    Her: I'm not easy to figure out lol!! Tell me how I am lol

    Me: I would rather have this conversation face to face, but what exactly do you intend on knowing

    Her: Lol u said you know me so I wanna hear what u think lol

    Her: And I know ur not a bad guy! Just trying to be bad ass lol (lol this made me laugh she was thinking if I said this I would tell her wat she's like lol)

    Me: Lol sounds like you have me figured, or you might be lying to see if I care ;-)

    Her: Who knows lol! I don't have you all figured out lol

    Me: Lol that depends if u want to know me, since I have u figured

    Her: U dont have me figured! Lol

    Her: Tell me what I'm all about lol

    Me: OK then, when I first saw you look super-normal like every girl in the crew but..

    Her: but lol?

    Me: Something gives away the fact that you're a bit wild/sassy. There's a more playful, upbeat side that you dont show, but I can totally notice it. I am guessing some people in life haven't been truthful or hurt you so its kinda hard to trust ppl.

    Her: Lol so u do know me

    Her: Wow that was pretty good

    Her: I am not wild though

    Me: Lol girls are too understand, I guess I should ask my first impressions

    Her: You try to act all tough but I know you're a softy

    Her: also you don't trust people easily

    Me: Ooh you have caught me :-P you better not unveil my personality or else..

    Her: Yea yea im gonna tell everyone now lol.. Watch out

    Me: Oh.. you asked for it get ready for a tussle terminator ;-) ( terminator=nickname)

    Her: Lol bring it on! 8-)

    Me: Whatever! You can't handle this

    Her: watch out

    Me: Lol I am going to sleep, cya later bro

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    Default Re: Mixed signals, texting vs 1on1 game, what am i doing wrong?

    Re: convo... Pretty Nice! I thought you were going into AFC territory with describing yourself too much ('your mother warned u about guys like me' or 'you can't figure me out')... i dont like telling girls stuff about me directly... just dropping hints about myself.

    But u recovered pretty well! The only other thing was maybe u should have told her u would tell her about herself in person to get the meet-up train moving along... other than that i think your doing OK.

    I wont guess about if she is seeing too many IOI's in you. I mean you probably are giving off some, but your PUA training may be keeping them in check. I can never be sure about those things unless you have tangible examples (i.e. you are buying her lunch everyday or something).
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    Default Re: Mixed signals, texting vs 1on1 game, what am i doing wrong?

    Appreciate the fast response.

    I am guessing she has been to much attention from me and definitely might know I am interested so what I was thinking of ignoring and flirting with other girls, using jealously plots to get her hooked. So my plan is ignore her tomorrow flirt once or twice and or ignore her fully for the rest of the day. Around Wednesday or Thursday text her more tease her, be fun and flirty and ask her out to a date.

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    Default Re: Mixed signals, texting vs 1on1 game, what am i doing wrong?

    not gonna critique your texting game as mine needs a little work too but concerning the matter of you freezing up is that you value this girl too much so your afraid to mess up... and as you said she knows that you value her thus making her the prize, In her mind the game is over and she as you figured out but thats were you can surprise her... have you ever noticed that the more you reach for something thats hard to obtain the more you want it and its able to keep your interest but as soon as you get it all the excitement just blows away? this is exactly what your in, she as you figured so she lost interest. Im sure there are other hot girls at work so try the jealousy thing but dont do it because you want to make her jealous(if you do you will still be making her your whole priority) do it because you want to lets say, improve your game(yes just try different things, improve your field game and get comfortable). it wont happen immediately but in time she will become attracted to you because of pre-selection,and you being an alpha... good luck hope this helps

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    Default Re: Mixed signals, texting vs 1on1 game, what am i doing wrong?

    I guess I have learned my lesson that I have become to interested in her and value her too much. It is going to be hard to get me outta this mess. So I have decided to ignore her and go on to the next one. Note to self never again when attracted to a girl fully reveal to her how u feel.

    So my question to you guys is should I give up on her fully? Or still go for her? Because at this moment she is in my head 24/7, and I guess the only way to get outta this talk to other girls.
    Appreciate any input.

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    Default Re: Mixed signals, texting vs 1on1 game, what am i doing wrong?

    no dont give up on her just freeze out and give her a little space let her need your attention more... you should talk to her at times but dont let the convo go on for too long and try to end all interactions with her at a high point(where she is enjoying your company). then sooner or later you will notice her interest in you as grown but when this happens it sometimes fade quickly so pace yourself and live life and strike when the iron is hot...(if your gonna avoid her dont do it all the time, because your not her point of interest as yet).

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    Default Re: Mixed signals, texting vs 1on1 game, what am i doing wrong?

    Appreciate it man actually made sense not ignore her fully since she is not interested. You definitely dropped some golden knowledge bro, much respect.

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    Default Re: Mixed signals, texting vs 1on1 game, what am i doing wrong?

    What's the problem with her knowing you are interested??? Like it's taboo lol.

    Look the key is qualify, qualify, qualify!!

    That is the REAL way to show her you are interested. It gives you a REASON to tell her you like her and not just come out of the blue while you're talking about work or school.

    Of course qualification works much better once she is attracted to you. And by the text convo, you are well on your way. Don't worry about "selling yourself" the way Lockdown mentioned it. You don't TELL women you are a confident SOB. You SHOW her and have her learn for herself. I can say some pretty asshole things. Then when I am called an asshole I respond with "Eh. I do have my moments :P" Then move on to something else. I don't like to say "Oh yea I'm a total asshole."

    Honestly I think you are getting into your own head about it. Relax and ALWAYS assume attraction. Remember, you get women regularly so this is no big deal for you. You are a man and don't have to apologize for your desires.

    What's your goal? To sleep with her? Or to avoid telling her you like her at all costs? I mean...it can be a bit difficult to sleep with a woman without her knowing you ACTUALLY like her lol.

    Summary: Keep building attraction until you know she is interested. Then qualify her so you have a reason to tell her you like her. (Ex: You know you are a really good listener. I'm so used to people just waiting for their turn to talk. But you make me feel like you're REALLY listening.)

    P.S. Different women respond differently to jealousy plots. If she is introverted and a slightly low self-esteem she will just shut down on you and you will be going backwards. It's risky. It's better to use during night clubs when the sexual tension is high and the alcohol is flowing.
    "All things are subject to interpretation. Whichever interpretation prevails at a given time is a function of power and not truth."

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    Default Re: Mixed signals, texting vs 1on1 game, what am i doing wrong?

    I guess some girls change when they find out a guy is interested in her in a way they get cocky and all that attention the guy gives to her head.

    I know what you mean by qualifying but the only way to qualify myself to her is flirt with other girls, give less attention also as rail said to leave conversations with a high. (As I am writing this I just currently got off work and I had been ano asshole to mist of girls and kinda ignored my target only spoke to when needed too and man did I feel different all the girl's were all the suddenly seeking my attention nit saying what I did was right but I had to give em a reminder of who I am)

    So I would like to end this post with really big thank you for Batman as usual bro you made some strong points and I really appreciate the advice. Oh and can you guys gimme some ideas for qualification.


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