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Thread: About to quit - cant overcome AA.

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    Default About to quit - cant overcome AA.

    7 months!!still cant overcome AA.

    hi im 24 years old.still virgin.

    i know abt the Game since april.(for 7 months)
    upto now i have studied each and every PUA material.
    i have read and revised the Game,mystery
    method,david angleo,etc. more than 100 times.

    every day, i wake up,get fresh up,revise prepared
    material(openors,neg s,dhvs etc),
    read inspirational quotes,listen to confidence
    tapes,wear some peacocking items and go into the
    field.

    whenever i saw a girl(s) in the field im getting a
    lot of FEAR,tension,etc.i cant control that.
    i say myself 1,2,3 Go.but my feet are not at all
    moving towards the girls.
    again i say 1,2,3 Go.still my feet are stuck to the
    ground.

    i tried something like 1,2,3,4,5,6,7,8,9,10 Go.
    and also boom,boom,boom go.
    i give a tight slap(s) on my cheek.sometimes i give
    more than 10 slaps.
    i used rubber band to my hand inorder to hurt myself
    for approaching.
    but there is no progress.

    i cant approach the girls even though they
    give me approach invitation.

    finally i return to home with zero approaches.

    the same thing happens not only for day game but
    also for night clubs.

    in these 7 months(120 days), i think i have made
    less than 50 approaches.no #close and no f-close.
    i cant even get a girl into rapport.

    now what i am thinking is,
    i have made 50 approaches in 7 months.
    in order to complete 100 it takes 1 year.
    to get a lifetime girl frnd we have to make at least 2000 approaches.
    it means for me 100 approaches = 1 year
    2000 approaches = 20 years.
    and by the time i complete 20 years i will be 45 years old.

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    Default Re: About to quit - cant overcome AA.

    slow down man, U will find girl, i m sure in that!

    I m also in game for short amount of time, few months like you, still having AA, but i got girls, just go and talk with them, tease them, make them laugh :P Be alpha, they will like it, be confident. There is people who are much longer in game then we are, and i m sure they will help you bro. i just want to say, don't give up, just go out and keep trying and soon u will date :P

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    Default Re: About to quit - cant overcome AA.

    First off, you GOTTA relax my friend. It is tough road, I know.
    This is what happened to me a few years ago...

    So I'm there in front of my computer thinking about where I should go to sarge. Then I think about how to approach. Which openers to use. How to transition. Which attraction techniques should I use. I have this entire interaction prepared in my head about how it's going to go. So smooth, effortless, and clever it's going to be. farking smart. So then I finally get to my sarge location when I suddenly realize that it could totally steer the other direction. Maybe I didn't take into account ALL the variables that I thought I did. Maybe I will be caught off guard and just freeze up.

    Then I'll be so embarrassed and just want to punch my own head. Well I can't approach NOW since I haven't prepared for those scenarios. I have to cover those holes in my game in case something happened that I wasn't ready for. I have to read more. Study more. Make sure I take EVERYTHING into account before I even make another attempt at approaching. But I never feel good enough. I strive for perfection in my game, but never feel like I achieve it. So I'll just keep studying until I get it.

    Then I found out that you can NEVER be perfect in your game. That you can NEVER prepare yourself for what is going to happen. That I was only making excuses to not even try in the first place.

    I want you to take away ALL expectations you have about how the interaction is going to go. She is NOT going to be your gf if you approach. She most likely will NOT give you her phone number. And there's also a good chance she just plain will NOT like you. And all of that....is OKAY. It's part of learning. Mistakes are what build character and you won't learn unless you fark up. She is rejecting your APPROACH, not who you are as a person. And who knows, she may have issues herself that have NOTHING to do with you.

    Accept the fact that you are going to fark up....A LOT. There's no way around it. Only to get through it FAST. You will get rejected, disgusted looks, raised eyebrows, or even flat out "Get away from me." Just be glad this isn't back in the day where there's only 100 people in town and everyone knows each other. If you are in a small town....then travel to a big city to practice. Or even go as far as to move away to a big city.

    This is the ONLY exercise I want you to do right now. To just say "Hi" to everyone you see.

    NO CONVERSATION.

    Just say hi to every woman, man, old, large, small person you see. If you get into conversation then GREAT. But you are busy and have things to do so after a couple of minutes tell them you have to go. If someone DOES NOT say hi back then there's a problem with THEM. Who doesn't say hi back? Ignorant people that's who! Which is not your problem so move on. Do not worry about phone numbers or your body language or tone of voice. Just say "Hi" and keep walking. That's it! This is how I got through it myself and would have been worse off than you if I didn't have someone tell me otherwise.
    "All things are subject to interpretation. Whichever interpretation prevails at a given time is a function of power and not truth."

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    Default Re: About to quit - cant overcome AA.

    I can relate. Here are a few ideas to do.

    For one, when you're overwhelmed don't think about anything beyond your immediate obstacle: approach anxiety. Negs are not a factor, DHV is not a factor GF is not a factor. If you think of the future you will feel overwhelmed by every obstacle you face for then next 20 years: don't do that. Take a breath. AA os your only obstacle today.

    Now the how to: Decide that you will open a set with no intention of negging, DHV or even attempting to hook. You will do this in baby steps.

    I assume you've been to stores before.
    (1) go to a store and ask the clerk where the pepsi is. Hear the answer then leave.
    No big deal.

    (2) walk up to another clerk and ask her where the pepsi is. Get the answer then notice your shirt and say "what is your shirt made of?" After she answer say "Hmm.." then walk away.
    No big deal. Youve had this type of conversation before.

    (3) walk up to a different clerk. Ask where the pepsi is. Notice her shirt, say "what is your shirt made of?" After whatever she says, say "Hmm.. really? It looks like girlfriemd material to me." Smile, laugh and walk away. She'll probably laugh and/or roll her eyes, she might bitch; either way no big deal because you're just walking off to by some pepsi, and you're laughing to yourself because it was funny.

    When you approach a set with the intention of blowing out there is no pressure to succeed. You have nothing to lose
    DTF HB's omw 2 LTR

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    Default Re: About to quit - cant overcome AA.

    i have to agree with these guys, you are over thinking, the point iIm getting at is that you have a ton of time to practice and get good... besides you've still got like 16 years before your a forty year old virgin, odds are you will succeed with at least one woman by then pua is all in your head, you need to go back to the fundamentals, just approach, open, and walk away. you don't have to say anything in particular as long as you say something

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    Default Re: About to quit - cant overcome AA.

    oh autismus i love that shirt material thing, but down to business. this is what your gonna do hero, after you try autismus's idea. first of all where are you located? cuz ill come there and get you laid my damn self care, i dont really car. im gonna be doing a lot of traveling soon and i dont mind another stop. but what you should do is what autismus said but just give yourself a rule of only having three seconds to approach, also, dont put so much effort into it. that just puts more pressure on it and your gonna freak out more when things dont work out the way that they should. just relax, go out in public and talk to some girls, like you do it everyday. your a virgin, that alone puts wayy too much pressure on it.
    If i get a guy some a$$, he gets it for a day; if i teach him how to get it for himself, he's tappin forever

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    Default Re: About to quit - cant overcome AA.

    Brother dont worry about it everyone of us start from the bottom and have to work your way up. My advice to you would be to get a wing man and hi out learn and discuss ideas and learn from each others mistakes. AND TRUST ME I KNOW HOW YOU FEEL LIKE! I would also advise start posting more on the forum and give field reports guys here actually will break down and help you out.

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    Default Re: About to quit - cant overcome AA.

    YOU NEED TO CALM DOWN.

    And just do it. In the words of Andy Yosha, "F*ck up until you stop f*cking up."
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    Default Re: About to quit - cant overcome AA.

    Quote Originally Posted by Cody View Post
    YOU NEED TO CALM DOWN.

    And just do it. In the words of Andy Yosha, "F*ck up until you stop f*cking up."

    Biggest thing i can say is don't bog your mind down with so much information! Just work on saying hi and making small talk with people.

    I got so much better when i realized that talking to girls is exactly that....... small talk with PEOPLE, thats all the are. I'm willing to bet that you are even nervous approaching and talking with a random dude.... work on that first, then it will make it easier with a girl. Like they all said above.... baby steps.

    And trust me.... all of us get aa! Even though i've been laid MANY time, the thought of walking straight over to that random girl at the table still freaks me out as well!!! Its just how you handle it. Also.... try just opening girls that you dont really have to approach..... ones that are right around you, so that it is just natural and a "bump into". This will help you get into the groove instead of trying for a cold "walk across the room' approach.

    Hope this helps!


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