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    DublAK2 is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Stopped texting mid convo. What did I do?

    Hey fellas,
    Brand new here and I won't know a lot of your lingo, sorry. I am seriously stumped so this is why I joined. I'll get right into it and attempt to be concise.

    Moved to a new area, broke up with my gf, and joined an online dating site. I got really lucky in the genetics department so my pictures get attention without resorting to the cell phone/bathroom mirror/abs shot. I also happen to be able to write fairly well when I put forth the effort so that I can come across as thoughtful and intelligent in my profile.

    It all worked out well and pretty quickly I got the attention of a part-time model who I personally think is gorgeous. We e-mailed back and forth a few times. She came across as smart, funny, and knowledgeable in the correct usage of the comma. The last e-mail she wrote me was "You made me laugh haha. Instead of responding with another e-mail, here is my number. Text me. Yes I'd like to get together, I think it'd be fun"

    I was leaving the area for 4 days so a date was a no go for a while. I texted her as she said. We got into a fun text convo about us both being sick, and the next morning she even asked me how I was feeling. Texted a little more on Friday about the same running joke. Skipped communication Saturday. Got back to her Sunday.

    me: Feeling any better?
    her: I'm eating soup at work
    me So is that a no?
    her: I'm feeling better than I was
    her: I'm not dying on the couch anymore
    me: That's a start. You still wanna give this 1st date thing a shot this week or u still going to be licking your wounds?

    ....Then no response. What the eff did I do? Zero mixed signals until the non-response. That was hours ago. I did NOT respond and I left it alone for now. Any advice on the next step?

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    pua_wannabe is offline PUA Forums Respected Contributor
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    Default Re: Stopped texting mid convo. What did I do?

    Leave it alone for today, get back to her in a two days or so, by then I'm sure she will be feeling much better!

    Dont let this waiting period mess with your head, I know it sucks but it is neccesary! Go be proactive make some new friends, go sight-seeing, go workout, the main thing is to go do things you want, things that will keep you busy. By doing this you have some interesting story's for your first date and maybe more!

    Lets avoid looking desperate! Lets make you look more interesting instead!!!

    Good luck Bud!
    Take her off that farking pedestal!

    “The truth does not change according to our ability to stomach it.”
    ― Flannery O'Connor

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    whitedragon is offline PUA Forums Respected Contributor
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    Default Re: Stopped texting mid convo. What did I do?

    Yeah she was sick and you sheepishly asked 'so are we going to give this date a shot?' almost hinting that failure is a possibility. Just continue to build attraction and wait for better timing when her pendulum for having fun is on the way up. Don't ask her about her sickness anymore - women are practically always sick anyway so you dont want to be her doctor. Just open with your usual banter and when she is biting, set the hook for a date then and do it with a genuinely attractive offer. Get some intel if you need it 'Im really flat out at work this week, too many new staff at the moment - how about you?' to gauge if she is still sick, busy, travelling etc and then get her laughing again. Then hit her with a fantastic offer for a date. Dont put it in her court, take the lead and say 'let's go out for a quick bite midweek, I know a great ____place with delicous food and it's really comfortable to chat.'. If she starts flaking or making excuses delete her from your phone and move onto the next girl online.

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    DublAK2 is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Re: Stopped texting mid convo. What did I do?

    I realized on my own that I'm not going to contact her today, but what do I do exactly tomorrow or Wednesday? More texts? Is manning up and calling her out of the question at this point? I used to think I was pretty good with girls naturally but I've been out of the game with a girlfriend for a while now.

    I've been reading some of the content on here to brush up. I won't ask how she is feeling anymore. But what about teasing her for being sick? In a few days I was thinking about texting her this "Hey miss mucinex, I had a thought." (miss=she used to do miss america qualifying pageants/mucinex=her drug of choice). It's teasing her followed by a cliffhanger as you folks call it, so hopefully she will want to respond out of curiosity. From there I would just ask her out in the funnest way I can conjure. Is that any good?

    I'm so confused because the first time she flaked was that moment I just described.

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    Default Re: Stopped texting mid convo. What did I do?

    Okay, sorry to be annoying. I'm just really into this chick so far.

    So it turns out I panicked a bit prematurely.

    This morning 2 texts from her:

    her: Hey you. I'm feeling better, how are you feeling?
    her: If you're free this week and feeling better maybe we could get together.

    I hate playing these mental games and stuff, but I'm remembering how necessary it all is. I'm going to wait a while to reply to this, the question now is how long and what to say?

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    Default Re: Stopped texting mid convo. What did I do?

    You dont need to wait unless there is a reason. Just calmly reply 'I am free ___ why don't we go and get a quick bite down at the docks? I can pick you up/meet you at 7'. Dont mention anything else.


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