Hi everyone: wanted to ask some PUA veterans to see if they can offer some advice about my situation. Here's the story with...lets call her Lisa.
Keep in mind I didn't start reading anything in these forums until after most of this went down.....
I run into a girl from highschool, lets just call her Lisa, single mom, and she's looking really good-really good. We had a drunken make out session about 10 years ago I should add so we do have a bit of history. We exchange pleasantries and she touches my arm and says its really nice seeing you.
So of course I friend her on facebook, and we exchange a few more pleasantries. I do the stupid thing a few nights later and drunk text her, ask her basically if she wants to screw, and she laughs it off but continues to trade text message back and forth. This is about 1am.
I then ask her if she wants to come over-she walks about 45 minutes across town to come and see me, we sit outside, have a beer, and immediately she starts complaining about her live in boyfriend who i had no idea she had. She says she is breaking up with him soon...i make a drunken stupid pass at the end when shes leaving and get shot down. of course being again not smart i apologize the next day.
over the course of the next few months we trade a couple text messages back and forth-nothing serious and I kind of put her out of mind. then last week she texts me and says can i come over and talk, i just broke up with my boyfriend and need to smoke a joint.
she comes over, we smoke one, talk for 10 minutes in her car, nothing happens, i dont want to creep her out and make any moves because she seems a little bit sad.
so over the last few days shes been texting me alot, back and forth.
i (stupidly) tell her, in kind of a joking way that i think im crushing on her, and she just LOLs and says "awww". 2 other things she has said is "the key in my life right now is take it slow" and also talking about how she would love to travel with me, and she is going to cook me dinner soon.
saturday i tell her we should get together over the weekend, she says yep we will. i send her another text on sunday morning just with something stupid, and she says yeah we will get together sometime this weekend-ill text you. havent heard back from her since then, although she is "liking" a few status messages i put up on facebook. i know she was home last night basically doing nothing but watching tv.
and am having a hard time stopping thinking about her-wondering if she will text
so, questions for the experts
-am i expecting way too much out of someone who just broke up a long term relationship
-is she using me as a potential post break up poodle
-did i blow it already by telling her somewhat jokingly i am crushing on her
-is she waiting to see if i will text her back first (i have made up my mind i wont)
-should i forget about this one?
I have been reading this forum today and got a lot of good advice and learned a few things. Need some perspective.
Thanks for any advice, feel free to ask any questions if blanks need to be filled in.